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We asked you Beauties what frustrates you with being a bridesmaid and you told us.  If you’re a bride-to-be, take note so that you can be sure to make the day fun for your girls too.

1. Brides Should Be Clear About What They Want From Us.

“My best friend got married awhile ago, and unlike any bride I’ve heard of, she almost didn’t care about what we wore as long as we showed up. We convinced her it was ok to tell or command us on what to do. This was her chance to be bossy, you know? She did, a little, and it was one of the most beautiful weddings I’ve been to.” — Noela Akah

2. But, Don’t Expect Us To Do Everything!

We’re no longer friends, so I can say this. She expected us to do EVERYTHING: throw a bridal shower, bachelorette party, work us like Asian sweatshops on her wedding, then she went into a blind rage because people weren’t setting up the night before fast enough. Also, she blew up because no one bought her drinks the night of the bachelorette party. She switched her dress up three weeks before the wedding. So, she wore a pink/white dress and we were in purple. It ended up matching but, when she told me, I almost died. — Tasha Thompson Martinez

3. Plan “Bonding” Activities With Your Bridesmaids

“I loved my experience. I only knew one other person in the bridal party but, after all was said and done, I gained four amazing new friends. We made our own bouquets and years later, when I see the roses, I think of all the fun we had making them.” — Sherrie Wood

4. Try Not To Project Your “Meltdown” On Your Bridesmaids Who Are Only Trying To Help

“I was a bridesmaid once and I will never ever be one again. The bride was out of control. They switched my partner at the last-minute. I was mistreated at the wedding, but she was having a meltdown. We did not speak for four years and it hurt because her ex cheated on her less than four months into the marriage. I was not there for her when she was going through the heartache. She was not with me for the birth of my only daughter. Our friendship has rekindled for the better, though. We are no longer friends, we are sisters. It is not worth it to mistreat or be extremely awful to your bridemaids, though.” — Alicia Willie Barton-James

5. We remember the bridesmaid dress you picked for us (don’t do us dirty). 

“I’ve been a bridesmaid twice. The first time was alright; loved my dress. The second one was beautiful. I loved my dress! I still have that dress.” — Pamela Jackson

“I was a bridesmaid several times and am now stuck with ugly dresses — pink, gray, yellow, peach and orange.” — Joycie Callwood

 

What tips do you have for bridesmaids and brides to make the wedding day the best yet? Share with us in the comment section! And if you’re engaged, tell us your story on Facebook or by emailing us at hbgotthering@gmail.com to be featured in our weekly series “Put A Ring On It!” 

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