Great tips….the SAME could be said for MEN, too……

right jazzwatch. let ‘em know…

i have no sympathy for a chick who ends up in a toxic relationship because her desperate ass just wanted a man…any man. lmao

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Great advice

Communication is the key. If you are calling a man your boyfriend, he should also be calling you his girlfriend- and not just in private- but in public in front of other people.

It seems to be common today that women claim men that do not claim them.

All great comments ABOVE me ;)……

Simply _Complex87, telling it like it tizz, just like you, H-O-T-T-I-E face ;)……and DLYAO…I told ya it might end up like Sarah Palin’s, but I warned ya :)….

Women Don’t know exactly what they won’t, but love is a strange thing. I think women are tired of men who don’t have any sense of humor. The reasons of my statements are only opinions. If you really want it go for it.

quick way to know is just say you want a relationship and watch the facial expression of the person……if they smile and it looks fake time to go…..

if they take awhile to say yes…..dont do it….put a mothafuka on the spot and watch them shimmy and shake and you will see the signs immediatly……dont do it ove rthe phone dummy…..do it standing in front of him…

This entire article seems to advocate/promote just “fooling around” and that is one of society’s failings. What ever happened to morals and values as well as self-dignity? A sense of belonging is a powerful feeling, one that many people seem to be afraid of because they mistakenly believe it will restrict their individuality. The pool of eligible men isn’t as large as people want to claim, not after you rule out the thug/gangsta types that can’t seem to grow up, the ones with criminal backgrounds or drug/alcohol habits, those with abusive tendencies due to their own lack of self-esteem or over inflated egos, the “mama’s boys” that won’t cut the umbilical cord and the ones that have no ambition and no hope and so are forever broke and unemployed and see nothing wrong with a woman taking care of their lazy butts. Sure all of those need to be weeded out, but you can spot them a mile away.

Men far more often think that an exclusive relationship only goes one way; that the woman should only see him but he is free to see others. Of course this goes in line with the perpetual patriarchal mindset that will never be shattered no matter how much equality women ever have nor what achievements women make.

If one takes too much time trying to figure out if the person is “the one” it also allows for time to find or more likely fabricate short-comings in the person which usually mean short-comings within self. It also gives the impression that we are “comparison shopping” as if a person to have a relationship with is nothing more than merchandise.

So it’s GOOD to be patient-to a point…..making sure that ONE is right for YOU, but then if you take one person’s kindness for a weakness, and played them without giving up the PUM PUM, then your realitonship with that mate is DONE DONE……

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Finally, a well written love advice article. And its written by a woman to women (well, I assume its a woman, lol). I want to see this article put in a plaque somewhere. When I try to explain these concepts, some women assume I’m trying to be a player or not wanting commitment, etc. But that’s not even the case. There are things I’m silently looking for that takes time. And there are things women look for that should take time. But if you are ready after 3 dates over 2 weeks to lock everything down, yet I want to take 4 to 6 months, why get mad at a brotha? Enjoy the moments. Believe me, the rare women who learns to relax and enjoy the moments will get a brotha’s top attention when he’s ready.

Dating is ACTING. You are actually with that person’s representative until at least six months into the situation.

http://www.isaiahtellsdatruth.com

Those warning signs are red flags!

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Getting to know one another cool, but dating is scary for those who don’t date, take it slow, good tips….

Good article..BUT…Although I feel that from experience, some guys(since this article is greared toward females) idea of fun is not constantly going out on dates only. Lets be realistic here, at some point(more sooner than later) SOME are expecting some sort of sexual encounter. When it’s made understood that sex is a part of “exclusive dating” only as a rule of MINE…they are like…where is the FUN in that?! SOME want to take the DATING thing slow but they are ready for the SEXUAL part within a few dates. One commenter stated that he may need a couple of months to become exclusive but is that WITHOUT sex? The real deal is with some women, sex is an emotional thing and as long as you dont add it to the equation, the “dating” thing will be exactly that. With SOME women, sex becomes that emotional linkage that some guys are not ready for although they want the sex part. Basically, dating is a catch 22 and it’s up to each individual to make sure both are on the same page.

Author, Brandirenee…

What is up with the recycled article?

It was bullshyt in February, March and it’s still bullshyt in April. Hell, it will even be bullshyt next month May.

Please be creative…

@soultry-soul….OK its not just me wondering if I read this crap before.

@NolaJAE, you’re def right about that.

i need a job with this site,,,90% of women dont look for a man..most of us has lives men are usually the icing of the cake.
we understand relationship is important but we dont need another child,nor another unwanted problem. we always take it slow…

I have to agree with ‘don’t ignore warning signs”, and for God sakes ladies please don’t ever think you can ‘change’ him….lol..Let the trash go when you smell the stench…

@NolaJAE,I definitely agree with you…sex is a big game changer and its up to a woman to set those boundaries and stick to them

@jan457boo I have to disagree. 90% is a bit much. Women are human and humans need companionship…women go about finding companionship somewhat different than men do. And we’re more inclined to want a commitment and NOT so inclined to take it slow. That’s why articles like this exist to speak to the majority of us (I KNOW it applies to me). So if you are in that group of women who do take things slow and are well-rounded then congrats, but I do think most women need that advice not to dash to the finish line in search of a wedding ring or commitment.

been dating this guy for a year i got sick he wasnt there for me ,he wasnt there for me in everything i went through then i got pregnant like he’s been asking me to do but he just left me , i ignored the signs but i still think i deserve better

@lynndee
If he was never there for you in everything that concerned you, why have a baby with him?

reason number one is because they are more emotional and once their mind is set in revenge mode you will never know when she loving you are she just watching you…

old azz thread anyways..

Interesting, but with flaws. First, the same “rules” that apply to women should also apply to men. Second, men are too quick to declare possession of a woman when he’s got multiple women and expects each woman to be exclusively his while he is nothing more than the village ‘ho. Third, women who casually date are spoken about in negative terms so the double standard remains.

SMH… Yes… I Completely agree with this article. It’s so true and humbly speaking I always deal with this situation and then the woman tries to call me out saying i’m selfish and only thinking about myself. I know I have alot of things goin for myself and am doing alot in life and I really am a good dude. I feel bad at times though, you let them know you are not looking for anyone but yet they keep asking when do you think you would be ready for a relationship. That alone throws off the entire flow and friendship, if its meant to be then it will happen. Its the same with young women and older women that I have dealt with. Some can get really crazy and attached but older women are sometimes better dealing with it. But sometimes the minute you kiss or have sex with that person. S**t change, lol. Many guys know this and its a crazy situation…. But when I met the girl that I have been dealing with for 3 years now, we were just friends and nobody even mentioned a relationship or anything. We just spent time chillin with each other and it just happened, and to this day we are both very happy and together.

Don’t go for the money , looks or something you can get from them and toss them like garbage…..go for what’s in the heart and MIND, because all UGMOS are not monsters and all Handsome guys are not HOTTIES…….

Great article. I finally agree with an article on HB. lol!!!

Ditto what Jauharah said. Good addition to this post.

Hmmm…I agree that the article tries to shed some positive light on todays dating hazards…and Jazzwatch, your words can apply to men as well as to women. You rarely see women praised for anything other than their bodies/beauty/or booty, these days…but few men remember to appreciate women who are not all exceptionally physically attractive, and instead downgrade women by “rating and complimenting our body parts”, verbally downgrade us by using words like “MILF”, “ButtaFace”, B***h, Golddigger, Chickenhead, HoodRat, JumpOff, SidePiece, Friend w/benefits, etc…and other insulting terms that men would hate to see applied to themselves, in reverse. How about if women openly described men in such a dismissive manner: Calling men demeaning terms like: Oh, he’s an OverEater, he’s a Game Addict, He’s a WomenBeater, a Tax Evader, A Deadbeat Dad, A Serial Cheater, A Net Porn Addict, A Minuteman BedRoom Bandit, Has No BedRoom Skills, He’s Messy, or Lazy or Selfish in Bed, He’s A Legend in His Own Mind, He likes Viagra, He’s a bad credit Bandit, He ducks Paying his Bills…etc, etc…you get the picture? We can all benefit from being a bit more considerate and kind to each other, thats for sure!

There are some of flaws in this article, If any of this true, then why are so many women married? I personally feel that a lot of men and women (from my experience, seen directly as well as indirectly) play games. The only “rule” I agree with is don’t ignore warning signs.

you should make an article like this about men too

Great article, and so true… It’s great to just relax and enjoy the company of the person you’re with, instead of always trying to put a label on something when you barely know the person.. Classic089 you got it right.

If you give it that little bit of extra time, you might realize that not everyone you go out with or talk to deserves that label anyway.

women seriously need to slow the hell down. They just roll from d1ck to d1ck, with no break, nowadays. They don’t take time to know anyone, no even themselves. A guy is considered a continuation of the last guy, to these broads, it’s disgusting. This is why these keep dating the same type of guy, over and over, and no matter how many men they rotate in and out, it’s like 1 long relationship to these broken women. SLOW DOWN!

This is soooo true, I have lived my life by the above tips and experienced less heartache for it!

GOD WILL ALWAYS CURSE THE DEVIL.

Celibacy

In 2011: Does She Have To Give It Up?

CELIBACY MY SWEET BLACK
ROYAL BEHIND

THEY JUST WANT FOR YOU BLACK MEN TO THINK THAT THEIR
UNHEALTHY NO GOOD SEX IS GOOD WHEN IT PROBABLY AIN’T NO GOOD AND THEN
THEY WILL ALWAYS WANT FOR YA’LL TO THINK THAT THEY ARE GOOD WOMEN WHEN
THEY ARE NOT GOOD WOMEN (in all in the game called could i get him to
believe that i am a good woman) THAT IS ABOUT ONE OF THE MAIN REASONS
WHY THEY DON’T HAVE A MAN ANYWAY (in other words they are full of lies
and tricks) THEY ARE NOTHING BUT,SOME LYING GOLD DIGGING MONEY HUNGRY
HOES (meaning that they are no better then those other women out their).

Sexual

Chocolate: Black Men That White Women Love

WHAT REALLY MAKES
THOSE OTHER RACE OF WOMEN UNATTRACTIVE IS THEIR HATRED AND JEALOUSY
TOWARDS THOSE BLACK WOMEN AND THE WAY THAT THEY CARRY THEMSELVES AS
BEING THOSE FLEA BITTEN PARASITE,HERPES AND HIV/AIDS CARRYING DOGS AND
SKUNK SMELLING ANIMALS THAT THEY TRULY ARE.

YOU FILTHY DOG
SMELLING WHITE/FOREIGN WOMEN CARRY THOSE MICRO WORMS INSIDE OF YA’LLS
CONTAGIOUS BLOOD CELLS BOOTY HOLES.

THOSE FILTHY FLEA BITTEN
HIV/AIDS CARRYING WHITE WOMEN ARE EVIL.

THOSE OTHER RACE OF
FILTHY DOG SMELLING WOMEN ARE NOTHING BUT,SOME TROUBLE MAKERS AND
PROBLEM CAUSERS TO YOU BLACK RACE OF PEOPLE.

THOSE FILTHY
WHITE/FOREIGN WOMEN ALWAYS HAVE BEEN JEALOUS OF THE BLACK RACE OF WOMEN
BECAUSE THEY KNEW THAT THOSE BLACK WOMEN HAVE THE BETTER MEN IN THE
WHOLE WIDE WORLD BECAUSE YOU BLACK MEN HAVE POWER THAT YA’LL DIDN’T KNOW
THAT YA’LL HAD BUT,THOSE FOREIGNERS AND THOSE WHITE PEOPLE KNEW ABOUT
IT THOUGH BUT,THEY WASN’T EVER GOING TO TELL YOU BLACK MEN THAT BECAUSE
THOSE WICKED LYING DEVILS WANTED TO KEEP YA’LL FROM SEEING GOD LIGHT OF
TRUTH.

THOSE OTHER RACE OF PEOPLE MOTIVE WERE TO TRY AND DRAG YOU
BLACK MEN THROUGH THE DIRT SO,TO NOT EVER ALLOW FOR YA’LL TO CLIMB TO
THE TOP OF THE WORLD ABOVE THEM AND THEY HAD EVEN TRICKED SOME OF YA’LLS
BLACK WOMEN TO HELP THEM OUT IN DOING IT ALSO BUT,I DON’T UNDERSTAND
WHY WOULD THOSE LOW DOWN AND DIRTY BLACK WOMEN WOULD DO YA’LL THAT WAY
AS YA’LL BEING THE ONLY RACE OF BLACK MEN THAT WE HAVE AS BEING BLACK
WOMEN (those other race of people were actually making fools out of
those black women) THEY HAD ACTUALLY TURNED YA’LLS RACE OF BLACK WOMEN
AGAINST YA’LL

THOSE OTHER RACE OF STUPID PEOPLE CAN NOT MAKE A
FOOL OUT OF ME BECAUSE I AM NOT A DUMMY OR AN IDIOT FOR ANYONE (in other
words stop being those other race of people flunkies) WAKE UP SO,TO
RISE UP AND WISE UP

THIS IS WHAT YOU CALL SETTING THE RECORD
STRAIGHT.

WE AS BLACK PEOPLE DO NOT WANT TO COME TOGETHER WITH
YOU FILTHY RACIST STUPID TROUBLE MAKING PROBLEM CAUSING WHITE HEATHENS
BECAUSE ALL THAT YOU WHITE PEOPLE KNOW HOW TO DO TO US AS BLACK PEOPLE
IS TRY AND MAKE FOOLS OUT OF US BY TRYING TO TURN US AGAINST EACH OTHER
FOR YA’LL….YOU WHITE PEOPLE AND YOU FOREIGN PEOPLE LIKE FOR US BLACK
PEOPLE TO GO AROUND HATING ON EACH OTHER.

YOU FILTHY INFECTIOUS
VIRUS AND DISEASE CARRYING AND PASSING WHITE WOMEN BE TRICKING THESE
BLACK MEN INTO GIVING YA’LL THEIR MONEY INSTEAD OF THEM SHARING THEIR
MONEY WITH THOSE BLACK WOMEN BECAUSE YOU STUPID WHITE WOMEN WANT TO TRY
AND GET RICH OFF OF THIS BLACK MEN WHO HAS MONEY SO,TO KEEP YA’LLS RACE
OF WHITE PEOPLE WITH MONEY.

YOU FILTHY FLEA BITTEN WHITE WOMEN
WANTED FOR THESE BLACK MEN TO TREAT YA’LL BETTER AND RESPECT YA’LL
BETTER THEN THEY WILL DO THEIR OWN BLACK WOMEN….YOU BIG PEN!S LOOKING
AROUND FOR DOG SMELLING LYING WHITE WOMEN JUST WANTED TO COME BETWEEN
THOSE BLACK MEN AND THEIR BLACK WOMEN SO,TO CAUSE THEM PROBLEMS IN THEIR
RACE OF BLACK PEOPLE.

YOU STUPID WHITE WOMEN WERE HAVING THOSE
BABIES BY THOSE BLACK MEN AND WAS TRYING TO TRICK THOSE BLACK MEN INTO
BELIEVING THAT THOSE BABIES WERE BLACK BABIES BUT,THEY WEREN’T THEY ARE
ANOTHER RACE OF PEOPLE WHICH IS CALLED “MALADO” BECAUSE ONLY BLACK CAN
MAKE BLACK….YOU STUPID WHITE WOMEN WERE TRYING TO CHANGE THE ORIGINAL
BLACK MAN AND THE ORIGINAL BLACK WOMAN BY TRYING TO CALL YA’LLS
MIXED/BIRACIAL BLACK KIDS WHEN ALL OF THE TIME THEY WERE ANOTHER RACE OF
PEOPLE WHICH IS CALLED “MALADO” AND NOT BLACK.

YOU WHITE WOMEN
HAVE ALWAYS BEEN JEALOUS OF THESE BLACK WOMEN BECAUSE OF THEIR DARK SKIN
COMPLEXION (in other words you white women wanted to be those black
women but,ya’ll couldn’t so,therefore ya’lls low down and trickish
behinds started getting pregnant by those black men to try and make
ya’ll some black babies but,ya’ll couldn’t because only black can make
black) YA’LLS BABIES ARE WHITE

YOU STUPID LYING WHITE WOMEN WERE
ALSO TRYING TO TRICK THESE BLACK MEN INTO BELIEVING THAT YA’LL WERE NOT
ANY GOLD DIGGERS LIKE THOSE BLACK WOMEN WERE BUT,YA’LL ARE GOLD DIGGERS
TO THOSE BLACK MEN JUST AS WELL AS YA’LL ARE GRAVE DIGGERS TO THOSE
BLACK MEN.

YOU STUPID FILTHY WHITE WOMEN WANTED FOR THOSE BLACK
MEN TO LEAVE YA’LL MONEY JUST IN CASE THEY HAD HAPPEN TO PASS AWAY
SO,THAT YA’LLS RACE OF WHITE PEOPLE WON’T EVER GO BROKE.

YOU
STUPID RACIST LYING WHITE PEOPLE WILL TRICK THESE BLACK MEN OUT THEIR
RICHES/MILLIONS JUST TO KEEP YA’LLS WHITE RACE OF PEOPLE WITH MONEY.

YOU

WHITE PEOPLE ARE NOTHING BUT,A BUNCH OF BLACK RACE HATING ON LYING
HEATHENS.

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I think this article is good for someone looking for a casual relationship or to hook up. Men already know if they want a committed relationship or a fling. You can spend all the time in the world with him but if he doesn’t want to commit then he isn’t going to do it. I think first and foremost the woman should know what she wants and then choose a mate who wants the same thing. Why spend years trying to “change” someone when they are letting you know from day one that they don’t want marriage or commitment? This is how women end up pressuring men into marriage and kids and he goes for it but it really wasn’t what he wanted? What happens? They end up getting a divorce. If you want to sleep around then find a man who wants the same. If you want husband material then you better choose a man who already knows what he wants. If he says he doesn’t want to get married or have kids please don’t think that you are going to change his mind. Example if I know I want to buy a black pair of high heels then I’m not going to try on a flip flop, a sneaker and a boot hoping that it will look like a black pair of high heels.

Yeah people period should slow down dating…(women aren’t the only ones in a rush!).  It usually takes a couple months for the REAL person to appear and thats the sucker or suckerette you have to be sure you want to deal with….

But it doesn’t take me forever to know if someone is wasting my time, and at my age, (32), there are no 3 strikes and I NEVER get caught up in that ‘maybe he’ll change’ BS either….a red flag is what it is…

When you’re friends and you grow into lovers, the sex is much better and the relationship can endure the hard times a lot better than when you’re lovers first and friends second.

I like the article, but I agree with the other comment, if women are to be told to slow down with declaring the guy as “their man”, then the men should slow down with wanting to have “sex”….i like to talk this out in the beginning. if the guy gives me hell for it, then he wasnt meant to be, if he’s cool with it, then good, we can go on dates….sometimes i even tell the guy that if he needs sex like that, he’s more than welcome to hae sex with other women…i mean, he’s NOT my man, we’re just dating so i can’t get mad if he’s intimate with other women

‎”Serial monogamy seems to be the goal for quite a few women. If a woman’s goal is to have sex in a committed relationship then chances are she will never find the man for her  She  will be seeking a man  to have sex with -which ironically  means many women have the same goal as men – except the conditions are different lol

Perfect advice………..

Relationships are grown over time., nurtured by speech and hardened through trials.  Women are totally unrealistic at times and have a hard time dealing with the stark realities of life.  As much as you would like to think that that man is conversing with you for your awesome wit and intellect the more than likely scenario is that this is not the bloody case.  Men want to be physical, get over the idea that he wants anything else. Initially!

For a man to enter into a relationship he will need time to adjust to having you in his world.  Too often women rush to try to integrate the man into their world, but it simply does not work that way.  At least in my experience its the woman who is less compulsive and gives time for me to appreciate her that I want to keep. Not the one constantly nagging me.

The sexual component simply is what it is, nowadays since very few can claim chastity the cat is out of the bag.  Women want it as much as men do it’s human nature and men know it – seriously this ain’t the 80′s.  Do men even survey how many men you been with anymore?  Probably not, because we know the deal.  Best bet is to separate the fantasy from fiction. Sex does not equal a relationship here in 2011.  I take that back, it equals a friendship, nothing more.  Point 5 is the truth – heed it.

Also… If youre truly interested in the long term DONT sex him straight away… Save something.. Whats between your leggs is very powerful. If he likes everything else about you, sex becomes the easy part and once you do have sex it’s like the “tie that binds” If a guy is just there for sex and you wait, he wont be there for long

Unless she’s getting FREAKY with them, then it MIGHT be news…..no different than OTHERS out there roomating, IJS……

Unless she’s getting FREAKY with them, then it MIGHT be news…..no different than OTHERS out there roomating, IJS……

Unless she’s getting FREAKY with them, then it MIGHT be news…..no different than OTHERS out there roomating, IJS……

somebody gone be hittin that soon

cause she’s a freak!!!

Well, her mama slurped up Glen Rice back in the day. We know she’s a little chubby hot ass. Maybe she’s down with the swirl, too…

I’m guessing they are all friends I know plenty of women who move in with guy friends instead of girls.

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