I often find myself wondering what does it really mean and require to commitment to someone, “Til death do [us] part”. Aside from the literal interpretation, along with my obvious plans to fulfill this obligation starting October 24th, I have to admit I feel a big lump forming in my throat whenever I ponder this question internally. As I’ve shared in the past, I come from a lineage (and existence) where marriage wasn’t/isn’t common. I’ve seen many relationships fade over the years and people re-marry as if the first time around was just a trial run. Still to this day, I find myself in awe every time I look down at my engagement ring. Not because my fiancé so graciously proposed with the rock I desired, but that there is another human being on this earth willing to commit to ME before God eternally. I find that gesture in and of itself amazingly beautiful as I recap all the reasons he could have and should have fled years ago. At 19 years old I my met my match, never realizing I was beginning a journey of everlasting love.
But the issue at hand has to do with my view on whether love and longevity truly correlate. I intentionally omitted marriage because the act itself stands on the foundation of permanence. Though I’ve never done it, I’ve always wanted to ask a divorcee (or divorce’) how they came to the conclusion that enough was enough and it was indeed time to move on with their life sans their spouse. Other than major offenses such as abuse or infidelity (and to my [limited] knowledge, the bible only addresses the latter), how does a couple, once blissfully in love, decide to call it quits – and for some, it seems, so easily? What is an example of an irreconcilable difference anyway?
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