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We’ve all heard the story about the abuse Halle has gone through in a previous relationship, but now the Oscar-winning actress has decided to speak on the abuse that she saw her mother and older sister go through as a child.

Halle has never spoken publicly about the beatings her mother recieved by her father, Jerome Jesse Berry, who left her family in Cleveland, Ohio, when she was four. But she has said a boyfriend once hit her so hard she is still largely deaf in her left ear. The 43-year-old actress has been a low-key volunteer on the night shift at the Jenesse centre in Los Angeles for years but has only now chosen to reveal this part of her life, discussing for the first time how her father beat her mother and how she escaped her own abusive relationships.

According to timesonlinecom, Berry said she and her elder sister, Heidi, were still recovering from witnessing the violence inflicted on their mother, Judith, a retired nurse who was born in Liverpool:

“I saw my mother battered, and could not do anything to stop it,” she said. “My father was tyrannical, lashing out at her for no reason. I felt the effects that had on our family — I’ve experienced what these women have gone through.”

She said her mother was still working out why she took it for so many years. “That is a deep question, and I am not sure she will ever come up with one answer. I have one answer to anyone in a similar situation — get out.”

Berry never forgave her father, a hospital porter, even as he lay dying with Parkinson’s disease in 2003. He sold his account of their estrangement to a tabloid “for a pack of beer and cigarettes,” Berry said.

She wondered if her parents’ relationship had affected her past romances.

She said: “I never had to run to a shelter, but I did choose the wrong partners. Not always good men. Luckily, in recent years, I have been smart enough to hit the door when violence even becomes a possibility. That is something I will not tolerate.”

After two failed marriages, Halle is now settled with her boyfriend,Versace model Gabriel Aubry, and their 20-month-old baby girl, Nahla.

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DARKMYSTIC1/ DARKMYSTIC1

    I LOVE THIS CUTE LITTLE BROWN LADY SHE’S ALWAYS GONNA HAVE HATERS SHE’S CUTE AND HAVE CLASS AND STYLE, SHE’S A FINE A FOXY LADY. SO KEEP HATING WHILE SHE KEEPS ON BLAZING, HATE ON HATERS, YES HER DAM EX TOO PLAYER HATING ASS WIMP. KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF ALL NUBIAN REAL QUEENS NOT THE GAY ONES,ITS THE DAM POWERFUL BEAUTIFUL BLACK WOMEN I AM TALKING ABOUT BYE BYE HATERS,, HAHA

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/manofsteel35/ manofsteel35

    Domestic violence is totally wrong…but there is always another side to each story. She’s had 2 failed marriages.., and word on the street is that little Ms. Berry has gotten around quite a bit! Maybe her lifestyle contributed to some of this!?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Michael6ft7/ Michael6ft7

    More subversive black male-bashing. You are an evil bigot. How can you and your staff sleep at night? You’re all completely morally bankrupt.This site should be used to uplift our community and showcase the positives in our culture yet time and time again you use this medium as a way to slowly attempt to covertly and blatantly erode our esteem and spew your own close-minded dribble. You people make this world a worse place by being in it.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Faithful_and_Favored/ Faithful_and_Favored

    She spoke on this right after her and Wesley Snipes broke up and she acknowledged that he beat on her. Bringing back a goldie from the oldie eh HB?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/courtneyR/ courtneyR

    Halle spoke about her father being abusive to her mother and her own abusive relationships with men years ago.Like,a long time ago.She never named who it was that hit her but did allude that it was someone we all heard of.Be happy for Ms.Berry.She seems as if she has found happiness.Nobody knows the hardships people go through to make them who they are.If shes happy,be happy for her.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Candyboxxx/ Candyboxxx

    I really hope no one takes this article as a form of bashing black men. It would be a shame not to consider it for what it is; about a woman’s witness to her own mother being abused by a man and how that abuse shaped her own relationships with men.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/cws812je/ cws812je

    The most alluring thing about finding oneself in the worst of times..captivating what speak in tongues ..w/no voice..just the breathe of letting go…when the wind grabbed ahold forcibly..stiking blows..killing what’s soft..wanting 2 control what can’t strike back..BUT..what
    never got the chance..to ruin love one mo’time..what looks good..when it comes from birth..multicultural..a taste of 2 worlds is rewarded…there is no difference of opinion..smoothe winds ..letting it all out..the refreshing drink..cling..a toast..2..the air we clear..after the war is over…Loveya sistah ..HALLEY….MUAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/TakenStepsForward/ TakenStepsForward

    I kinda figured that but all is well now!! She’s doing fine and she’s happy now! She’s beautiful, her daughters adorable and her fiance is a hunk!! lmao

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/moniQTee/ moniQTee

    @Dark.. you little instigator!!! NOBODY hates on HALLE.. NO ONE, where do you get that from? Why are Black men like you always trying to demonize the FULL Black woman? What the fuk is wrong with you?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jaywoo22/ jaywoo22

    westley snipes did that to her ear

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/moniQTee/ moniQTee

    ANyway,,, is it ME.. or does Halle’s Mom look BLACK or Creole to you too? Her mom looks mixed too. That could explain why her daughter who is half black looks SO much more Black. I mean.. My mom and her brothers are half white. One of my uncles is married to a White woman and my little cousins looks straight UP White. Blond and blue too….

    PLUS Hellobeautiful this is OLD NEWS. I knew of this about Halle’s hearing a long time ago… I dont know who the boyfriend it was but I heard it was a famous man.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Candyboxxx/ Candyboxxx

    MoniQTee: to answer your question, Halle mentioned that her mom is white, not multi-racial.

    Genetics are a funny thing!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/diva61811/ diva61811

    I think some individuals who have made comments are totally missing the point of the article. I don’t see anywhere in this article where it speaks about black men being abusive. I also don’t see how any individuals are hating on Halle. Anyway, I wish Halle the best and it takes a strong woman to speak about her abusive relationships. She has gotten herself out of those situations by recognizing the signs of potential abusive men and individuals. She has been telling her story for years and it is good to know that she has been also volunterring her time with other abuse survivors. I don’t think this issue is just a Black issue but it is a human issue. Hopefully, other women in abusive relationships will seek help and get out of those abusive relationships. I hope people realize domestic violence against anyone is wrong. Regardless, if someone is saying or doing something you may not like or want to hear it is never alright to put your hands on anyone.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/friscod30/ friscod30

    We all have known for years that Halle was abused and witnessed abuse in her household from her dad. I’m just wondering why this is a note worthy story now? Unless she wants to finally tell us who this abusive ex is who hit her and is behind her losing most of her hearing in one ear it’s really no big deal. Why keep bringing up the same subject if your not going to tell the entire truth or give any new information on it. Now don’t get me wrong. I love Halle and I’m happy she has finally found happiness.

    I am wondering this. Why are people writing in wondering if her mom is interracial or white. If the woman says she’s white can’t we take her word for it? Also why is it black women in general don’t ge mad when they see a black woman with a white man, but when they see a black man with a white woman they get totally upset. Why is there always some stigma on why he’s dating her? Maybe he just loves her and is hapy just like Halle, Tina Turner or so many other black actresses tend to be when they date outside their race?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DARKMYSTIC1/ DARKMYSTIC1

    Okay montee qutip or whatever your name is, note i am not down grading any black women at all okay, the reason i say hate on haters is for her, not for any specific person alright,it is just for a boost in her career plain thumbs up type deal. I said it for future negative vibes that she may come across,its a free country i can say what the hell i want too say okay,once again i am not down grading any black women or talking about anyone hating on miss berry okay. I KNOW SHE’S WELL LOVED IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY AND BEYOND OKAY.. Just because i say hate on haters read between the lines okay, i am really saying look at me now i made it with the negative and positive vibes around me i still made okay miss montee qutip or what ever your name maybe read deeply more and maybe you well catch on blind deaf and dumb thank you and good evening you mice..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/mousey1685/ mousey1685

    halle so fine. she know ill never put my hands on her in a bad way, how could you hit someone so damn fine. them men need they s**t cut off. halle im here for you ill be a good man to you. lol

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/NaturalElEmentZ/ NaturalElEmentZ

    For all you morons who believe that she is telling this story for PR reasons has it totally wrong. In fact speaking about any situation as devastating as this one is empowering and healing techniques for the those who have gone through the situations themselves who are afraid to even recognize that abuse isn’t right. Rihanna’s situation is a prime example, because of her unfortunate situation many teenagers who just happen to be of the female persuasion are now speaking about the abuse they have suffered. No man or woman should have to experience any form of abuse. Yes although her lifestyle may or may not contribute to the volatile situation, no deserves to be subjected to violence. Once we start looking at celebrities as people and sub-human and stop judging them by the pedestals that you put them on, may be their stories will not be far-fetched.

    This story will only resort as a backlash to black men if the ones whom are reading the article interprets it that way. We always accuse other races of identifying dysfunctional behavior to the black community, more or less to the black men but we do it ourselves. In no shape, form or fashion does it state that a “black man” was the root of the situation, she identify him as her dad. It just so happens that he is black, but would you make the same inference if the man were white?

    *Whomever doesn’t like what I posted you can kick rocks and go suck yourself*

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MotiV8Ted1/ MotiV8Ted1

    Man that is so sad. I find it very strange for a man or anyone to hit someone that hard. She’s a very beautiful woman inside and out. It always seem the rich and famous has the hardest time finding love and romance but you can take the brokest couple in the world and they love each other unconditionally. That just goes to show no matter how much money u have or how beautiful you are, money neither beauty can buy love.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Candyboxxx/ Candyboxxx

    Diva and Natural: well put! There are a lot of immature and low-level thinking people around who always want to smell a conspiracy against black men or blacks in general. What bothers me even more is that this has become a way of defense–it is another way to excuse bad behavior.

    To those who think this specific article is geared to incrimminate black men: don’t let your perception get so distorted.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Bigg_Tity_Swole/ Bigg_Tity_Swole

    yeah halle’s deaf nothing new…however…her lil girl is starting to look a lot like miss piggy lol…pull them curls down a lil more please!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jazzwatch/ jazzwatch

    you tell em, Candyboxxx! I think Black Male Bashing will never end( HB, some of us, White people,), even to those who NEVER hit a woman and knows it’s wrong to do so….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ladyngold3/ ladyngold3

    Having read the article, woman of any nationality, pay attention to the red flags that all abusers send up. If you see them do get out…even run as if you are running for your life, because your very life may depend on it. Death resulting from physical abuse is not prejudice.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/blackdiamond184/ blackdiamond184

    At least she is out of thoes abusive relationships and married to a guy who doesn’t beat her.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Candyboxxx/ Candyboxxx

    Ladyngold3, paying attention to the signs are important, but the problem is that so many women have been raised in abusive environments that they THINK that it is normal, so they stay with their abusers. Thus, the signals that other people may see are lost on them…such a shame.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Candyboxxx/ Candyboxxx

    I also want to comment on other forms of abuse. Psychological/emotional and verbal abuse go hand-in-hand with physical abuse, and can be considered as signs for worse to come. They can also stand by themselves, meaning that they do not have to be accompanied by a fist to be have damaging effects. Do not think that because someone doesn’t beat on you that you are not being abused. It is NOT okay to let someone belittle you, to break you down. It is sadistic for them to do so.

    As far as red flags go, here are a few:

    -he/she refuses to talk or listen
    -he/she always questions where you are going and who you are going with
    -he/she rejects your opinion
    -you start to become isolated from your friends and family
    -he/she ridicules you or insults you
    -he/she blames you for his actions
    -he/she does not take responsibility for his actions/behavior (there are quite a few men on HB who are like this!)

    ..there are more signs, but this gives you an idea. I have also provided a link
    http://www.turningpoint6.com/pages/redflags.shtml

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Rhemawrd/ Rhemawrd

    I know I’ll catch alot of flack for saying this, but I’m gonna say it anyway. Why don’t I believe Halle’s story? Because this is what’s known in Hollywood circles as “riding the publicity train”.

    Is it just me, or has anyone noticed that the moment domestic abuse of any kind becomes the hot topic in the media, every celebrity suddenly comes out of the closet with their own story of abuse? First, one celebrity is in the news for an abuse issue, and then every other celebrity has their own story of having been abused some 20+ years ago that they never felt comfortable tallking about until just NOW.

    This time, is the movie Precious that has been nominated for an Academy Award. And the movie is about what? Abuse. And once again, every celebrity is coming out like c**kroaches when the lights go off, with their own personal abuse stories. But they do it why? Because we seem to fall for it and eat it up every time.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/hipswang/ hipswang

    Her dad sucked – I’m glad she let him die w/out showing any love. Eff that dum a*s n g g a – good riddance. And that she learned and doesn’t continue 2 put up w/that in her current life – whoever said they don’t believe it is sounding pretty dumb as this is actually old news and not a publicity train which Halle, btw, doesn’t even need. But I w/flippantly say this – if god lets me look as good as her at 43 I don’t even need my ear! lol! She’s right tho – anyone getting abused – run – get out or kill that muhfugga and THEN get out. B**chas*ez!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jaallan/ jaallan

    Good for her for telling her story. I don’t believe that it’s just for PR purposes — she speaks with hundreds of battered women each year through her charity work. She recognizes that simply talking about the subject can help men and women across the country. They might hear her story, and say, “yeah, that sounds like me,” and then either get out of an abusive relationship, or simply not get into one in the first place.

    For instance, there’s an author named Marala Scott (you know, the lady on Oprah.com right now) who came to Wayne State University last semester and talked about the ‘Indicators of an Abuser,’ which are guidelines for recognizing patterns that might suggest future violent actions. A good idea.

    So, when Halle Berry talks about her own experience, describing her boyfriend’s actions, attitudes, etc., there is a lot that other people can learn by listening to her. Words are powerful.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Candyboxxx/ Candyboxxx

    Rhemawrd, Halle Berry may had been approached about doing a (recent) interview on her experience with domestic abuse in light of the Rihanna situation…probably because her history with her ex (Wesley Snipes) abusing her was already known and celebrities can help bring certain issues to light. I don’t think Halle Berry is riding any publicity train; I think that the media is using her story to gain viewership and readership.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/kiss_me86/ kiss_me86

    stop talking about rihanna & stop calling what happened a “situation” because if neither of them were famous none of you rihanna lovin Chris hatin jump-to-judgment bloggers would give a tooted out rats a s s.

    Poor chris…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Baby-Baby/ Baby-Baby

    How many times is she going to open up about her passed abuse.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/SWEETASSUG/ SWEETASSUG

    I DO AGREE WITH YOU ON THIS SUBJECT…ITS BULL CRAP…LOL…$$$$$

    Why don’t I believe Halle’s story? Because this is what’s known in Hollywood circles as “riding the publicity train”.
    Is it just me, or has anyone noticed that the moment domestic abuse of any kind becomes the hot topic in the media, every celebrity suddenly comes out of the closet with their own story of abuse? First, one celebrity is in the news for an abuse issue, and then every other celebrity has their own story of having been abused some 20+ years ago that they never felt comfortable tallking about until just NOW.
    This time, is the movie Precious that has been nominated for an Academy Award. And the movie is about what? Abuse. And once again, every celebrity is coming out like c**kroaches when the lights go off, with their own personal abuse stories. But they do it why? Because we seem to fall for it and eat it up every time.

    THIS IS SO TRUE…FOR THESE PEOPLE….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/NOWHITEIN/ NOWHITEIN

    YES BABY BABY. HER ABUSE HAS PASSED. LOL

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Nightowl358/ Nightowl358

    Is this a trend now? For these female celebrities to suddenly reveal, without anyone asking for it, that they were abused?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/SirMoonlite2/ SirMoonlite2

    Quick Point: @ Candyboxxx, Mr Snipes was never married to Halle Berry
    Snipes marriages: {April Duboise (1985–1990) Nikki Park (2003–present)}
    D. Strawberry used to knock the taste buds out her mouth(Crackhead/MLB player/ first husband)..

    For her to bring this subject back up!!! Suspect!! It appears to be another anti-dark-guy production…hate the dark-guy, hate!!! Okay, keep going that way, I notice more and more White males entering membership here….More anti -dark guy personal messages post on Female site pages!!! Popular Trend?? or Phase Three of the Final Solution???

    Notice…. who she is with now!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Ladyd121/ Ladyd121

    I heard it was Christopher Williams that punched her ear not Wesley. I don’t know and don’t care really. She is so fake to me and her daughter is not real cute in my opinion.The ONLY reason Halle had a white daughter because if she would have had her with a black man she would have been darker and she didn’t want that.Because to be biracial Halle is not that light complected.I think it all ties in to this abuse claim she and her mom were abused by black men so she wanted a baby with a white man. I am glad Eric Benet cheated I probly f**ked him too I can’t remember but he should have gotten her other ear too.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Candyboxxx/ Candyboxxx

    SirMoonlite2, thanks for the correction about who beat her (Chris Wms., and not Snipes). I just think she got sick of the nonsense and met a guy that she felt was “safe”. Nothing wrong with that. It doesn’t mean that she hates black men in general.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Neneema/ Neneema

    shut da phuck up u dumb azz haters…why would she lie about abuse

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Kelais/ Kelais

    I had to stop reading post because my head shakes of disgust was overwhelming me. To see females speak on this matter as if she or any female deserve to be abused in any form at all, is pretty unbelievable. I am a woman of mixed cultures as well, my moms from maryland, shes black, my dads from Panama. I have been in a very serious case of abuse with a past relationship. It is not something you talk about for publicity reasons, and in this case really think about it, publicity for what? Band wagon hopping? Really, I doubt it. That is a grown ass woman spilling out secrets about her family…not a 20 year old something, like rhanna and Chris brown… she knows better, and she also knows how coming out on this subject can turn in the public’s eye. Before u condemn, ask yourself are u really talking truthfully about the situation, or are u just biased to the pretty face. Hating…I repeat HATING…can eat you alive and take away sound reasoning. I’m only 25, y’all should know this already. Love everyone.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Kelais/ Kelais

    Oh yeah that’s stupid as fuuuu.ck her no liking black men lol she is black… that’s just ignorant

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/IndioLatino/ IndioLatino

    shut up you black b***hes lmao your all ignorant talking s**t.. i’m kind of ignorant saying blacl b***hes but to prove my point saying a person is black or white back in the early 20′s century will get your ass beat. ask the old timers they’ll tell you how ignorant the new generation is. i was ignorant too and still going to be. i’m not going to be here trying to make u believe, you racist bastard of a polluted womb mother.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/maldlq2/ maldlq2

    ABUSE IS A 2 WAY STREET…YAP, YAP, YAP, GIT YUH AZZ SMACKED……….. KINDA REMINDS ME.. WHAT U TELL A BROAD WITH 2 BLACK EYES?!……………I DUN ALREADY TOLD DA BIYTCH TWICE!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/calmedcooled/ calmedcooled

    yeah…i don’t think she hates black men. she was married to one…but let’s see…he cheated on her right? yeah. and she dated others…and now she’s met a man who makes her happy. good for her.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/lonnyj/ lonnyj

    ALL THESE HOES LOVE BEING ABUSED!!! BEING ABUSED IS THE COOL THING FOR WOMEN, JUST ASK AROUND.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/xxx_gurl8/ xxx_gurl8

    wow some of yall are just ridiculous. If the woman wants to be with a white man don’t hate on her. He is finer than most of the brothers I know so I aint mad at her and if he treats her good on top of that the more power to her. Their baby is damn cute by the way!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MZ_LICKETYTHICK/ MZ_LICKETYTHICK

    Dam, this is so sad how people on here are so dam ignorant. If she’s with a white man so what let her be happy, love has no color people, and why is it that its always someone gotta be lying about there past??? I dont see what she would get out of lying about her past history of abuse, you stupid ass people need to cut it out and quit being so judgmental. I’m somalian and ethiopian and black females hate on me everyday day because my man is black (even though I consider myself to be black) its always a black female and no one else ??? i was born in chicago and I’ve always had people tell me I act black….um hello I was born and raised around black people so how is it an act??? All I’m saying is black people need to stop hatin on each other, misery loves company i’ve found that to be a proven fact !

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Candyboxxx/ Candyboxxx

    As a few posters wrote, there are a lot of ignorant people on these threads. Halle Berry does not need to lie about her abuse to get publicity: her talent and beauty speak for themselves.

    It would be different if she was a washed out, has-been actress or actor, living in obscurity for years and decided to write a memoir about her life. Even then, I would not be so quick to judge because many victims of abuse take a long time to step from the shadows and share their stories.

    …And for those of you (like Ladyd121) who think that she lied about being abuse to justify being with a white man and having a child by him: where in the f*** is your head at? Seriously, if Halle wanted a baby solely by a white man, she would have done it a long time ago. This woman could have practically any many she wanted, so your theory has a lot of holes in it.

    Ladyd121, you also said that you are glad that Eric Benet cheated on her…? Seriously? Are you so insecure with yourself that you are actually glad that a man cheated on some woman you don’t even really know (just know about) and who doesn’t even know you exist? Are you getting paid to be this mean-spirited? You sound very young and very ignorant to a lot of things, Ladyd121. Let me give you some advice: don’t ever again put yourself in the position of being so judgemental like you were in your last post. If you are lucky enough to have a long life ahead of you, that means more time and opportunity for you to make some mistakes that people will use against you and judge you for them. You better hope that people are more understanding to you than you are to others.

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