If you’re anything like me first thing in the morning you bask in scrollism (made up word alert). If no one is beside me in the bed when I first wake up I immediately reach for my phone and engage in scrolling activity. Forget the cold in my eyes, forget the fact that my morning breath is rancid, I live and breathe for the scroll.
Well one of the stops on my scroll adventures in a lovely app called TED, the slogan “ideas worth spreading” it’s like online porn for the everyday intellectual. I can’t wait to take in a whiff of the latest TED talk. There are so many great ideas worth spreading and so many amazing and accomplished individuals on this planet, it makes life worth living- All this in an app. I usually view the talks on business ideas and motivation- this time I stumbled upon a talk titled, “Why 30 Is Not The New 20”.
I thought that perhaps it was a hip-hop infused Jay-Z inspired talk on medical advances, maybe 30 was the new 15. I quickly selected the video and it was not at all what I expected it to be.
Meg Jay a clinical psychologist, who specializes in twentysomethings, explained why your twenties is not a throwaway decade as many of us have been conditioned to think. She believes that the best time to work on your marriage is before you get married and that often individuals in there twenties spend time procrastinating in jobs they hate or with partners who are just “ok for now”
She further explains that the danger in this is that a) after 30 for women it is much more difficult to conceive b) you become depressed because you dabbled in procrastination for a decade
This is just the cliff notes version Meg Jay makes more valid points and even offers 3 tips to those in their twenties on how to reclaim their adulthood.
Take a look at the video below:
First of all, I got scared shitless and started googling how to maintain my fertility. Although I’m with a partner who I love I am not quite ready for the family I envisioned. I’m about that stay home, write best sellers, pick you up from school and bully kids as a soccer mom life- not there yet. I’m also not married and I want a fancy pants “b$tch I might be” wedding complete with an Ines Di Santo dress.
I get what Meg Jay is saying though, I know a handful of twentysomethings who are quite content with mediocrity and it doesn’t help that there is an entire culture supporting the movement. For the most part our fountain of youth baby boomer parents are so coddling and accommodating. There is no sense of urgency, because they had it and they’re over it.
Girl, I’m not rushing. I’m interested in ways to maintain my fertility because a bomb ass mini version of me is a must, but that’s about it. I’m focused, I know what I want out of life and that’s really the key. I hope no matter what age you are you live life like you are going to drop dead tomorrow. Take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way and always know what you want. Don’t be afraid to walk away from situations that do not uplift and light a fire of passion under your behind.
So just for discussion sake, is 30 the new 20?
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