Should You Kiss Your Kids On The Mouth?

By Jerry Barrow May 8, 2009 1:50 pm

A hot topic on The Urban Daily this week has been Cash Money’s Brian “Baby” Williams proclaiming that he would kiss his “son” Lil Wayne on the mouth all over — again. Baby was responding to an interviewer’s question about a picture of him kissing Wayne several years ago.

Now, I’m not going to dive into the pool of questioning anyone’s sexuality, but I do have some clear feelings on the issue of kissing your kids. As far as Baby’s assertion that Wayne is his “son” thus making a kiss on the mouth appropriate, I totally disagree. I have never kissed my son on the mouth, even as a baby, and my father never kissed me on the mouth. To show affection, we hugged, or I’d give him a peck on the cheek, but most often my Dad gave me a rub on my head while I was doing my homework. I think that’s why I’m bald now, but that’s another story for another day…

If I were to give any leeway to a man kissing his son on the mouth, I’d have to put the cutoff age at 2 years old. Babies are adorable and I can’t fault anyone for kissing a sweet newborn on the mouth, but when he’s old enough to wipe his own butt, that needs to stop.

I do feel that there is a different standard for mothers and specifically for girls, but age plays a huge factor to me. While I’m not a big fan of mothers kissing their sons on the mouth either, my wife does do it to our six-year-old Justin from time to time. However, even she knows that the time is coming pretty soon where she’ll have to stop. Conversely, our 3-month-old daughter gets the mouth kiss from her constantly, but I’ve yet to do it. I’ll kiss Sabrina on her cheeks, forehead, hands and even her little feet but I’ve never felt compelled to kiss her on the mouth. Some of my female friends have said they kissed their fathers on the mouth until they were about 8-years-old and agreed that the practice should stop once a certain age is reached.

I acknowledge that there are cultures or families where parents kissing their kids on the mouth is normal, but it’s not for me.

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show_stopper25

6-25-2009 7:18 am

Your mouth is very nasty and you should not kiss your kids in the mouth.Not to mention what some ppl do with their mouths. Your mouth is full of germs. I kiss my kids on the forehead or cheek and tell them I love them daily, hourly…whatever
TotallyThik2000

TotallyThik2000

6-11-2009 9:26 pm

I completely agree! When they’re babies, it’s cute, it’s okay.

My son is 3 and loves to kiss. K, no problem with that! But, I am to the point where I am trying to get him to kiss me on either cheek, forehead, nose, or chin. I don’t have to show him love by kissing him on the lips. I always tell him to give me a kiss (and, he always asks), but I always turn my face. We’re not lovers, we’re mother and son.

I do believe that fathers should not kiss their sons in the mouth and mothers shouldn’t kiss their daughters in the mouth either. It sends the wrong message when someone of the same sex is kissing you in the mouth, whether a peck, smooch, or kiss. I don’t care what anyone says or thinks, kids are so much smarter than we really want to think and/or believe!

And again, there are so many more ways to show love and affection than by kissing on the mouth. Then there’s no telling who or what else they may be kissing on, especially older children, like 12-year-olds.

Also, kissing on the mouth does need to stop @ a certain age, but only each individual child or parent can determine that.

Baby kissing Lil Wayne on the mouth is just a gross thought!
nanell

nanell

6-9-2009 12:06 pm

I agree with Hav2write. In this world now a day with some misguided ppl doing horrible and deplorable things the true form of love expressed toward family and friends gets a bad rep. Even though I dont think baby shouldnt be kissing that grown man (He is not really his son). Although the men im my family do not kiss eachother on the lips if at all its most likley a hug but mothers or women period is a different subject and ill kiss my daddy until one of us isnt here anymore (along with the rest of my family). There is one more thing, yes the mouth is filled with bacteria (CamuisMs) but what do u think ppl genitials have but ppl put their mouths on that stuff all the time like its gonna disappear yet Ive heard no complaints about that.
TwanaRain

TwanaRain

5-16-2009 3:51 pm

Well I kiss my children in the mouth and they are ages 4,3 and 3 months. I try not to kiss after eating because of fatal allergy incidents that I have heard of but I love my children and I show them with my motherly affection. If they ask for one I give it to em.
CamuiMS

CamuiMS

5-15-2009 5:27 pm

I never heard of anyone putting their purse straps in their mouth, (and its the bottom of purses, not the straps btw). get serious…
CamuiMS

CamuiMS

5-15-2009 5:25 pm

You really shouldn’t kiss kids on the mouth. The mouth is a filled with bacteria, and mouth-to-mouth contact is a quick way to spread measles, meningitis, hepatitis b…list goes on. There is no excuse for kissing children on the mouth, whether you are their family or not, it’s just not cleanly. That’s what foreheads and cheeks are for.
Hav2Write

Hav2Write

5-14-2009 11:18 pm

My daughter is 12 and i kiss her darling lips everyday. I also still kiss my daddy on the lips (avoiding the ever-present toothpick of course). It’s a peck, not a smooch. Keep “love” in context and it won’t be misinterpreted. As for the germ factor, get real. The straps of your purse have more germs on them than someone’s mouth.