DEAR KAREEM: My Man Is Boring! Help!
Kareem,
I have been seeing this guy for the last year and a half. He is a really good guy. He has a great job, no kids, and a good family. He loves me and bends over backward for me. Not to mention he is FINE! My only problem with him is that he is corny. Like, he is boring as hell and socially awkward. I like hanging out with him on a one-on-one, but he is annoying to have in the presence of others. He is like a bimbo, except he ain’t dumb – if that makes sense. Our sex life is okay. Not good or great. Lately I have been feeling like cheating on him. I miss some of the old flames that I had in my past. They were fun and kept me guessing. There only problem was they were losers or full of shit. I’m in a dilemma. I feel like I’m missing out by staying with him. What should I do? Is his stability worth not being really happy?
Kareem says,
Wow you sound like a man. Normally, WE are the ones that like to screw up relationships and the self-esteem of whom we date.
There are women that would kill to be in your shoes, and I’m sure you know this. Dudes are out here dogging women left and right, blowing out credit ratings, beating sisters down and creating baby mommas – among other things. You have a good man that pampers and respects you but you want to get knocked off by Thug-Love? ~sigh~ The irony of life.
You should have recognized that he was lame from jump street. But you probably got with him on the rebound after “Tyrone” played you out one too many times. Now all you can do is suggest an open relationship. Tell him that you like him but don’t want to be exclusive anymore. Hopefully he will recognize that he is probably too good for you and find someone that will appreciate him for who he is. Corny or not.
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The-Chocolate-Man
Get a lifeeeeeeeeeee! U lisen to too much show business/dallyhood gossipppppp (s)! Who caresssss about which woman want to open their legs 24/7 for whoever, or which one want to keep it close. At the end of the day! Most of us only have enough $$ to buy a buss pass and none for food. However, these dallyhood/show business people can purchase an expensive ride as a birthday present, he for her, and her for him……..
SnapshotNTime
Although there are many women who would love to have a man like that, at the end of the day if you are not happy then knowing that other women want a man like yours means nothing. Do what makes you happy but make sure you weigh the pros and cons before making any decisions. And NEVER cheat. If you choose to leave him then do that and then pursue what you want. But do not cheat on him. He does not deserve it. What he deserves is someone who will love him and treat him just as well if not better than the way he treats his woman. You can always suggest fun events and see if he is willing. Don’t walk away until you have tried to bring fun into your relationship. But it seems like you have already made up your mind to leave him, you just don’t want to hurt him. But the truth is, its better to leave him now (if that is what you want), rather than letting him continue to invest his heart and time into you if you know without a shadow of a doubt that you do not want him.
sigma_magnus
KARMA DESTINY YOU STARTED OFF GOOD BUT YOU LOST ME SISTER. YOU ARE ATTEMPTING TO HAVE IT BOTH WAYS BY POSING AS A REDEMPTIVE VOICE AND STILL PLAY THE BLAME GAME. YOU ARE CONFUSED YOURSELF. YOU ARE THE WORST KIND OF EMOTIONAL ABUSER.
DarkSkinnedGoddess
The key word is “happy”,She is not happy with a man that treat her like a princess and it is obvious to me that this woman have very low self esteem, I bet you she thinks a man need to slap his woman back in line This chick is an idiot and she will realize one day how good she had it and will only have her eyes to cry,I have been a victim of someone not knowing how good they have it, The brother’s excuses was my lack of interest in Clubs and late night parties,most of the time portray men as being the bad seed in a relationship, but trust me BOTH sexes are in the wrong for that,I think people need to Get their priorities straight and decide what it is that they want, You can’t expect a man/woman to be both good and bad just because you’ re confused,Make a choice sisters [and brothers].
As for this Board and the comments Once again Both sex playing the blame game,and that’s pitiful at best.
Dtown_luvaboy
WOW… did this b***h just confirm everything i have noticed about dating in todays world. I wonder how many more females will come out and say this? I’m willin to bet 75% of women think like this. Which is why they also think there are no good men around…
A female brought up a good point when she said a nigga will drop a female if her sex isnt good… but thats pepople period. If your mate cant please you, they wont be your mate long.
But to drop somebody BECUZ they treat you right is a whole diff monster. I like to call that dysfunctional… and I say that to say to any of you females that agree with any of her comments… YOU ARE DYSFUNCTIONAL.
ebonyblazer251
Dang, I know I’m not perfect, but why did Kareem have to call me a ‘bimbo’? LOL.
WestsideCartelAtl85
She isn’t about shyt at all. SMFH at her.
Karma-Destiny
My comment cut off while i was pasting it and i am not typing all that back again I’m going to keep it short: Both sexes have equal parts when it comes to not recognizing who are good for them or not, Not only men,Women also and i did call HER out, so stop acting like a victim of women shady ways, Makes you look pathetic, and only WEAK Morons give up on love and relationships because a few people deceive them, If you wanna stay single forever that’s your problem, but please please don’ t blame your lack of endurance and determination on anyone else but ya damn self
and if my comments offend you OH well
Karma-Destiny
Walk alone
You know what is dumb ? Generalization that’ s dumb, YOU KNOW that man she describe is NOT the epitome of a black man,so have a seat.
NOW the point i was trying to make sir,[beside the fact that she is an idiot ] Was that it goes both ways, We play the blame game,If you notice i call both sex out, I did not pick a side i called both of them out,When a relationship fail, NO ONE wants to take responsibilities everyone wanna put it on someone else and it’s childish In MY god dam opinion
“And if you DO wanna take it there…BEGIN WITH
IWalkAlone247
Anyway, I’m done with this topic…..
Chicks of a feather end up being s**ts together….
You people have fun with this one…I’m done…
IWalkAlone247
@Karma-Destiny
Time out…your entire argument is kind of ridiculously dumb on THIS topic at this point. Everything youjust said about dudes gets completely shut down just from reading what THIS DUDE was like….so what point were you trying to make?
And if you DO wanna take it there…lets point how broads wanna leave a dude alone because he doesn’t have a job or money, high priced clothes, or any other dumb material s**t…LIKE YOU’RE WORTH IT TO BEGIN WITH….
Guys will STILL treat a chick like royalty even if we have one f**king dollar in our pocket. But you dizzy asses these days wanna s**t on dudes for material s**t, wannabe thug s**t, and every other dumb ass issue under the sun…
Oh yeah, and about a dude dropping a chick for not being good in bed….ummm…duhhhhhhh….unlike you chicks who wanna keep secrets and s**t…GUYS TELL YOU FROM DAY ONE!! If it’s justg about sex, then it’s about sex….if the dude is REALLY serious about you like the dude in this topic is, then sex means absolutely NOTHING….
I’m always seeing these relationship topics on talk show and everything where it’s always THE CHICKS complaining about a guy lack of whatever the hell in bed. So what freakin point were you trying to make?
I mean…serious….come on now…
IWalkAlone247
This i exactly why MY black ass is staying single PERMANENTLY……
I wouldn’t be caught dead trusting ANYTHING in a skirt again….
Karma-Destiny
He loves and respect her, Bend over backward for her,is not a bum,not in trouble with the law,Not cheating on her,And she finds that boring? See it’s sisters like her that makes it hard for others to get a good man, what she is saying not in so many words is “He ain’t tuggish enough,he don’t make me cry anough, he don’t keep me all night long waiting for him,he does not have baby mama drama and i hate it” she is a loser, at the same times, Brothers drop a chick quicker than you will drop a hot pan if her head game is not mean or if she can’ t ride them the way they want so let’s not have the dudes of BP front acting like they are ALLL the kind of man she describe, You know you’ re lying! she should let him go and allow him to find a woman that will appreciate him and he needs to up his sex game..But wait why doesn’t she express her feelings to HIM?
Pretty_Mami_83
let it go let it go .if a hoe wanna hoe nigga let it go..-jt lolllllllll u gotta good man and u wanna cheat? how stupid are u ??/
IWalkAlone247
Dirty ass b***hes like that don’t DESERVE a good man in their lives. She’s gonna be the next worthless ass tramp on a thread talking about she can’t find a good man anywhere…..how the f**k are you gonna say the guy is ALL ABOUT YOU, but you’re all about being a s**t…YOU…STUPID….F**KIN….HOE!!!!…
There ae chicks out there that would DIE for a guy like the one this stupid b***h described…and just like always, a good guy comes along and he gets played….you broads are f**king PATHETIC….
SugarANDSpiceOc1
Wow, lol!
tocute4dallas
My man is lame and corny too .But I do love him
Kountry_Mayne
if being a hoe is what makes you happy then have at it.