Girl, stop being such a b*tch! Turn your March Madness into March Happiness! I don’t know basketball. But on the very basic level of understanding, I know that March is a big deal for the orange ball-throwing sport. There’s a lot of hype about March Madness, and if you’re an NCAA fan (or married to one) you know it well. But since I don’t, I’d rather think in terms of March Happiness, Is that a thing? I’m gonna make it one. March Happiness trains the mind and body (just like basketball players train) to remain positive even when faced with stress, sadness and the seemingly endless cyclical way of life. You can indeed create a habit of happiness.
During March Madness (yes, back to this sports reference again), the teams who are competing are vying for that one feel-good moment they’ve worked so hard to achieve. They’ve dedicated a large portion of their lives to training and when the final two teams compete, each member of the winning team and thousands of fans experience fulfillment and happiness.
During your March Happiness, you want the same thing, so compete against yourself. Train your mind and body to be healthier and happier than ever before. It’s only March, so in case you feel the odds are against you because you have already dropped your New Year’s Resolutions, just know that about 40 percent of people who set New Year’s Resolutions have already quit trying. But this month, you are powering up and getting yourself back in gear!
You can do this. Here’s three very helpful and simple tips to get you back on track and create March Happiness that can go on all year:
1. Smile & Wave Goodbye To The Toxic People:
Waving goodbye has never made you smile so big. In a world where everyone faces uncontrollable stressors and negativity everyday (no matter how happy of a person you are), you must get rid of the things and people that are only going to bring you further down.
Rid yourself of the toxic people in your life, the haters and the hurters. Take control of your happiness by not allowing others to steer your emotions up and down, or steal them altogether. If you can’t completely rid yourself of the negative people, you can definitely set boundaries to minimize your interactions with them. Saying goodbye means saying hello to happiness.
2. Take Time To Decide:
The best way to be unhappy is to go around making promises or commitments you can’t live up to or, if you do live up to them, you despise every moment of it. You get one life, so make it a happy one. Don’t over commit to someone else and then under commit to yourself. Your happiness is just as important as everyone else’s, and don’t think otherwise.
When you make an impulsive decision, it is typically based on intense emotions and made with little thought. In most cases, quick decisions are not only poor decisions, they also reduce your control and even ruin your credibility.
To create happiness, make a habit of taking time when making both large and small decisions. Retreat, Rethink, React are your new decision-making steps, in that order.
When you hold grudges, possess anger or find yourself always looking backward, it is hard to move forward. The great thing about forgiveness is you don’t have to feel it, you just do it. And you are doing it for you, not the other person. If you are angry with someone, your attention and energy is given to them, not you. You can’t control your past, and that can be upsetting sometimes. But you can control your future, and you can drive right up to happiness.
As you compete against yourself in March, you must dedicate a portion of your life to training your body and mind. This takes time and commitment. Remember that you are competing for one thing — that feel-good moment when you notice more days seem brighter; when you notice the win. It not only lies within you, but within your family (team) and all those who you interact with (fans).
This March, turn your Madness into Happiness! Thanks for the tips Jamie Kulaga, Ph. D, LMHC!
Check Out This Gallery Of Inspiring Quotes:
Aaliyah: Keep working hard and you can get anything that you want. If God gave you the talent, you should go for it. But don’t think it’s going to be easy. It’s hard! (Photo: AP)
2. Lena Horne
Lena Horne: It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it. (Photo: AP)
3. Kelly Rowland
Kelly Rowland: Never give up on your dream…because you never know what the Lord can bless you with. (Photo: AP)
4. Tina Turner
Tina Turner: Whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it. Because you’ll find that when you’re free . . . your true self comes out. (Photo: AP)
5. Sanaa Lathan
Sanaa Lathan: Being strong can be also feminine. I don’t think feminine equals being weak. Being strong is very sexy. (Photo: AP)
6. Pearl Bailey
Pearl Bailey: A crown, if it hurts us, is not worth wearing. (Photo: BlackAmericaWeb)
7. Whoopi Goldberg
Whoopi Goldberg: When you are kind to someone in trouble, you hope they’ll remember and be kind to someone else and it’ll become like a wildfire. (Photo: AP)
8. Josephine Baker
Josephine Baker: The things we truly love stay with us always, locked in our hearts as long as life remains. (Photo: AP)
9. Halle Berry
Halle Berry: The times may have changed, but the people are still the same. We’re still looking for love, and that will always be our struggle as human beings. (Photo: AP)
10. Katherine Dunham
Katherine Dunham: I used to want the words ‘She tried’ on my tombstone. Now I want ‘She did it.’ (Photo: AP)
11. Tyra Banks
Tyra Banks: Take responsibility for yourself because no one’s going to take responsibility for you. I’m not a victim. I grow from this and I learn. (Photo: AP)
12. Ella Fitzgerald
Ella Fitzgerald: It isn’t where you come from; it’s where you’re going that counts. (Photo: AP)
13. Oprah Winfrey
Oprah Winfrey: Whatever someone did to you in the past has no power over the present. Only you give it power. (Photo: AP)
14. Zora Neale Hurston
Zora Neale Hurston: If you are silent about your pain, they’ll kill you and say you enjoyed it. (Photo: Tumblr)
15. Viola Davis
Viola Davis: Sometimes you see how humanity can rise above any kind of cultural ills and hate that a person’s capacity to love and communicate and forgive can be bigger than anything else. (Photo: AP)
16. Iyanla Vanzant
Iyanla Vanzant: It’s time for you to move, realizing that the thing you are seeking is also seeking you. (Photo: AP)
17. Alice Walker
Alice Walker: The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any. (Photo: AP)
18. Patti LaBelle
Patti LaBelle: All I can tell you really, is if you get to the point where someone is telling you that you are not great or not good enough, just follow your heart and don’t let anybody crush your dream. (Photo: AP)
19. Nikki Giovanni
Nikki Giovanni: Mistakes are a fact of life. It is the response to the error that counts. (Photo: AP)
20. Phylicia Rashad
Phylicia Rashad: There’s always something to suggest that you’ll never be who you wanted to be. Your choice is to take it or keep on moving. (Photo: AP)
21. Ella Baker
Civil rights & human rights leader Ella Baker: Give light and people will find the way. (Photo: Tumblr)
22. Maya Angelou
Maya Angelou: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. (Photo: AP)