With warmer weather and spring fever in the air, this is a great time to get out and meet somebody. Though it may seem at times that the whole world is paired off except you, it’s okay to take your time and find the right person.
Life and relationships are complicated enough without adding to the drama with an unsuitable mate. Following are five people that should always be on your dating no-no list.
This one is a little tricky. Many employers have policies that prohibit dating someone who reports to you, and vice versa. The general assumption is that it’s hard to be objective toward a coworker you’re dating. Emotions tend to get in the way, and “creating a hostile work environment” can be easy if the two of you are not getting along. There are also legal implications for these types of hook-ups that employers would rather avoid. More than 11,000 cases of sexual harassment were filed last year. If things go south, do you really want to have to report to this person every day at work?
Lonely nights can have anybody reminiscing about an ex, only remembering the good times and forgetting the bad. Getting back with an ex for all the wrong reasons like loneliness, fear or boredom can set you back from finding the right person. You broke up for a reason. If that reason hasn’t changed (and it probably hasn’t) don’t look back.
Your Ex’s Friends & Relatives
Okay, so you heard your ex-boyfriend’s cousin thinks you’re cute. Maybe you think he’s cute too. But this hook-up is full of potential peril. It is almost always the result of revenge, jealousy or competition. Conduct a little honest soul-searching and you will likely find that this is the case. The same applies to dating one of your ex’s friends.
Your Best Friend
Remember all the fun you had back in college just hanging out? There’s never any pressure, you’re just friends. You share secrets. You’re there for each other through ups and downs. If you hook up and it doesn’t go well, you can never go back to the way things were. The likely reason that you’ve never crossed that friendship boundary after all these years is that you really are better off as friends.
Your Best Friend’s Significant Other
Dating a best friend’s significant other, or even an ex, is another friendship-ending scenario. If you’re attracted to your best friend’s boyfriend or girlfriend, keep it to yourself. Don’t flirt, and don’t cross the line. Your friendship should come first: put it ahead of any fleeting attraction you might feel.
There are plenty of fish in the sea. Some folks will simply complicate your life and for no good reason. Exercise good judgment and don’t do anything you wouldn’t want done to you.