You know people are always mad about something. So, it shouldn’t be surprising that Zoe Saldana’s husband, Marco Perego, faced a lot of criticism for taking her last name after they got married.
Zoe Saldana took to Facebook to clap back at haters, suggesting that we “redefine masculinity.”
Here’s part of what she had to say:
Fathers, sons, brothers, men everywhere: Your legacy will not perish if you take your partner’s surname, or she keeps hers. I’ve been made aware that a comment I made regarding my marriage has garnered some attention. I felt proud that my husband decided to take my last name as his own… and I his. I shared my hesitation with him when he told me about his decision, not only did he say, “I don’t give a shhheeeetttt!!” (with a very strong Italian accent!!) he also asked me, “Why not? What are you so afraid of?” And it made me wonder… What am I so afraid of?
Why is it so surprising, shocking- eventful that a man would take his wife’s surname? Women have never been asked if its ok for them to give up their names — why doesn’t that make the news?
Men, you will not cease to exist by taking your partner’s surname. On the contrary — you’ll be remembered as a man who stood by change. I know our sons will respect and admire their father more because their father lead by example.
Gentlemen, I implore you to think outside the box- remove the box altogether. Let’s redefine masculinity. A real “man” leads along side his partner. A real man accepts his mortality. A real man acknowledges that nothing can be done alone.
Saldana added that she hopes this topic serves as inspiration for people to let go of old ways of thinking, and be more open-minded. Previously, she mentioned that she tried to talk him out of it but he didn’t budge.
Now, that’s love! And she’s right, it ain’t nobody’s business!
There are actually more men than we think taking on their wives’ last names. I’ve known two within the past six years. One guy took his wife’s last name because he wanted to disassociate with his own father’s legacy, and another guy took on his wife’s last name because he simply hated his last name.
Both are simple, but perfectly reasonable reasons. But again, it’s still no one’s business but the parties involved. I’m with Zoe Saldana on this one, though. Perhaps we should redefine the way we think about this.