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Fear of Confrontation Is Ruining Your Life!

By Kasey Inderdahl July 10, 2009 3:00 pm

Guys always ask, why do women fake orgasms and to be honest I can only think of one reason. We are scared to hurt the guys feelings or confront the situation at all. There maybe a few reasons for this: you are a prude, you are a protector of feelings, you don’t know how to bring it up, etc. Whatever the reason, women all over are not getting satisfied because they will not speak up.

Guys Need To Speak Up, Too!

The benefits of speaking up outweigh the fear by leaps and bounds. If you don’t want to take my word for it, picture a world with a bunch of sexually unaware men. If there was never that brave woman who spoke up and said “honey, you are doing it all wrong,” all the women who were sexually active after her would not have had the pleasure they received by the man who now knew what he was doing.

Next time you are getting ready for a steamy session between the sheets, remember to thank the brave women who spoke up before you. Also, if you aren’t getting what you want, find the courage to speak up yourself. What is the worst that could happen?

Tameka Foster’s BFF Spoke Up For Her!

Another example is work, how would you ever get the raise you deserve or become where you wanted to be if you did not speak up. The women who are the most powerful in business are the ones who are not scared to make demands and see them through. Women always fear aggression, but it actually helps you out.

Finally, think how many times you are scared to say how you really feel about something, “does this make me look fat?” If you answer yes, you probably feel bad, but I would rather have only you see me looking fat, rather than an entire crowd of people. There are times when you will get upset with roommates, family, and even friends but are scared to say how you really feel or what is bothering you. I have seen too many friendships end because women won’t speak up about the mistreating.

Don’t let this happen to your friendship!

Therefore, I beg my fellow women to stop the silence. Speak up for how you feel. You deserve to live life happy, not unhappy and silent! So speak up!

TAGS: confrontation, family, Friendship, sex, women
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  • 3RDWARDHTOWN
    3RDWARDHTOWN
    7-14-2009 6:25 pm

    I wouldn’t want a broad to fake a gasm thats why I put it down erytime. It ain’t no fun if she ain’t screamin and creamin.

  • momono3
    momono3
    7-14-2009 6:18 am

    Speak up, and this is what you will more than likely get “My ex liked it”

  • SEDUCTIVE-ANGEL
    SEDUCTIVE-ANGEL
    7-12-2009 6:22 pm

    I don’t fake I can’t play that route because I’m like shoot I got to get mine too otherwise what is the purpose. I am bruttaly honest I have let them know that no babe u didn’t make me scream n that i’m certainly not satisfied, then I’m like I’m done don’t hit me up. If i don’t accept your calls after u had fun and I was left hanging take a hit. You are not any good, and I’m not wasting time. Be honest with them that way all the bull would be cut out and we can all have fun pleasure.

  • shyest_chick
    shyest_chick
    7-11-2009 5:09 pm

    I have never and can’t imagine faking it but I also don’t say when they are doing it wrong for the sake of hurting their feelings. If they ask if it was good or act all proud I just sit there and look…LOL. On the few occasions I have commented and requested certain changes, those idiots weren’t changing and I just knew they could not b my source of pleasure…smh

  • Fyner_Things_N_Lyfe
    Fyner_Things_N_Lyfe
    7-11-2009 3:58 pm

    I have faked it before, hoping it would make him c** so he could get the hell off of me. Some guys try to hold back, hoping to make their partner orgasm first, then they will orgasm next. Although very thoughtful and considerate, sometimes I just want him off of me

  • YOURNAWTEEGIRL
    YOURNAWTEEGIRL
    7-11-2009 2:19 am

    I HAVE NEVER AND WOULD NEVER FAKE AN ORGASM…IF HE’S NOT DOING HIS JOB HE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT

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