Stop Telling Your Man My Business!
We all love our men and want our men to be our so-called “best friend.” That makes sense in theory, but in reality, all this does is cause unnecessary drama. Your man is NOT your best friend, because if he were, he would know the TRUE number of men you’ve slept with! Only your dearest and most trusted friends know that number and your fake number, cause they were there with you through all your sexcapades. So stop throwing that title on your man, and put a complete stop to gossiping with him.
I have this friend… let’s just call her ‘Sue’ to protect her from the ass whoopin’ I’m about put on her in this blog. Not too long ago I dropped some very juicy “scoop” on her, and I mean juicy. Sue made the ‘ol girlfriend promise of not ever repeating the “scoop.” Never did I think I would have to break out the rules of engagement with this chick, because I thought it was a cardinal rule: when you say you’ll keep your mouth shut, you do it, and that includes not repeating a secret to anyone, even your man. However, Sue goes back and spills all the beans to her man. I guess the scoop was so good she just couldn’t hold it in. A couple of weeks go by, a group of us are at a dinner party together, and the subject of my scoop walks through the door. What does Sue’s husband do? Whispers in the oh-I’m-talking-about-you way to Sue and starts to giggle. WTF – are you kidding me?!?
Not only did that draw attention to them, but it was so obvious that they were talking about the “scoop” I told Sue in confidence. I had to go over and confront her about it. She admits to telling her man, and swears up and down that he won’t tell anyone. Again – are you kidding me? Men gossip just as much as women, maybe even more. The main reason for this is that they have fed into the myth that only women gossip, then they turn around and do the exact same thing and call it “hanging with the boys.”
Ladies, I am not saying you shouldn’t confide in your man; just don’t let it be with your friend’s “scoop.” Don’t give your man any ammunition to say something slick about your friends. Men come and go, but your friends are with you forever. Trust me, marriage does not mean forever. Sadly.
Mrs. Layla
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momono3
First off, I want to say I was laughing my @zz off at the ‘number of men slept with” comment. That is oh so true because deep down, we don’t want them to know anything they can use for ammunition later. We all know that during a fight, we can all drop to the Mike Tyson level and go for blood when we feel we are losing the argument. That said, NEVER TELL YOUR MAN NOTHING. ZIP, NADA! Because believe me, he is only human, and he WILL USE IT LATER. Or what if you break up, especially if it is a nasty one. How will you feel stumbling up on him and his new sweetie and she gives you that smirky/knowing look, as if he got something from YOU that he is not about to get from HER? (or did something to you or even treated you in a way she thinks she doesn’t have coming) Let him run his mouth all he wants, all about his friends, what he did sexually to a female in the past and all that because HE IS ONLY A MAN, not a friend to the end.
Imasexyred
Well the same thing could be said to you by your man- that your bestie knows all of his business- his short-comings and weaknesses and perhaps a few of his darkest secrets because the ish was all too heavy for you to hold it in. So- its probably even if he knows things about you since you probably most likely know all the dirt about him, especially when he got busted for whatever whatever or did something messed up in some other way. Trust me- I know so much about my girls’ men and their eff ups that I could definitely embarrass their boos equally if they ever tried to put me on the spot for anything my besties may have confided in them, about me. So I ain’t trippin.
blazinshawtee
wow. i must say i agree with this 100%.. i had a best friend who i confided everything in.. that was until oneday, her and her boyfriend gets into an arguement and i started defending her… than he starts AiRing all my dirty laundry. I felt betrayed. Because he saying stuff that only she was suppose to know. Anyways, that just goes to show you.. to keep your friendships and your relationships personal. when you mix the two, it can cost you both..