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No Judgement Fridays: So You Want To Date A Bisexual?

By Von-Anise McCoy November 13, 2009 4:35 pm

bisexual

Watching television in today’s society,  we are all led to believe that bisexuality is no big deal and that everyone has ‘kissed a girl’ and/or a boy and liked it. Hollywood makes it seem like we all float in an out of  relationships with boys and girls. But in reality, we all know that that is simply not true, as children we were socialized that girls like boys and vice-versa. As adults it is up to the individual to define their own sexuality based on who you believe you are.  Some will say that they see sexuality as a revolving door and that they fall for “the person” no matter what their sexual orientation. If you come in contact with one of these extremly honest people and you decide to think outside of the box too, here’s what you should keep in mind! Remember know thy self and always use condoms.

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Be Honest: The worse thing to deal with is a lair when it refers to ones sexual past! This is not a “down-low” coward that it silently having unprotected sex because he can’t admit the truth. We are talking about a person that is up front and honest with you, so therefore you should do the same. Admit that you are new to this side of the game. You both should be very open and honest.

Ask Questions, like: Are You A Top Or A Bottom? Do You Believe in monogamy? How Long Ago Was The ‘Same Sex’ Relationship? Have You Ever Had A Threesome?  This is a new experience, so you should ask as many questions as you need to. The more you know,  will help you figure out more about your new potential partner.

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Be Open Minded in Bed Too: Of course every person is different so you never want to generalize, but if a person states that they see sexuality as ‘fluid,’ like flowing water. That means changing and naturally fitting in every situation; I am guessing that they will try to simulate all of your sexual senses by making use of every hole that the body has to offer. Expect sexual toys in ‘bed’, so be ready and willing to play.

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  • xxxtahcee06
    xxxtahcee06
    11-20-2009 12:17 pm

    shoot yall forgot to put Missy Elliott, The Brat, Trina, EVe And all them other Cat lickers up there please its more chicks than that in the industry that love them some Pu$$y

  • sylkiifeather
    sylkiifeather
    11-20-2009 3:48 am

    are we still on this dumb a$$ sh*t???

  • msveevee1
    msveevee1
    11-19-2009 6:40 pm

    Well like I’ve said a million times before and I guess I’ll say it one more time…bcuz everyone was BORN INTO SIN, we ALL HAVE THE TENDENCY TO COMMIT EVERY SIN KNOWN UNDER THE SUN. Just like ppl born blind, deaf, mute, with leukemia, sickle cell and every other ailments known or unknown. Adam and Eve was made PERFECT! Sin came in and each generation became weakened from that perfected stature. Each generation passed on all kind of new sins for each generation to cultivate in mind, body and soul ( I always say that bcuz satan caused the 1st ppl to sin, he is the force and will always be the force behind all evil and wicked things…sin). Homosexuality is just as much sin as anything else. Sodom and Gomorrah was destroyed bcuz of it. The men in that city fed off of the sexual perversion and immorality that they even wanted to rape the angels that came to save Lot and his family from the DESTRUCTION of that city. What triggers each sin to be committed is the DESIRE TO COMMIT THEM. So sin is linked to us no matter what. It is in our DNA and can take control of one’s soul/spirit. But that is, IF YOU LET IT! Ppl who have been raped, molested or abused are easy targets to carry on the legacy of homosexuality. That is why it happens to them so young in age. Bcuz they are innocent and as pure as they can be at that time. That’s when the demons come to take their innocence away by corrupting and tainting their young and impressionable psyche/spirit/soul. Bcuz for them to indulge in it, it HAD TO BE PASSED ON TO THEM in some kind of form or fashion. But what puzzles me is…for those who were sodomized by a trusted person or even somebody you don’t know…or for even those that just been fondled in molestation…why would it make them WANT to engage just that much more in that activity almost to the point of leading them into promiscuity? Did someone say it was a form of love? Or did they say that in order to live in this world you have to give your mind, body and soul over to sexual sin to feel needed, wanted or accepted? Bcuz believe me you, if I was raped, molested or abused, bcuz of my spirit, I would turn away from that bcuz it’s shameful, it makes you feel guilty and dirty. And most of all, it confuses you. So why do ppl in those circ u m stances easily accept the role that they have been given to continue on with satan’s lies and practicing immoral perversion? Then they get mad at ppl who don’t accept that garbage and think that we should understand their weak-minds and spirits and just say and think, “Screw it! If I can’t convince them of the heinous crimes of their sins than I should just join them!” Is that what you homos and bi’s think? That everyone should just be loaded down with perversion like yall? I mean, the demons are having a big ole’ fun festival making weak ppl like homosexuals think that they “got it going on”. It just reminds me of a childhood game that we used to play. You know, tag? It’s like ppl are running around saying, “Tag, you’re it!” while they past the contagiousness of homosexuality on to other ppl. But bcuz I KNOW WHO I AM and STAND FIRM AGAINST THE ENEMY, satan know (and anybody else whose strings he pulls) that not only is he rebuked, but it AIN’T NEVA and I do mean NEVA, popping off like that over this way! I put my RIGHT HAND UP TO JEHOVAH GOD on that!

  • SweetCaliTea
    SweetCaliTea
    11-19-2009 5:58 pm

    @ toodelicious4u I definitely appreciate your opinion. I’m going off of studies that show that the chromosomes that regulate gender can sometimes show abnormalities. Check out this article from Time (http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,978923,00.html). The article references a study that shows that homosexuality can be genetic and can be a result of a deformity of the X chromosomes given by the mother. Therefore, in essence, one would be born gay, like I said, based on a genetic abnormality. A chromosomal abnormality that regulates gender, which I believe as well as scientist, determines ones sexuality. It is in the genetic makeup that a man is attracted to a women and a women is attracted to a man. If a person has an abnormality that causes them to relate to or have instincts or characteristic of the opposite sex (male having instincts of a female or a female having instincts of a male), it only make sense that they will, as natural instinct dictates, chose the opposite of the gender they relate themselves to (males with female instincts will naturally be drawn to males and females with male instincts will be drawn to females.)

    Now I do believe that there are people who, due to life events, choose to live life as a gay person as I said in my earlier response. This is evident by the fact that many women become “gay” after being raped by a man or after being in a bad relationship with a man. Same thing with men. Sometimes men will become “gay” after being molested in childhood. I believe these types of individuals are making a conscious choice based on their feelings and beliefs, but there are those who are born with abnormalities causing them to have confusion with gender relation and sexuality.

    Now the racist comment was pretty silly as racism is the belief that one’s race is superior over another or the hating of a person based on their race. That, I agree, can only be learned. As there isn’t a gene or chromosome that regulates beliefs as there is with gender, beliefs, such as racism and prejudices, are taught.

  • petiteAlicious
    petiteAlicious
    11-19-2009 5:50 pm

    toodelicious4u: Go educate yourself please. Here think on this…so are you born straight or do become straight by experiences too?? If this is so then way are so many people against gay people??

  • toodelicious4u
    toodelicious4u
    11-19-2009 12:40 pm

    SweetCaliTea, No one is born gay! Being gay is a choice that you make in life. You have to experience different situations in life in order to come to the decision of being gay. You are not born into this world with experience. You learn and grow as you get older than you began to make decisions for yourself. Saying a person is born gay is just a dumb as saying a person is born a racist. Thant’s totally untrue because children are born color blind before they learn other experiences and see different situations!

  • SweetCaliTea
    SweetCaliTea
    11-18-2009 4:57 pm

    This article is complete foolishness, and I am so annoyed at the author and other homosexual supporters making up crap to justify being gay or to encourage people to engage in homosexual or bisexual behavior.

    First of all, don’t let this fool feed you garbage; the attraction between a male and female is instinctive behavior; it is not behavior that is learned through socialized pressure. (Nobody had to pressure me to like men. I knew where it was at early!) In fact, some “gay” of “bisexual” individuals are gay or bisexual as a result of exposure (molestation, abuse, and/ or freaky aZZ people in their life) to that environment at a early age, and because of the early influences, they are sexually confused. There are children, however, who are born gay. This is as a result of a chromosomal abnormality. Yes, I said it, abnormality. There is nothing normal about being a homosexual. Should you be condemned for choosing to live life as a homosexual, no, not by any man or women here on this earth. Should you be denied liberties and rights because of your sexual orientation, absolutely not. But please stop conning young men and women into thinking that homosexuality is normal. It is no more normal than a lazy eye. Can you help it? No. Where you born with it? Yes. Is it an abnormality? Yes.

    Many people, young and old, are participating in acts of homosexuality and bisexuality because of loose morals and uninhibited views on sex . But what can you expect, sex is plastered on every media outlet you can think of: TV, Radio, Movies, Magazines, School, Internet.

    Don’t get me wrong I am not a homophobe. Far from it. But I am sick of the LGBT community forcing their beliefs on to me. Where are my rights? I don’t want my kids to turn on the TV and see men kissing, and I have as much right to protect my children from such influences as a homosexual man has to be homosexual. This article was pure foolishness with no substance, and all it did was try to encourage freaky young men and women to participate in acts of sexual perversion by telling them it’s OK because “Everyone does it”.

    Say “No!” to same sex marriage. The definition of marriage is a bond between a man and a women. If same sex couples want to be domestic partners, fine, but just by definition alone, they cannot be married.

  • ProBlackfist
    ProBlackfist
    11-17-2009 6:50 pm

    Peace,glad I don’t watch tv no more.
    Whoever wants to b gay or bisexual don’t tell me and don’t worry I plan on not being around.
    I guess I will have to find me a woman who is straight and not going along with this trendy
    gay/lesbian,bisexual,metro sexual whatever.
    So have fun in your own world,I plan on not being there.
    Glad I gave up the wack club scene.
    You have wack music with wack confused people.
    Don’t worry all this trendy gay,bisexual whatever will playout in time.
    I hope to many people don’t catch aids or HIV either.
    Peace

  • Judge274
    Judge274
    11-17-2009 4:31 pm

    The world is f-cked up, this bi-sexual thing is going crazy either your gay or not.
    Today people do whatever makes there body feel good , pretty soon were going to have beastialty rights. Just watch in about 10 years sickos gonna be claiming they was born a dog in a mans body and there attracted to animals. If someone said a horse gives good head u gonna run out and find out. these same ppl claiming bi sexual will f-ck a german shephard if they friends were doing it. Im just being real! This world cant last much longer ppl are doing everything now, just cause. so sad

  • tester02isback
    tester02isback
    11-17-2009 1:09 pm

    I love it. As an unabashed bi brotha, I’ll NEVER deny my likes. I like what I like and will always like what I like. F**K who doesn’t. And if you’re gonna down it, be sure to be consistent when you do. Meaning, don’t down it for me the say it’s ok.

    If you can’t deal with it, make sure the person you’re f**king ain’t bi or that you stay “str8″.

  • sweet-n-evil-89
    sweet-n-evil-89
    11-16-2009 10:08 am

    Co-signing with sylkiifeather below

  • sylkiifeather
    sylkiifeather
    11-16-2009 8:28 am

    BLAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH….

  • MzBadAzzitGets
    MzBadAzzitGets
    11-16-2009 2:51 am

    I DON’T GIVE A DAMN WITH ANYBODY SAY ITS WRONG FOR THE SIMPLE FACT IT DOES NOT BRING BABIES IN THE WORLD…IT DOES NOT REPRODUCE IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH RELIGION OR NE THING OF THAT NATURE CUT ALL THAT OUT AND THINK…CAN TWO MEN OR TWO WOMAN HAVE 1 CHILD? ILL GIVE YALL A SECOND….NO..U KNOW WHY CUZ ITS WRONG DROP THE BIBLE FOR A SECOND AND LOOK IF THERE IS NO REPRODUCTION THEN THERE IS NO US….IF EVERYONE SAID F**K IT LET JUST F**K THE SAME SEX HOW WILL WE KEEP GOING…DON’T SAY OH BECAUSE PPL LISTEN TO THIS OR READ THAT ITS WRONG…NO IT REALLY IS WRONG CUZ U CAN’T HAVE A BABY..SECOND WHAT A PERSON DO CAN AFFECT THE NEXT PERSON SO WTF U TALKIN ABOUT PPL ARE CLAIMING TO BE GAY BY FOLLOWING OTHER PPL…AND BI-SEXUAL WTF NO UR JUST GREEDY AND PROBABLY HORNY..LESBIAN LES BE HONEST U KNOW U LIKE DICK CUZ WHAT DOES A STRAP ON A DILDO AND ALL THE OTHER DICK OBJECTS HAVE ANY BUSINESS BEING USED? THEN UR NOT A LESBIAN U RATHER DICK THEN COOCHIE BUMPING …DUECES****

  • Swagger2BagHer
    Swagger2BagHer
    11-15-2009 11:02 pm

    I ain’t down with none of that bisexual sh*t. Some women think that sh*t is sexy to men. F*ck I want a woman who likes the same thing I do and goes after the same thing I do? Hell nah. I can’t stand when women on here or just women in general like to come out the blue with that “oh, did I tell you I was bi?” Should’ve let a brotha know from the get go cuz I don’t find that sh*t sexy, attractive, or a turn on. And with these f@ggot DL dudes out there many of you women are “dating a bisexual” and don’t even know it.

  • msveevee1
    msveevee1
    11-15-2009 6:59 pm

    Like I stated before and I don’t give two damns about your speech of equality or what you gotta say about me….eeeeeeeewwwwwwww ppl these days are disgusting! Atleast I didn’t get into no speeches of the bible or curse you to damnation (which I figure this topic is so redundantly ran into the ground so it makes no sense to keep talking about it). I don’t like the way that gay/bi play games with ppl’s minds in making them think that everyone should accept them and their obviously wicked ways. Absent-mindedly knowing that bcuz they were molested, raped and abused by trusted ppl is the reason behind their now accepting ways of homosexuality. And then they try to push that stuff off on heterosexuals and then make us think that we’re so closed-minded to their deceptive ways. And I do agree, to each their own and ppl should be able to live their lives the way they want. But just like homos and bi’s have the right to be them, I have a right to say what I want, when I want, to whomever I want and however I want to say it. Just like you feel, if you don’t like it, then get used to it and get over it.

  • X-TORTION
    X-TORTION
    11-15-2009 3:54 pm

    I have dated bi-girls in the past. 2 of them. The first one was more into guys at the time we dated…but she was also greedy and slick so that did’nt work well. The 2nd tried to hide it from me the whole time we were together but i put 2 and 2 together. I even tried to tell her if she was (which she was) that it was ok we don’t have to have 3somes all the time just once in a while and she don’t have to sneak around but that ain’t work either.

  • eks_07
    eks_07
    11-15-2009 2:45 pm

    THIS DAY AND AGE WE ACCEPT SOOO MUCH MORE THEN WE USE TO. IM AFRAID WHAT WERE ABLE TO ACCEPT IN 10 YEARS. BEING OPENLY GAY IN AMERICA STARTED IN I THINK THE 60′S OR THE TIME OF WOODTSOCK AND MCJAGGER. BEING BI IS MORE YOUNGER THEN GAY. NOW IM NOT A HOMOPHOBE, OR GAY HATER I JUST DONT APPROVE OF IT NOR SUPPORT IT. NOW BEING BI I DONT LIKE PROBABLY JUST AS MUCH AS GAY BECAUSE OF THE FACT YOUR PLAYING BOTH SIDE WHICH IS JUST AS WRONG. YOU NEED TO EFFIN CHOOSE. NOW I KNOW ITS NOT A GUARANTEE THAT YOUR BF/GF WILL CHEAT ON YOU BUT IN THIS DAY N AGE ITS HARD AS HELL TRYNA HAVE A GOOD LOOKIN GIRLFRIEND WITHOUT HAVING TO BEAT NIGGAS OFF HER NOW WITH HER BEING BI YOU GOTTA BEAT GIRLS AND GUYS OFF HER. WTF!!!!! NOW WOMEN SAY THEYRE ATTRACTED TO WOMEN…THATS BS AND NAIVE BECAUSE I CAN EASILY SAY THAT EVERY LESBIAN HAVE A DILDO FOR THEM OR THEIR PARTNER MEANING THAT THEIR P***Y IS STILL HETEROSEXUAL MEANING SHE STILLLLLL LIKE DICK. WE ACCEPT, DRUG DEALERS MORE, GANG BANGERS MORE, CHILD AND TEEN PREGNANCY MORE AND EVEN CHILD SEX. WITH ONE OF THE OTHER BLOGGERS I AGREE. NEW SOCIETY IS SOOO SEX DRIVEN. I CAN BARELY LISTEN TO A “LOVE SONG” THAT ISNT CENTERED ROUND F**KIN. AND YES BEING BI IS BOUT SEX CUZ WHEN YOUR ATTRACTED TO A PERSON THATS SAYING “HEY, I’D F**K HER/HIM”

  • TiredMan
    TiredMan
    11-15-2009 2:15 pm

    Silly rabbits…cl*ts are for men!

  • 1necutefem
    1necutefem
    11-15-2009 1:51 pm

    I LOVE BEING BISEXUAL AND IS NOT ABOUT SEX.IM JUST MORE ATTARCTED 2 FEMALES

  • DaintyJen
    DaintyJen
    11-15-2009 1:48 pm

    I agree with sylkiifeather and Tha_AngelDevil and Da_J_Rok

    is it just me or blogging has really gotten BORING! the topics….ewww, can we talk about anything other than sexual preferences and whose doing who?

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