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Is Your Man Ok With Toys In The Bedroom?

By May 13, 2009 12:40 pm

The folks over at Livesteez.com have brought up a really good question: Are Black Men Apprehensive About Toys in the Bedroom?

The reality is that most of men’s apprehension can stem from feelings of inadequacy in the bedroom. I’ve heard men say that they sometimes feel threatened by a vibrator, for example, as if the toy could potentially replace them as a lover. The truth of the matter is that if sex toys could replace human beings then we wouldn’t have relationships at all. With today’s technology people can get pregnant without engaging in physical intercourse and women are more often the breadwinners and are fully capable of supporting themselves in the world — the need to have a partner is not this practical, it’s emotional and physical.

My word out to all the men who may stumble across this article is to relax and know that your woman could never replace you with a piece of plastic and a motor. If your partner would like to introduce toys into your sex life it’s probably because she wants to share her excitement and pleasure with you. Remember, the most important thing is to listen to your partner and communicate with them so you are giving them everything they want and could ever imagine.

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So ladies, is your man comfortable with toys in the bedroom? Men, would you feel comfortable using toys with your woman? Speak on it!

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TAGS: advice, Romance, sex, sex toys
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  • Orchid700
    Orchid700
    5-17-2009 9:46 pm

    The men I’ve known have loved having toys as “props”. They can spice things up, and seem to always add to the pleasure of being with your man. Although they may help to take the edge off when we are alone, they can never replace the intimacy between two people.

  • chervonia
    chervonia
    5-15-2009 11:17 am

    Toys are a woman’s best friend especially when the man can’t perform well or is out in the streets playing around instead of working a real job(amateur-hustlers). On the other hand, toys can be a great experience for both partners who are “happily married legally for life” and like trying new things on each other. Only cry babies would have a problem with the toys because they know the performance is wack! lol

  • D_vinesoul09
    D_vinesoul09
    5-14-2009 10:55 am

    I have met some men that love to play with a women with toys in the room. Hell, i had this one guy who had his own toy that wrapped around his member and was a vibrating bullet on top! I made sure it was thoroughly clean before he used it on me however lol. But there are a couple of men (Black men) that don’t mind using toys in the bedroom, perhaps because they are secure with themselves.

  • LILMSNIC
    LILMSNIC
    5-13-2009 3:31 pm

    i LOVE TOYS!!MY MAN DONT HAVE TO AGREE WITH BRINGIN TOYS N DA BED BUT IT WOULD GIVE ME MORE PLEASURE!!

  • juicymami69
    juicymami69
    5-13-2009 2:00 pm

    sex toys are a wonderful thing if you have a partner that is open to exploring new things. and if you know that they can increase the pleasure for you and/or her, what’s the big deal? ;)

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