1. TREATING HIS WIFE/WOMAN LIKE HIS MOTHER/MAID
Men who did not get the mothering they needed, or who became addicted to that which they did get, secretly pursue `motherlove’ in their adult relationships with women. These men pass up `womanlove’ in a search for the all-elusive `motherlove.’ They feel they have a fight to caretaking from women.
2. DOESN’T EXPRESS AFFECTION/ISN’T ROMANTIC
`Soft’ is a four-letter word to be excluded from a man’s vocabulary.” Of course, affection and romance are two of the most important things women say they want and need from a relationship.
3. HIDES HIS NEEDS/FEELINGS/ FEARS
Men are constantly grappling with such questions as: How can I reduce the chances of feeling vulnerable if I show my pain or rage? Isn’t it better to remain impassive to the world? Why can’t others see how risky it is to expose my feelings? Most of all, why can’t women realize that I’ll be taken advantage of if I let my guard down?
4. DOESN’T SHARE IN SOCIAL PLANNING
Women frequently complain that when it comes to their social life, the men in their lives expect them to assume total responsibility–to plan, organize and orchestrate everything, from where they will go on vacation to what they will do on Saturday night.
5. VIEWS ADVICE, SUGGESTIONS AND COUNSEL AS BLAME, CRITICISM AND CONDEMNATION
For a host of complex reasons, men are hypersensitive to criticism. When a woman innocently offers her husband a suggestion for doing something differently, or gives him information she feels will be helpful … he doesn’t hear what she actually says. He hears: “You’re bad. You’re wrong. You made a mistake. You aren’t good enough.
6. IS UNDULY CONTROLLING
Some men often feel that they have little control in the outside world, so they go to the opposite extreme at home and insist on total control.
7. MISREADS CALLS FOR COMFORT AS CALLS FOR HELP
When a woman attempts to discuss with her man a problem she is experiencing, experts say he hears one thing: “Please solve it.” More often than not, however, that is not what the woman is saying. Often, a woman just wants to unload her feelings about whatever is upsetting her and to be listened to and comforted.
8. ASSUMES BECAUSE HE WANTS SEX, SO DOES HIS WOMAN
Women complain frequently that men either don’t recognize or they don’t accept the fact that men and women have different sexual appetites. As a result, many men expect their woman to be ready and willing to have sex whenever they are. Rather than make this assumption, women say they want to be asked if they are in the mood for sex–and to have their answer accepted with grace.
9. CONFUSES HAVING SEX WITH MAKING LOVE
Having sex is the physical act of sharing pleasure with your partner. Making love is the emotional act of loving and adoring your partner. What women want more of is lovemaking–holding, kissing, snuggling, cuddling.
10. FEELS THREATENED/ INTIMIDATED BY A WOMAN’S SUCCESS
Experts say many men involved with a successful woman worry that her career will be more important to her than he will and that people will see her success as an indication of his failure. For that reason, numerous men won’t become seriously involved with an accomplished woman.