I posted a question on Facebook the other day: A 40 year old dating a 20 year old. How young would you go when it comes to dating or getting involved? What can a young man or woman do for you that someone your age can’t? There were so many comments coming in and some are still asking themselves, is dating older or younger good for me?
“I am 42 and I have only been attracting younger men lately. The youngest recently was 24. I told him that’s way too young for me (only 6 years older than my oldest son) but he keeps trying to tell me why it could work between us. Not buying it. He is nice and all and we have gone out as friends and he knows how to treat a woman but as far as being in a committed relationship with him I don’t see it ever working.”
I am seeing more and more older women that are dating younger men. For some women it’s the thrill, they say older men simply bore them, they like the excitement that younger men give them. Still, there are pro’s and con’s to everything and there are pro’s and con’s to dating a younger man or woman. Here are a few questions you should ask yourself before getting involved with a younger man or woman.
Questions You Should Ask Yourself
- Are they mature enough to handle the relationship?
- Is this relationship about sex or could it go further?
- Will I have a problem bringing them around friends and family?
Listed above are just a few things you should ask yourself before getting involved. Once you’ve asked yourself, see what happens, and if it’s worth it, take a chance and don’t look back.
“30 is my limit since I’m a 44 year old man and not looking to have any more kids, or get married again. A 20 year old is gonna want to get pregnant and get married – not for me.”
Sometimes when dating a younger man or woman you have to look at the big picture. If you have kids but don’t want anymore, and you’re dating someone that’s younger who does want kids, there is a problem. Make sure the two of you are on the same page about your wants and needs. Sometimes we get involved to have fun but feelings get involved. One person is thinking one thing and the other person is thinking something else; it’s important that the two of you are on the same page. If you don’t want kids and he/she does, you might want to reconsider getting involved. On the flip side, if you want kids and they don’t, you need to look at that. Ultimately dating someone that’s older or younger is solely up to you, just make sure you know what you’re getting into before proceeding.
What are your thoughts on dating someone that’s older or younger than you? Would it be solely for the thrill? Could you possibly consider getting seriously involved?