This week’s episode was a mix of “your man is whack and my man is better” served along side of a wholesome dish of, “this is what I heard…” For a group of women all over thirty and waving at forty, if not beyond it, I find it disturbing that they find joy in discussing other people’s marriages and relationships on a constant basis.
After enjoying a dinner with some friends to celebrate their third anniversary, Cynthia and Peter learn from a new couple who joined them — former R&B singer Christopher Williams and his wife Natalie — a little information about Kandi’s man, Todd. Knowing a woman that Todd used to date personally years ago, Natalie tells Peter and Cynthia that Todd has a reputation of leaving one situation for something better, often. His comeuppance ways had him cheating on Natalie’s friend and leaving her broken hearted a number of times. The Thomas/Bailey’s are shocked to hear this tea and Cynthia can’t wait for an opportunity to spill it.
Cynthia gets her chance when the ladies attend a wine tasting and the topic turns to marriages quickly as the girls visit a chapel on site. Her friend , Natalie had joined the group on their excursion and wouldn’t you know Kenya had some juicy gossip of her own to share about Natalie. Kenya “forever alone” Moore coming to the table with unsolicited information once again, what do you know? Sharing with Natalie that never in any of the time she had worked with Christopher had he addressed Natalie as his wife. OOP! But instead always calling her his girlfriend or common law wife. This sent things into a tailspin. I’m not sure why Kenya felt the need to stir up trouble with this lady and her played out husband but it only resulted in an all out war on the pasts of everyone’s man.
After informing Natalie about what her husband had said, Kenya and the girls were all ready to dive into a rousing round of sharing some more. The bit of information Natalie had shared about Todd and her friend with Cynthia came bubbling up and needless to say Kandi wasn’t here for the foolishness. She let the women know that she wasn’t miffed by Todd upgrading his life with her and that his past didn’t matter. Everyone has a past, that’s just the truth so to recall every instance that someone’s partner has been through prior to them is tired and meddlesome. Most people, in good healthy relationships, have typically unearthed their dirt with one another and don’t require the tell-all from others. It seems to me everyone who is concerned with whether or not Todd is an opportunist should be more worried about their own situations.
I appreciated Porsha and Phaedra making it clear that marriages should not be a topic of conversation from those who aren’t in one or at the very least haven’t been. Knowing that Apollo and Kordell have each made their own mistakes these ladies understand why it is necessary to let bygones be bygones. During the exchange Kandi made a remark to Cynthia saying that Peter had a reputation prior to marrying her and she never felt the need to address it, the slight shade gave Cynthia some pause. I, too was wondering why Cynthia was quick to give her two cents on Todd being an opportunist when she’s opened her wallet for Peter’s several times and been his banker on more than one occasion. Here’s the thing, isn’t that what marriage is about, joining together with someone and holding them down? At the point you decide to settle down with someone you’re admittedly saying that their past is not something that concerns you. Each time Todd’s name comes up in conversation it is met with the same response from Kandi, that’s his past and I’m his future. Time for everyone to move on.
There is a simple solution to all of this: instead of speaking up on the inner workings of someone else’s love life ensure that yours is intact. Kenya is parading about quick to quip on everyone’s business but we’ve yet to see the phantom oil tycoon who supposedly keeps her laced in Gucci and gold. Cynthia knows she has no place mentioning Todd being an opportunist when truly the only reason Peter was able to stay afloat is because he hooked up with her. Takes one to know one Ms. Bailey. As for Natalie, whether she’s Christopher’s wife – common law or otherwise she isn’t familiar enough with Kandi to mention her man at all. Her only focus should be relinquishing the hold she has on that baby oil that she’s lathering herself in and finding Chris a paying gig. Tell me what you think about all these nosy ladies on Twitter, follow me at @Hautemommie. We can discuss these men, your man, and you may see me say something about my man. Probably not, but you know where find me. Until next time.
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1. Best Reality Show Catch Phrases
As we come to the end of 2013, let's take a look back at some of the best catch phrases we've learned throughout the year from some of our favorite (and least favorite) reality stars! We've even thrown in a few of our favorite catch phrases of all time!
2. "Have several seats."
There's nothing more satisfying that hearing Tamar tell someone to sit down in the flowery way that only she's mastered.
3. "Who gon' check me boo?"
Sheree wins for this phrase, maybe not in life, but certainly for this phrase.
4. "I truly am the HBIC."
As the godmother of ratchet reality, New York will always and forever go down in history as the HBIC!
Momma Dee's misspelling of the word, "B*tch," has got to be one of the best mistakes in the history of mistakes. Bad grammar never looked so good...or...funny.
NeNe is the queen of the catch phrase and everything she says turns into one. "Bloop" has got to be one of the funniest and most versatile phrases of all time.
7. "You better work."
Starting as one of the best lines from his cult classic hit, "Work," RuPaul created a mantra and self-esteem booster in this catch phrase.
8. "I wanna put dem paws on 'em."
Scrappy may have had his own language, but sometimes he used English. Well...sort of. And when he did, we'd get gems like this.
9. "Listen... I Don't Talk To The Help"
"Listen, I don't talk to the help," had to be one of Joseline Hernandez's best one liners from "Love & Hip Hop Atlanta." When she said this phrase to her arch nemesis, Che Mac, implying that she was about as unimportant as the help, I cried from laughing so hard!
10. "You Tried It!"
It's hard to pinpoint exactly when Tamar Braxton gave birth to the phrase, "You tried it," since she uses it in just about every conversation. But let's all thank Tay Tay for introducing us to one of the most useful phrases of this entire year!
11. "I'm his WIFE"
Last but not least, when Amina broke the news to Tara that she was married to Peter Gunz and threw her license on the table for proof!
12. "The time has come, for you to lip sync for your life."
Can I get a big yassssss for Muva RuPaul's infamous warning to the drag queens who didn't quite make the cut. Proving they have what it takes to be in the competition, RuPaul would challenge her "girls" to perform in a battle.
13. "Get out! Guards, guards!"
Another Momma-Deeism! When Mama Dee had enough of Erica, she called her imaginary guards to have Erica and Erica's mother escorted out of her palace.
14. "We're So Close, We're Like Siamese Cats"
You can't help but to love Porsha! Since she was moving out of Kordell's house on "RHOA," she was spending a lot of time with her sister, Lauren. And according to Porsha, her and Lauren are so close that they're like Siamese cats! Oh yes, Porsha, we totally get it!
15. "Shut Up Ugly"
As juvenile as Joseline might have been when she said, "Shut up, ugly," on the "LAHHATL" reunion, it was pure comedic gold!
16. "Change Is A Comin'"
Remember when Momma Dee was so over Scrappy and Erica's relationship and would do anything to sabotage it? She definitely foreshadowed Scrappy and Erica's breakup when she said, "Change is a comin'" because before we knew it, things changed!
17. "Molly The Maid."
"Molly the maid" is probably Joseline's best catch phrase of all time. When Joseline referred to Mimi as Molly the Maid after catching Mimi in her "maid" outfit on "LAHHATL," we knew that Joseline was the queen of witty comebacks and would be a problem this season!
18. "Ain't Nobody Got Time For That"
Tamar can give credit to the hilarious YouTube sensation, Sweet Brown, for introducing her to the phrase "Ain't nobody got time for that!" She certainly made it fab!
19. "I'm Gone With The Wind Fabulous!"
Oh, Kenya Moore. Don't let the Miss USA (or Miss America?) title fool you, because this chick can get down and dirty! On an episode of "RHOA" earlier this year, Kenya debuted this famous phrase accompanied with a twirl before exiting stage left and leaving her cast members quite confused. Congratulations Kenya. You will now always be remembered for being "gone with the wind fabulous."
20. "Twirl On That"
In a quite appropriate response to Kenya's twirl, Phaedra threw the utmost shade in Kenya's direction at the "RHOA" reunion special. After Kenya twirled a couple times around the room, Phaedra checked her for texting her husband, Apollo, and ended her read with "twirl on that."
21. "Read, honey."
Remember the time that Nene taught us the difference between reading and "reeeading"? Oh because, there's a difference!
22. "Baby, You're Not Worth It."
Remember when Mimi finally got tired of Stevie J's mess and decided to move on with her life? Yes, Mimi! Say it again!
23. "There's nothing like a good cup of tea."
"RHOA's" NeNe knows the importance of getting a good cup of tea with your girlfriends. And no, we don't mean an actual cup of tea but a good dose of juicy gossip! Spill the tea hunty!
24. "Sashay Away"
When queens don't make the cut, RuPaul urges them to, "Sashay away."
25. "I'ma Show You.. I Can Take Your Man... Again"
Oh Joseline. She promised us that she could take Mimi's man and I guess she proved herself right, since she's MARRIED to Stevie J now.
26. "Don't Come For Me Unless I Send For You"
Probably my favorite Kenya Moore moments! During the RHOA reunion special, Kenya let Phaedra know to never come for her again, unless she is sent for! Kenya can thank Funky Dineva for this gem.
27. "So, boop!"
When Evelyn and Tami were going at it on an episode of "Basketball Wives," she politely dismissed Tami with a quick hand gesture and a high pitched, "Boop!"
Thank you Benzino for making even the word "exactly" amusing!
29. "She Wins."
Tamar Braxton is the guru of the one liners! Her famous, "Ding ding ding, she wins!" is definitely one of the highlights of "Tamar & Vince" and "Braxton Family Values"!
30. "It is Beyonce's world and we're just living in it."
There's nothing "realer" than the news and these words from Anderson's Cooper's lips. Nothing.
The southern belle of all southern belles--Miss Phaedra. She's got a way of saying everything without saying a word. "Mmmhmm."