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Dear Gay Best Friend,
I met a smooth talking Bishop on Facebook about 3 months ago. We’ve had many hours in telephone conversations.
I am a 46-year old single divorced mom with 2 sons, ages 11 and 26-years old. The smooth talking Bishop is 52-years old with custody of two daughters, ages 5 and 7-years old.
The Bishop lives in Indianapolis, IN and I reside in Dallas, TX. We have not met as of yet. Per the Bishop, he is strapped financially. The minimum cost of a ticket is $300.00. The Bishop is not currently “bishoping” due to a heart attack; the part of his income is null and void. The Bishop currently works as a community managing supervisor in a Prison Facility.
I have worked in Telecommunications, (Manager), for 21 years. GOD has blessed me in an incredible financial manner. I could very easily “sponsor” the Bishop’s initial visit to Dallas.
Is his financial status, or lack thereof, a deal breaker? I’ve always wanted a Man who would woo, romance, and make me appreciate the basic fundamentals of “dating.” Please reply/answer as only you can! I love and respect your style. – Waiting On Bishop
“Today’s-No-More-Drama-Put-Him-Out-Get-Your-Life-And-Start-Over-Day”
Dear Ms. Waiting On Bishop,
Chile, boo! Yes, his financial status, and lack thereof, is a deal breaker. If he doesn’t have the finances to come see you, then perhaps he doesn’t need to be communicating on the phone with you until he gets his finances in order. You truly got the game “F’d” up. I can’t believe you sent me this letter even considering the option of paying for him. Really, Ms. Thang?!? A grown ass man who is 52-years old, with a job, and he can’t afford a $300 plane ticket? Soooo, if you want a man who can woo, romance, and make you appreciate the fundamentals of dating, and this man can’t even get to you, then how do you expect him to woo, romance and court you?
Hold up before you answer. I need to get a good seat in the front row to see and hear your response.
I don’t care how much you are balling, and how prosperously GOD has blessed you, the Bishop is a man whom you’ve never met, except only on Facebook. Girl, reach out and slap yourself. You don’t know this man. You’ve never seen him. You’ve only seen pictures of him. How do you know if he looks the same in person? Chile, puhlease! Folks look totally different in person than in their photos. You pay for him to come down to Dallas if you want to, and you will get a rude awakening. And, then where is he supposed to stay when he gets there? How is he going to eat, go to dinner, or do any activities if he can’t afford the $300 ticket? Are you supposed to sponsor his entire trip and let him stay at your house? Girl, I can’t! Please, baby Jesus, make it stop!
Girl, he got a job! You said he works as a community managing supervisor for a prison facility. Uhm, the last I checked that is a paying gig.
And, since he wants to strike up an online relationship, with his smooth ass talking self, then he can come up with some smooth ass money to get to Dallas to visit you. Like you said, it’s only $300. Chile, he better take up a collection at his church. Better yet, he better find a church in Dallas he can visit and have them sponsor his tour. He’s slick and savvy. I’m sure he can maneuver a way for his expenses to be covered.
I’m surprised he hasn’t dropped the line on you, “God told me that you are going to be wife. And, that you should sponsor my trip and support me as your man until I’m on my feet.” LMBAO!
Look, Ms. Waiting On Bishop, don’t be naïve, gullible, and stupid. Those are three ugly traits for a desperate woman to demonstrate. And, clearly he is picking up the signals through that cheap weave you are wearing. It’s time to hit up the beauty salon and get a new weave sown in. I think you need to cut him off until he is able to financially get on his feet, as well as get his health in order. He has too much going on with him. I am sure you are a vital and healthy woman who can get a man in your local area whom you wouldn’t have to sponsor, and foot the bills. Stop being desperate and if you really are a true Christian, then you know if GOD has blessed you financially, He will also bless you with a man who can is applicable and compatible to you and your status. Get on your knees and start praying! That Bishop is not the one, two, or three. Chile, a mess I tell you. A Bishop who ain’t pimping the game. Chile, what seminary did he attend? Do you know that? Humph, let me find out he is a self-ordained Bishop. When he starts saying he is going to lay hands on you, then you better run! – Straight From Your Gay Best Friend
If you met someone online and they couldn’t afford to visit you would you pay for them to come see you?
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