It’s not easy running into an ex, especially if the break up went down absolutely awful. The number one rule to remember is to not make a fool of yourself. You don’t want to be that crazy, jealous ex-girlfriend. Here’s some tips from sheknows.com on how to keep it cool when you see the man that broke your heart (or vice versa)…
Don’t Lie or Overdo It
“I’ve made the mistake of making up stories when I saw an ex while I was out with friends,” says Carol, who claims to not care about exes but is clearly lying to herself. “To be honest, I didn’t know what to say so I turned to fibs.” The only snag? Carol’s ex-boyfriend later found out that she had lied. It somehow got back to Carol and she still regrets the moment to this day. “I don’t care about him, I don’t,” she explains, “but I don’t want to be known as the town liar.” Now, Carol’s ex is probably thankful that he’s no longer with a girl who makes up stories for no reason.
Don’t Take Anything He Says Personally
Be prepared, ladies—your ex might be following these same dos and don’ts we’re suggesting. Two can play this game, after all! Don’t take anything that he says too personally during the conversation or after. If you’re face to face with your failed love and he starts making you feel less than fabulous with his stories, realize that he might be fibbing, exaggerating or merely trying to get a rise out of you. Don’t let him win! Act like you don’t care no matter how much what he’s saying bothers you, and don’t forget to get your “I’m fabulous” approach.
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Do Act Surprised
This sounds pointless, I know, but it will play a part later. Wait ’til you read the rest of the tips. The idea here is be super great without being prepared and make it look effortless. The moment should go as follows: “Oh, hi. How are you?! It’s been so long – it’s so crazy to run into you here.” Translation? “Hey. How are you? I don’t really care what you’ve been up to, but let me act like I had no idea you were going to be here nor do I care.” And the last part (“crazy to run into you here”) is a bit of a backhanded compliment, especially if you’re at a fabulous joint like an A-list party, like you’re surprised you two run in the same fabulous circle.
Do Be Fabulous
This should be easy—odds are, you already are fabulous. When he asks you, “What’s up?” Just answer: I’ve been amazing, fabulous or fantastic. “Don’t forget to add details to your answer,” adds Allie, who’s all about maintaining one’s fabulosity single or not. “I’ve run into exes before and the little tidbits make a difference.” Without specifics, your “I’m fabulous” answer won’t resonate with your ex. “He’ll just walk away and you would have made no impact,” Allie says.
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