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Send your questions to Terrance: girlworkonyou@aol.com

Dear Gay Best Friend,

me and my fiance has been together for 4 years. one night when we were drinking at my sisters  house i fell asleep and when i woke up my fiance and my sister was on the floor making out. if i didnt wake up i think they probably would have had sex. i started hitting him and my sister jumped up and suddenly claimed he was trying to rape her. this all happened about 5 feet from where i was sleeping and she never screamed or tried to wake me up. my fiance isnt a big drinker but they drank a liter of teqila and two bottles of brandy that night. he said he was drunk and it should have never happened.

i ran out the house and he went to look for me. eventually he went back home. my sister kept saying he tried to rape her and i believed her at that time. we called the police and they locked him up. then we went to the hosp for a rape kit. my sisters story didnt sound right and i kept asking her why didnt she try to wake me up but she never said anything. when my fiance gave his statement to the police he said that my sister and him had a sexual relationship when me and him first started dating. he said that she gave him oral 5 times and also sid my other sister also tried to get him. i asked her and she denied it. i told him to move out of our apt and he did. i was so confused and hurt. the police let him go because my sisters story didnt make any sence.

when we started dating he moved from his state to live with me. he had no family or friends other than my family. my sister who was supposed to be my best friend was with us all the time. everywhere we went she was there. i was single for 7 years before him and me and my sister did everything together. eventually my fiance and my sister became buddies and started hanging out without me sometimes. he told me that when we would get into an arguement he would talk to her because i wouldnt talk to him. he said he knew she would tell me and then we can work it out. i think my sister took advantage of the problems we were having.

my whole family said that i had a good man. he is a good man. when we got together he took care of me and my 10 yr old son. my son has adhd and has emotional problems. he has been kicked out of alot of schools and his real father was never around. my fiance came in and changed our lives, but i didnt know how to reciprocate the love he was showing me because i was on my own for so long. so he always ran to my sister to get her to talk to me. but both my sisters were in bad relationships and always kept telling me how good my man was and even said they wished they had a man like mine.

when all of this went down he called me and told me everything. he would call everyday and tell me how much he loved me. he said it all happened in the beginning when we were having problems and i wouldnt talk to him. and after she gave him oral he even left and moved back home. we were apart for almost a year before he came back. since he came back we have had a great relationship. we r so much alike and he feels like my other half that has been missing. he came back and we have been going to counseling. me and my sister met and i asked her to tell me the truth but she denied them doing anything and even said that she had a crush on him. because my family believes her none of them will talk to me. i was the one that took care of them all but no one has even called to see if im ok. all they care about is that my fiance supposedly tried to rape my sister. she will not admit that they had something because then they family will know the truth. she even had a smirk on her face when she denied everything. i love him and we are engaged to be married. he didnt have to come back. he could have stayed where he was and forgot about me but he said he want to fight for us. my counselor sais my sister was jealous of what i had and i need to stop having my sister around my man. – Who To Believe

“I’m 22 And My Man Is 38 And He’s Pressuring Me To Have A Threesome”

Dear Ms. Who To Believe,

Sigh! Yet, another letter with so many grammatical errors. A mind is truly a terrible thing to waste.  Yet, I was able to follow the story and comprehend the situation.

I’m for real when I say this to everyone, getting an education and staying in school is imperative. I can only imagine the type of job you have, notice I didn’t say career because you can’t possibly have a career writing like this, and I know you don’t do any public speaking nor do you speak in front of large audiences, or in meetings at the office, hell no, not talking like you write. And, this goes for all of you writing your letters. It tells so much about you. And, if I can pick it up (your basic hood-rat-ness and lack of education, then I’m sure the readers can pick it up). But, anyway, I digress. Takes deep breaths and chants, Whoo-sa! Whoo-sa!

Let’s get to the gist of your letter. Your sister, ole trifling no good ghetto ass hooker, was getting it on with your man in the middle of the floor with you less than five feet away. WOW! WOW! WOW! That’s a gutter ass hoe. And, your no good trifling goony goo-goo boyfriend was ready to stick her with you right there next to them. WOW! WOW! WOW!

Chile, like Jamie Foxx sang, “Blame it on the goose, blame it on the Henney, blame it on the alcohol.”

But, then your sister claims it was rape. You call the police and get him locked up, they do a rape kit, and she can’t keep her story straight with the po-po about what happened. Your man confesses that he and your sister have been getting it on since you two started dating, and she gave him oral five times. The police let your man go because your sister’s story didn’t make sense. Girl, I can’t! I can’t! I can’t!

So, I’m lost as to what advice you need. You want to know if you should get back with your man and get married? The same man who was about to stick his schlong in your sister while you were sleeping less than five feet away? Really? Really! You want to know what to do? This is the same man, your fiancé, who admitted that he was receiving oral (five times to be exact) from your very own sister. The same man, your fiancé, who runs to talk with your sister about the problems in your relationship instead of coming to you. The same man, your fiancé, who wouldn’t have told you about their affair, and until they were caught he became Mr. Confessional, and now he wants to tell you how your sister has been trying to get him. And, you want to know what to do? Girl, you can’t be stupid, dumb, and slow all in one.

Chile, I truly do know that the lack of education, an addiction to d**k, and hood rat behavior is a deadly combination. Let him go! Move on. He is not worth it. And, no man, no good faithful and loving man would do anything to compromise his relationship with his woman, especially his fiancé. And, he certainly wouldn’t be having sexual relations with your own sister, and once he gets caught says, “She’s been trying to get me to be with her. She’s jealous of you. She’s jealous of us.” (I’m giving you the side eye, and while I’m giving you the side eye, you should be giving your fiancé the side eye). Get the “F” out of here with that bull-ish!

Pick your self-esteem up from the floor. Dust your shoulders, pat your weave, and pump down the runway of life with your UGG boots. March DIVA like you’re walking for your life! It’s time to eliminate some folks out of your life, and it begins with your fiancé, your sister, and if your family don’t want to speak to you because of your ole lying ass heifer ass sister then tell all of them to kiss the inside of your ass!

Honey, you deserve better. You deserve greatness and you deserve a good man who will be faithful to you. Your fiancé and sister have broken your trust. Sure, you can forgive them, but don’t forget. That’s the lesson. When people show you who they are, girl, girl, girl, believe them. Your fiancé and sister have shown you who they are. Believe them! Your man is only remorseful because he got caught. How come he wasn’t truthful and honest before everything went down? Why was he attempting to blow your sister’s back out with you laying next to them? Girl, don’t be the fool. You’ve already been the fool once. Like I always say, fool me once, shame on you. There won’t be a second or third time to make a fool out of me. Miss me and your yellow school bus. – Straight From Your Gay Best Friend

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Make sure to get your copy of my new book, STRAIGHT FROM YOUR GAY BEST FRIEND – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Work, and Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden – October 2010; $15). It is available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, HERE!

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