With all this divorce talk of late, we started thinking is marriage all its cracked up to be? Did you know that 50% of marriages in America end in divorce?
Why do people rush into marriages? If you’re considering getting married, you better be sure that your signficant other is really “the one.” Which poses the question, how long should you wait to get engaged?
Getting engaged is a big deal. It says you are ready to take the big plunge into life as a married couple. It doesn’t necessarily matter how long you have been together (though usually the longer the better), you will know when you are ready. This is one of the most important steps in your relationship and it should not be taken lightly.
With that in mind, here are two things you may want to consider before saying yes:
CONSIDER THE LENGTH OF TIME YOU HAVE BEEN WITH THE PERSON
People get married after knowing each other weeks and live happily ever after, but we all know that does not happen in our world. You should be with your significant other at least a year before getting engaged. At that point, the “infatuation stage” will wear off and his little annoyances will be on display. When this happens you will be able to see how you argue as a couple and how you resolve arguments.
Is couples counseling good for you?
CONSIDER YOUR FINANCIAL SITUATION
Weddings are not cheap and money problems are one of the most common causes of arguments in a marriage. While finances should not be an excuse to not get married, you should never get into debt over a wedding. Once you know you’re getting engaged, you should start saving. Make sure you and your significant other are on the same page where you would like to be financially when married. If you are not yet there and are ok with waiting, it may not be the right time to get engaged.
