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Robert Rabbit

Source: Lelo Ina 2, ToyClosetNYC.com

“It all started easy. I took a trip to an adult novelty store and after deliberation, I bought my first vibrator. I bought my rabbit with the intention of taking the edge off on those long and lonely nights, but playing with Roger soon became my favorite pastime. Before I knew it, I was addicted!  I would even blow off my friends on Saturday nights so I could spend quality time with Roger Rabbit.  I had it bad! I found it hard to achieve orgasm before Roger and now I can’t finish without him.  It all started so innocently and now I’m an addict.”

Roger or any other vibrator cannot replace human contact and interaction.  He won’t wish you a Happy Birthday, keep you warm on cold nights, or offer lifelong companionship. But, Roger can offer that first orgasm for a woman who finds it hard to achieve a solo climax, offer new pleasure to a single woman looking to take the edge off or spice up any union.

With the huge selection of toy options to choose from, it is easy to see them as a threat instead of a valuable aid. If your Rabbit has reached addiction status, share it with your partner. Make your partner the voyeur in your naughty peep show. Tell them that if they pay close attention, there might even be a hands-on final exam.

If you eat strawberry ice cream every night to tame your sweet tooth, soon you’ll only be able to scratch that itch with strawberry ice cream; strawberry sorbet would probably be a disappointment.  The same is true with your body.  If you train your body to only achieve pleasure from the stimulation of a vibe, then it will be harder to reach your peak without it, but not impossible.

So, don’t look at vibrators as a means to an end. Whether attached or solo, make the vibe a part of your repertoire instead of a mandatory aid. Get to know your body and how it reacts to stimulation with and without a vibe. This is the only way you’ll truly be able to understand and convey what turns you on. Instead of focusing on the stimulation you think you have grown dependent on, use that new sensation to amplify your solo or couple sessions.

Men are not genetically equipped with rows of stimulating beads, bendable or thrusting shafts, nor clitoral stimulators, although, that would be a novel innovation.

Any expectation of a similar sensation from a human is unfair. Instead appreciate the sensation that you obtain from your vibe without allowing it to ruin the way your partner stimulates you. Sensation comes in varying measures of pleasure. Learn to appreciate them all. Allow and encourage your partner to stimulate you in ways that humanly mimic the way the vibe does. If it’s the simultaneous stimulation you receive from the Rabbit’s clitoral and internal stimulation, then tell your partner to learn to multi-task.

If you prefer the fact the Roger goes on and on like the energizer bunny, work on ways to extend your sessions in the sack. If you find your real life Roger getting over excited, change positions and allow him time to cool down so he can continue. You’d be surprised how easy it will become to be as aroused by your man as you are by your Rabbit.

Once you train your body to achieve orgasm, it is easier to have orgasms and even multiple orgasms.  To that end, a vibe should help and not hinder a relationship. Go to your local adult toy store or favorite online boutique and pick out a good couples’ vibe. Consider picking up a remote control bullet. The next time you and your beau are headed out for a romantic evening, simply give him the remote and wink. Relinquishing control of your pleasure to your partner in a public place will prove extremely erotic.

Alternatively, put a ring on it literally. Cock rings literally turn a man into a vibrator, so while enjoying intercourse you’ll also delight in the clitoral vibration. Best of all, cock rings are made to both extend his erection and make for a firmer erection. So, it’s a win for everyone.

Can you become dependent on the sensations that a vibe can provide?  Absolutely!  That is why one must first realize that like snowflakes, no two orgasms are alike.  So, don’t expect to achieve identical stimulation from a man, instead expect and teach him how to properly stimulate you to comparable satisfaction.  Vibrators and bedroom accessories should enhance relationships, not ruin them.

Try a couples’ vibe, invite your partner to watch you, or even let him use your vibrator on you.

Happy Vibing!

Janine Breland is the owner of The Toy Closet, Inc.; an online exotic luxury boutique, a lifestyle writer and relationship expert. From the first woman who confided intimate details about her sex life, to the many men that have asked for tips and advice, she has encountered thousands of satisfied clients along her journey that began almost a decade ago. 

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