(From bettyconfidential.com)
When it comes to stroking a man’s (not so fast, lusty ladies) ego – what will really make him melt? Hint: it’s not his hair…unless he was on the receiving end of a Rogaine miracle.
Here are the top five qualities men really love to be complimented on:
1. His Smile / His Laugh
This was by far the most common answer from all the men we surveyed. Guys want reassurance that they make you happy – and there’s no better way to do that than by flattering their goofy grins and contagious laughs.
“Hearing how much someone loves my laugh, or my smile, or how funny they find me – these make my self-esteem swell, which is not to be undervalued because of my daily need for embarrassingly large doses of affirmation,” one guy told BettyConfidential.com
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2. His Skills on the Playing Field … or the Game Screen
Men are action-oriented creatures. Sitting down for a relationship “talk” is absolute torture for most guys, yet running around shooting paint at high velocity in attempt to cause pain and embarrassment is their idea of bliss. It may never add up to us, but we still need to praise their equation for fun.
Home in on a man’s hobby and find a very specific physical skill that warrants a compliment. Remember to be specific. Be. Specific. It’s not enough to say, “You’re so good at golf, honey.” Instead, compliment his chip shot … or you know, the length of his driver.
And don’t worry about whether his hobby is an officially sanctioned sport. I know several men who blush with glee when I mention how talented they are at picking players for Fantasy Baseball.
“I like being complimented on my Galaga skills, but maybe that’s just me,” one respondent said, proving that even 1980s-space ship-alien-arcade-game lovers need warm fuzzies.
3. His Doubts
Men try to put on a brave face and hide their inner fears, but just like us, guys come equipped with plenty of insecurities. So be a sweet self-esteem coach and prop him up on those touchy issues.
“The things I most like to be complimented on are my shoulders, my voice, my ‘junk,’ my smile and my intelligence,” one very honest man told Betty. “They’re all the things I’m most insecure about. Okay, I’m not insecure about my junk, it’s great. But definitely my shoulders, voice and smile.”
