Let's throw this whole tired narrative around Black women not going down on their men in the trash.

Sex & Relationships

Prepare for what you truly sign up for when you suggest or decide to be party to a threesome.


  I get three separate reactions whenever I admit my aversion to talking about my sex life. The first is that my “shyness” or embarrassment is cute, and I get that “Aww, sweetie!” coddling. Second, which is a rarity, but has happened; I get the “Girl, me too. People don’t need to know about my […]

The word ‘anal” has a few different meanings but even just the word alone is enough to make my ass cheeks clench together super tight. From the moment I even heard about anal sex in elementary school, I know that sh*t wasn’t for me. I remember thinking, “Why would someone want to stick their dick […]

We’ve all heard of aphrodisiacs before–it’s anything you can consume that will heighten your sexual desire. For most of us, that something is alcohol. While there’s nothing wrong with a little liquid courage, or imbibing for lowered inhibitions, just know that cocktails add empty calories to your waistline and ain’t nobody got time for that! […]

The Nigerian Senate has recently decided that young girls who are actually developed, even if they’re under 10, can be married as long as their parents and potential husbands are fine with the child being married. It’s being reported that Nigeria’s upper chamber had reached a resolution to alter Section 29 (a) of the proposed […]

Back when I was in junior high school, my friends and I would sit in the yard during lunch time and discuss (don’t tell me mom) sex! We were 13, some of us 14, sharing overheard stories we ear hustled from our older sisters who actually did the dirty deed and lived to talk about […]

Six legs wrapped around each other, six hands exploring each others every body part–and three tongues making the laps around three warm bodies. What’s this a recipe for? Oh, just your average threesome. Intimidating for most, but stimulating for others–threesomes bring excitement into the bedroom, no matter who you ask. Must Read: Is Joseline Of […]

On any given New York City night, I may join a couple of girlfriends for after-work drinks. After we lament, for an hour or so, about our jobs, how “busy” we are, our self-maintenance and various wish-lists, inevitably we end up talking about boys, and not long after we’ve started talking about boys, we start […]

Not every woman (or man) that holds on to their virginity is socially challenged, unattractive or otherwise doomed to never be kissed. Many women that hold on to their flowers are great catches that aren’t necessarily waiting on their husbands, they’ve just chosen to keep their legs closed until they feel ready. Such is the […]


It always sounds like such a good idea. A romantic candlelit evening, mood music, perhaps even, a little strip tease–all while wearing the sexiest lingerie money can buy. You’re imagining the night will end in a night full of passion and pleasure, and, of course, a bit gratitude from the lucky man who gets to […]