ASK KAREEM: Do I Tell My Friend Her Boyfriend’s Gay?

Wow….there is some interesting point of views concerning the said topic. It blows my mind that people are so interested in what is going on with their friends,family, neighbors etc,(managing them)….that they forget what is going on with themselves. It is a fact proven by science that people’s fears,suspicions,hatreds,ism’s, all start from within. As a man or woman thinketh, so is he or she. What is self evident in this society that we call the United States, is that this society for the most part is experiencing homophobia. And quite honestly, dont know how to deal with it. Often individuals,groups, or entities, are quick to pass judgement on a person,people, places ,and things that they know little to nothing about. Where are the facts, or is this just how I feel. Facts would be people, places, dates etc…in other words hard core undeniable evidence, and/or without a shadow of a doubt..behaviour that is exemplified on a daily basis. For example: if a person,(who is considered a man by all reasonable bounds), comes into a social situation and makes a comment to the effect of “girl….let me tell you honey, you should move your car before it get towed, and/or where did you get your hair did and this is exemplified on a consistent basis….this is cause for a RED FLAG…….THIS SHOULD BE CHECKED INTO IMMEDIATELY. Because no real man would consider making a comment like that or going down that road of bulls**t and confusion. Quite often in this society loose behavior,irresponsible behaviour, and all kinds of mediocracy are considered the norm and accepted as funny, cool,the in thang and the like. While responsible behaviour and like is considered weak or indifferent. Hence the result of mediocracy and loose behaviour is that now, you have a physical man wanting to be and act out a feminine role, and a physical woman trying to become a man. In other words role reversal. Out of balance. Whatever one wants to call it. Yet that is not the problem, the problem is that this society accepts this s**t. and promotes it…..then turn around and complains that they cant find a significant other or life long mate. Lets think deeply about this brothers and sisters with all our high degrees and education(BS,MS, PH D) BS: Stands for Bull-s**t, MS: Stands for More-s**t, and PHD: Stands for Full-of-s**t. Why wont brothers and sisters admit that they are so concerned with and unsure with, their own sexuality that as a escape mechanism place their insecurities and issues on others around them in their environment. Example: is a woman a lesbian because she wears her hair short. Well, now, I guess that would include a lot of prominent and famous people. What about Halle Berry, she now wears her hair short. What about Angela Bassett, and countless others that you see on a day-to-day basis. Is a brother a homosexual because pink was found in his necktie. Or that the brother went to the spa and got a manicure. Where is the line drawn, because there a difference between being Gay and a Homosexual. The definition of the two terms is found later in the blog.

Lets go back for a minute and get some clarity on what it means to be responsible as a man and woman and all the things that come along with that. A responsible man starts by being able to take care of himself. He takes baths, he keeps his self in shape, he shaves and/or trims his facial hair and the like, he cutts his finger and toe nails, cleans out his ears, and nose hairs. He knows how to cook for himself, he wears clothes that fit him and/or is presentable…..and when it comes to relationships with a woman he can provide, he can maintain, he can protect, he can listen, he can assist, he can manage(himself,wife,children,extended family,friends,etc…..) this is a responsible man that performs these things on a consistent basis. As far as a woman is concerned, and I have received this from a women who is well-known and who is not homosexual to the best of my knowledge, says a responsible woman is one who takes baths,keeps her self in shape, KNOWS HOW TO COOK……….,KNOWS HOW TO CLEAN AND STAY CLEAN……….knows how to manage a house, knows how to conduct herself in front of her husband,family,children,guest, and society, loves her feminity..(WHICH MEANS THAT SHE DOES NOT NOR DESIRE TO BECOME AND ACT OUT A MAN’S ROLE,,,and loves to be a homemaker..and not someone who is in the street becoming a CLUBMAKER….. These are just a few tips to help brothers and sisters, bring clarity to what a man’s and woman’s role are. There should be no doubt after this. Because anything less than mentioned above means that there is much more growing and studying to be done. And there is nothing wrong with that as long as a person realizes that, then acts out on it to better themselves. Yet, lets not be hypocrtical, none of us were born with all the answers and made all the right decisions, its when we refuse to acknowledge and change that we stop our own divine fullfillment.

Ask yourself brother and sisters, does being clean-cutt, attractive responsible,refined,civil equate to one being a homosexual.I say homosexual, because by webster’s definition, that means having desire or affinity for the same sex. However, gay can be defined as one who is jubuliant or happy; it is often synomonous with affinity for the same sex. So again lets deal with facts and specifics. If you look at my pic that I have posted on BP, I have chosen a clean cutt pic. I can rest assure you, that I am not a homosexual,fag, or have thoughts of being with a man in an intimate setting. As a fact, I have more sex with beautiful women as a single man, than most people do married. Yet you do have your haters……….I dont understand why being refined,cultivated,on point,responsible, wearing clothes that fit ya and is accepted internationally is construed as Gay or Homosexual. Again a misnomer, or rhetoric of someone who is gravely misinformed,jealous, envious and like and just plain ignorant.

SHE SHOULD MIND HER BIZZINESS, WHERE IS HER MAN ?AND THE COMMENT ABOUT IF A LOT OF PEOPLE SAYS IT, IT MUST BE TRUE IS BULL,MAYBE DUDE IS JUST FEM DON’T MEAN HE’S GAY.FOR EXAMPLE, I WENT TO GET MY HAIR TWISTED AND THE GUY THAT WAS MY STYLIST WAS I THOUGHT GAY,HE WASN’T. HE WAS FEM ACTING BUT HAD A WIFE AND I THINK A COUPLE OF KIDS SO,IN CLOSING THAT WOMAN SHOULD MIND HER BIZZNESS.

if she ain’t a man and ain’t slept with him she don’t know ish!!!!!

AYO, I AM WIT P-CITY-MAMI 360%.
SHUT UP BEYUTCH!!!!!!

what about STD’s ???what about not jumping into bed before marriage?

No Proof = Shut Ur Mouth
You sound like a hater

DEPENDS HOW CLOSE THEY ARE AS FRIENDS…IF IT WAS MY BEST FRIEND I WOULDN’T HESITATE TO POINT IT OUT TO HER…AND LET HER MAKE HER OWN DECISION…I MEAN THE CHICK MUST BE BLIND OR DUMB TO HAVE NOT NOTICED BY NOW…I MEAN HOW DOES SHE KNOW HE’S NOT SLEEPING WITH MEN ON THE SIDE POSSIBLY NOT USING PROTECTION??
THEN AGAIN MAYBE THAT’S JUST HOW HE IS..IF HE WAS REALLY TRYING TO HIDE BEING GAY WHY WOULD HE ACT LIKE THAT? WHY WOULD HE BE SO OBVIOUS ABOUT IT??
MAYBE HE’S JUST A GOOF BALL
OH WELL..AS LONG AS SHE’S HAPPY…LET HER MAKE HER OWN MISTAKES AND LEARN FROM THE S**T

Whoever wrote the letter needs to get a man of her own. If she had a life she wouldn’t have time to be worried about someone else’s.

lmao@that dumb ass comment the realest left….so now it’s a fact that if you’re gay you automatically have aids? the ignorance in 2009 is at a all time high. And lmao@manwhich…that would actually be funny as hell to see her face if she walked in on one

@ the_realest2004, I’m sorry to say but that was an ignorant comment. I myself am heterosexual and know, that she has a higher chance of getting AIDs from a straight male then a gay male. I pray no one thinks that only gay men can spread AIDs. Get out of that little box of thingking because woman are getting AIDs from straight men.

Why are so many people acting like being gay is synonymous to having HIV/AIDS?

If your guy is gay- you know it- just ignoring it. Something happened at one time or other to let the thought go across your mind. If you see something to make a thought as serious as THAT go across your mind- its TRUE.