We’ve all heard it before men and women alluding to having multiple people they’re dating and just calling them members of the “team.” Hell, many of us knowingly or not, have probably been a part of the team; and not as a starter or the captain. On this week’s episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta, Nene, Phaedra and their friend former NFL player Chuck Smith take a quick day trip back home to Athens when the self titled “Big Homie” Chuck lets it be known that he indeed had a team of women in his heyday and some of our favorite Georgia girls were on “the roster.”
Here’s the deal, while Chuck has been married for the past thirteen years to woman whose mother clearly didn’t know how vowels worked, these two other women were under the impression that her husband had been their boyfriend once upon a time. How tragic for the wife to find out while on a trip with these women she just met that they not only slept with her husband but he spent money on them. Had them flossing around Atlanta on his football player dime and you had no clue.
Miss Mynique went home and probably let Chuck have it for his lies and he knew he had to pick up the pieces to his wayward penis puzzle. In the process Phaedra had to find out that her Dairy Queen dates weren’t really dates at all but instead just pit stops on the road to getting it on. In the end Phaedra decides any ounce of respect she once had for her hometown buddy is now gone after he basically debunked her idea that they had been a couple. Honestly, I completely understand her anger and disgust the way Chuck dismissed and disrespected her and Kandi because it was tasteless and foul (honestly why did he even bring Kandi up!? She wasn’t even there! Shady.).
Let me tell you a story of a young girl who met a guy who was handsome, funny, handsome, and had so much charm he could probably sweet talk the pants off of a nun…did I mention he was handsome? His major fault? His constant absences. Finally after months of trying to link up with said man she finally asks him, “Are you seeing only me? Are you sleeping with just me?” Here’s the truth if you have to ask then you probably already know the answer and though this man said yes all signs pointed no. It is important as a person who is dating to set rules not only for your partners in the game but also for yourself. If you don’t want to be a part of a team then make it known up front.
Now in the case of Phaedra and Kandi it seems clear that each of these ladies were just another notch on the “Big Homie’s” belt and a classic case of “I thought we were dating” which is just sad. These gals had not established rules for themselves or the men in their lives which left the truth to come slipping out in an Escalade on the way back from a Boys & Girls Club. What a shame to find out that you were merely a man’s jumpoff after he invited you to come speak to some kids about following their dreams. Ain’t that some stuff?
So folks fess up, have you ever been a team player knowingly or did you find out after the fact that you were second string booty call? Is there anyone out there who is willing to be a part of the team if the coach is a supposed catch? I want to hear it all. Follow me @Hautemommie let’s discuss all this and much more, I’m ready for the juice!
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1. Best Reality Show Catch Phrases
As we come to the end of 2013, let's take a look back at some of the best catch phrases we've learned throughout the year from some of our favorite (and least favorite) reality stars! We've even thrown in a few of our favorite catch phrases of all time!
2. "Have several seats."
There's nothing more satisfying that hearing Tamar tell someone to sit down in the flowery way that only she's mastered.
3. "Who gon' check me boo?"
Sheree wins for this phrase, maybe not in life, but certainly for this phrase.
4. "I truly am the HBIC."
As the godmother of ratchet reality, New York will always and forever go down in history as the HBIC!
Momma Dee's misspelling of the word, "B*tch," has got to be one of the best mistakes in the history of mistakes. Bad grammar never looked so good...or...funny.
NeNe is the queen of the catch phrase and everything she says turns into one. "Bloop" has got to be one of the funniest and most versatile phrases of all time.
7. "You better work."
Starting as one of the best lines from his cult classic hit, "Work," RuPaul created a mantra and self-esteem booster in this catch phrase.
8. "I wanna put dem paws on 'em."
Scrappy may have had his own language, but sometimes he used English. Well...sort of. And when he did, we'd get gems like this.
9. "Listen... I Don't Talk To The Help"
"Listen, I don't talk to the help," had to be one of Joseline Hernandez's best one liners from "Love & Hip Hop Atlanta." When she said this phrase to her arch nemesis, Che Mac, implying that she was about as unimportant as the help, I cried from laughing so hard!
10. "You Tried It!"
It's hard to pinpoint exactly when Tamar Braxton gave birth to the phrase, "You tried it," since she uses it in just about every conversation. But let's all thank Tay Tay for introducing us to one of the most useful phrases of this entire year!
11. "I'm his WIFE"
Last but not least, when Amina broke the news to Tara that she was married to Peter Gunz and threw her license on the table for proof!
12. "The time has come, for you to lip sync for your life."
Can I get a big yassssss for Muva RuPaul's infamous warning to the drag queens who didn't quite make the cut. Proving they have what it takes to be in the competition, RuPaul would challenge her "girls" to perform in a battle.
13. "Get out! Guards, guards!"
Another Momma-Deeism! When Mama Dee had enough of Erica, she called her imaginary guards to have Erica and Erica's mother escorted out of her palace.
14. "We're So Close, We're Like Siamese Cats"
You can't help but to love Porsha! Since she was moving out of Kordell's house on "RHOA," she was spending a lot of time with her sister, Lauren. And according to Porsha, her and Lauren are so close that they're like Siamese cats! Oh yes, Porsha, we totally get it!
15. "Shut Up Ugly"
As juvenile as Joseline might have been when she said, "Shut up, ugly," on the "LAHHATL" reunion, it was pure comedic gold!
16. "Change Is A Comin'"
Remember when Momma Dee was so over Scrappy and Erica's relationship and would do anything to sabotage it? She definitely foreshadowed Scrappy and Erica's breakup when she said, "Change is a comin'" because before we knew it, things changed!
17. "Molly The Maid."
"Molly the maid" is probably Joseline's best catch phrase of all time. When Joseline referred to Mimi as Molly the Maid after catching Mimi in her "maid" outfit on "LAHHATL," we knew that Joseline was the queen of witty comebacks and would be a problem this season!
18. "Ain't Nobody Got Time For That"
Tamar can give credit to the hilarious YouTube sensation, Sweet Brown, for introducing her to the phrase "Ain't nobody got time for that!" She certainly made it fab!
19. "I'm Gone With The Wind Fabulous!"
Oh, Kenya Moore. Don't let the Miss USA (or Miss America?) title fool you, because this chick can get down and dirty! On an episode of "RHOA" earlier this year, Kenya debuted this famous phrase accompanied with a twirl before exiting stage left and leaving her cast members quite confused. Congratulations Kenya. You will now always be remembered for being "gone with the wind fabulous."
20. "Twirl On That"
In a quite appropriate response to Kenya's twirl, Phaedra threw the utmost shade in Kenya's direction at the "RHOA" reunion special. After Kenya twirled a couple times around the room, Phaedra checked her for texting her husband, Apollo, and ended her read with "twirl on that."
21. "Read, honey."
Remember the time that Nene taught us the difference between reading and "reeeading"? Oh because, there's a difference!
22. "Baby, You're Not Worth It."
Remember when Mimi finally got tired of Stevie J's mess and decided to move on with her life? Yes, Mimi! Say it again!
23. "There's nothing like a good cup of tea."
"RHOA's" NeNe knows the importance of getting a good cup of tea with your girlfriends. And no, we don't mean an actual cup of tea but a good dose of juicy gossip! Spill the tea hunty!
24. "Sashay Away"
When queens don't make the cut, RuPaul urges them to, "Sashay away."
25. "I'ma Show You.. I Can Take Your Man... Again"
Oh Joseline. She promised us that she could take Mimi's man and I guess she proved herself right, since she's MARRIED to Stevie J now.
26. "Don't Come For Me Unless I Send For You"
Probably my favorite Kenya Moore moments! During the RHOA reunion special, Kenya let Phaedra know to never come for her again, unless she is sent for! Kenya can thank Funky Dineva for this gem.
27. "So, boop!"
When Evelyn and Tami were going at it on an episode of "Basketball Wives," she politely dismissed Tami with a quick hand gesture and a high pitched, "Boop!"
Thank you Benzino for making even the word "exactly" amusing!
29. "She Wins."
Tamar Braxton is the guru of the one liners! Her famous, "Ding ding ding, she wins!" is definitely one of the highlights of "Tamar & Vince" and "Braxton Family Values"!
30. "It is Beyonce's world and we're just living in it."
There's nothing "realer" than the news and these words from Anderson's Cooper's lips. Nothing.
The southern belle of all southern belles--Miss Phaedra. She's got a way of saying everything without saying a word. "Mmmhmm."