Because the economy ain’t sh*t, I ended up working as a Bridal Consultant–a fancy term used for people who sling wedding gowns to bright-eyed and delusional brides. A few months into this job, I was slapped with the harsh reality that weddings are the equivalent to manufactured holidays like Valentine’s Day–placing price tags on pretty things to prove your love to someone else.
I had a lot of time to insert myself in one of the most important times of a woman’s life–her wedding. There was always trust and they’d share their plans–some so lavish, I couldn’t believe they’d only wear the dress once even though I knew that was the way it went. The amount of time, energy and money that’s placed on a day is insane once you look at it on paper. The receipts add up and you see women trying to compete with Kim Kardashian’s sponsored soiree. But for the weddings that were thoughtful and intimate, it reminded me of why they wanted to do it in the first place. It was simple enough to see the bond clearly. That’s the kind I want now–which is essentially a plan lol, but not quite the same production. I still want to be treated like a princess on that special day, but I’ve just let go of the over-the-top Disney princess plan.
You’d think that with the history of marriage and current divorce rates that women would realize marriage is not a real life Lifetime movie. Some would argue that if you’re in a fulfilled relationship and you really love each other why not take it to the next level? I think in a lot of ways it’s a security thing for women, and also because women still tend to be romantic and dream of living happily ever after.
I would like to get married one day but I’m not going out of my way to try and find a guy to marry, or obsess over it on Pinterest/Facebook.
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Celebs Tweet Their Thoughts About #JusticeForSandraBland
1. Jesse Williams
#SandraBland's treatment while attempting to travel freely on HER public roadways has been acknowledged as unlawful. She is already dead.
2. Taraji P. Henson
"SAY HER NAME #SandraBland"
3. Ava DuVernay
"'Why are you arresting me?' Because you know your rights. Because I can. Because no one'll believe you. #SandraBland"
4. Kim Kardashian
#WhatHappenedToSandraBland We need answers!!!! This is NOT ok! This is all shady! They need to own up to this & tell the truth!
5. Jussie Smollet
"A loss 4 words. #SandraBlandMatters #BlackLivesMatter 👈🏿tell me this should change once the nation shows that we do. "
6. Snoop Dogg
🙏🌹. Sandra. Rip. 🌹🌹
7. K. Michelle
R.I.P to this queen. This could've been any of us. My prayers go out to her family. #sandrabland https://instagram.com/p/5fvlO_AhCf/
8. Gabrielle Union
SAY HER NAME!!! #SandraBland #SandraBland #SandraBland #SayHerName
"We must get to the cause of #sandrabland death because this CANNOT happen again #deathorfreedom"
10. David Banner
"When will we fight back. A man's duty on earth is to protect women and children. Where are the gangsters? Preachers? We need you. Please."
11. Nicki Minaj
"Rest In Peace #SandraBland"
12. Talib Kweli
"We the people ask @LorettaLynch to investigate #SandraBland #KimberleeRandleKing RETWEET "
Signs. Signs. Signs all around us. The Message is Here. #SandraBland
14. Missy Elliot
"When I look at the #SandraBland traffic video it brings so many emotions😳😢😡😡😤!"
15. Jessie J
"God bless your soul Sandra | #sandrabland | Change needs to come |Justice needs to be served | Heart… https://instagram.com/p/5fV79mQ0aw/ "
16. Jackee Harry
"It's time y'all, it's time.." #SandraBland #BlackLivesMatter
"In memory of #SandraBland these things don't make no kinda sense "
18. Holly Robinson Peete
I really don't look forward to having ANOTHER difficult conversation w my kids tonight...but here we go again😧💔 #SandraBland #SayHerName 😢
19. Jeffrey White
Sadly, doesn't matter by whose hand she died. Unjustified arrested set the outcome in motion. The state murdered her. #JusticeForSandraBland
Sandra could have been your mother, sister, aunt, friend or if she wasn't killed the community outreach advisor A&M. #SandraBland
21. Joan Smalls
"My heart is broken. Sending my deepest condolence to her family and friends. May you find Strength, Peace and Justice. When will this stop? #EqualityForAll #RIP #Why #SayHerName
22. Gladys Knight
Sandra Bland.... #SayHerName #SandraBland
23. Cara Delevigne
Things need to change NOW #SANDRABLAND #Justice #Equality
24. Meek Mill
"Rip to that young lady that lost her life about a traffic stop! 🙏 ima make sure I pray for her and her family! 🙏😄😄😄"