Are Independent Ladies Too Much To Handle? What’s Your Opinion

BP member lovinmusic poses the question “Have I become too independent that most men are afraid of a woman like me?” in the forum titled Have we as women become so independant or are we too much woman for him?
The debate rages on check it out here. What is your opinion?
UPDATE 4/4/09 I would like to thank all those who commented and will comment on this article.
I think having respectful conversations on topics like this can go a long way toward improving relationships within our communities. Many of the problems we face come from unexpressed expectations and being unsure of our roles as individuals within our relationships. Open dialogue is an important step into clearing up those misunderstandings. In case you missed it check out another BP community topic on “Family Secrets” and let us at Hello Beautiful know what you think.
Once again thank you, B-Mod.
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Sunshine24_7
6-12-2009 6:32 pm
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CARA-MELLO
4-17-2009 3:32 pm
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cooosta
4-17-2009 1:47 pm
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cooosta
4-17-2009 1:45 pm
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cooosta
4-17-2009 1:42 pm
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DopeGirlFresh09
4-17-2009 9:36 am
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ervin9002
4-14-2009 1:44 am
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@Cara-Mello
That’s funny … because I have a hard time allowing a man to pay for anything. Been so independent, so long … one day it would be really nice to have a friend take out a window for me, or something like that, and not have his hand or his dlck out …
CARA-MELLO
independent? at the end of the evening they still want you/us (men) to pay for everything, lol. and thats real.
cooosta
woman was the greatest gift to man, and now woman wanna be independent, doesnt that take away from the orignial plaN?
cooosta
nothing wrong with being a leader,kids are dependent, woman are dependent, men are dependent, we all depend on each other, we all depend on the lord, we need to work together not try to stand alone and be independent
cooosta
all this talk about independent is sad, its not about the individual its about the team, we need more mothers not independent woman, we need more families not individuals, we need more woman to help mold the boys and girls, the young men and woman, all this independent talk is the reason why kids arent kids anymore, where all the mothers and grandmothers, give me a team player not an individual
DopeGirlFresh09
I love how “INSECURE MEN” wanna make INDEPENDENT WOMEN” a negative thing, for example rockwilder1911 post. Sorry love we are not all side-line ho’s. I myself am a single mother, and I am soooo picky about who I let in my life or my children’s lives. It is so hard to date anymore, to find A REAL MAN, and I’m sure for some men it’s diffacult as well. But I do believe some men, find independence in a strong woman to be scarry, just like mzalero04 stated, makes them feel like if a woman is so independent, what am I here for? Your here to love me, have that shoulder ready for when my tears drop, hold me, hug me, kiss me, love me, and be there for EMOTIONAL SUPPORT, and of course I’ll be the same for you! Trust me fellas, INDEPENDENCE IN A WOMAN is a great thing to find. Would you rather have a GOLD DIGGER?
ervin9002
I see that most of you haven’t been around for long. Look BLACK women have always been independent. They have always picked their relationships and molded their man. You can look at any black man that has a good black woman and you will see that her Independents in the relationship is just as important and true as his . As far as the woman’s movement goes it was not aimed at the black female as much as the White female. I know that some of you may call me a LIE, but I ask you to pick up a book and read AND YOU WILL SEE THAT WHITE WOMEN ARE IN AH OF YOU.BECAUSE YOU COULD DO THINGS OUT SIDE OF THE HOME THAT THEY COULD NOT. I STILL SEE (WILLIE LYNCH) AT WORK. DON’T BY INTO IT, THIS INDEPENDENT BLACK FEMALE VS BLCK MALE THING. IT’S NOT INSOMUCH A BLACK THING AS A WHITE THING. BUT REMEMBER MY SISTERS THAT YOU CAN NOT HAVE IT BOTH WAYS.