There is something so special about loving a man, the right man!
I’m so lucky to be in love with an amazing man. We’ve been together for six years and I fall in love with him more and more each day. He’s made me a better person and added all his good traits to me, or at least the ones I’m mature enough to change. Here are some of the things that have made our relationship work.
VALUE YOUR MAN
No matter how much time has passed you should always make your man feel valued. Let him know how great he is, he has to be doing something right, that’s why you’re with him! Make him know you value his opinion, his dedication to you or his work, his clean look….whatever!
KEEP IT UP
Whatever it is, if you did it to get him, you better do it to keep him. Continue getting your hair and nails done. Throw on one of your hottest outfits every now and then. It’s important that you keep him attracted to you! If you don’t someone else will!!!
MAKE HIM MISS YOU
My job takes me all over the country and away from my honey for weeks at a time. Although I always miss him so much, the saying is so true, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Every time I see him after a long trip, its like seeing him for the first time! Don’t think you always have to be with your man, give him a chance to miss you……it’s always worth it!
MAKE ONE OF HIS HOBBIES YOURS
All men like their space and their guy time, but every now and then, its nice if you pop in. Learn his favorite video game and surprise him with your new moves. Men love when you pay attention and he will feel really special that you took the time.
LOVE IS A CHOICE NOT A FEELING
You won’t wake up everyday and feel madly in love but it doesn’t mean that you’re not in a great relationship. Remember when he comes home everyday he choses to be with you! Don’t fuss and fight over the small things…..he could be anywhere and he wants to be with you!
As women of color, I think this may be the hardest thing to do, but it may be the most important. Yes, we usually make everything happen, but we have to know when to fall back and let him take the lead. There can be two eyes, two hands, and two feet, but there can only be ONE HEAD!
I won’t boast to be an expert in relationships by any means or do I believe I have the perfect one, but I must say I have loved being and growing in mine! Of course we have our bad days but when you’ve found the right one, like the songs says, “I’d rather have hard times with you, than good times with someone else!”