Steve Harvey On Golddiggers And Getting Hitched

Steve you words are so profound. Men really do not want to court woman anymore. Woman are often perceived as being a Golddigger she simply requests that a man date her outside of her house. Woman please demand of certain level of respect. Require that men go through the courtship process of a relationship. If you don’t, it makes it extremely difficult for woman who do require it. Men will then choose not to put the sweat equity into courting, because all other woman make it too easy for men. So men elevate your game.

STEVE, I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!

First let me start by saying rocki1 is absolutely clueless. There are lots of women out there who truly are gold diggers. Then there are those who have their standards and simply want financial reciprocity. Lets define the two for what they are. Then and only then will you be able to clearly see the fine line that divides them. And that line WILL miraculously become thicker. We cannot ignore the fact that there are women out there who judge a mans worth but the material things he possess. And if that’s what they use to determine what they want from a man, they will surely be blinded to the things that really make a man good; or bad. I asked my mother, in admiration, how she and my father make it work. I remarked that she must really have that 50/50 relationship across the board. She looked at me with a smirk and said, “No, son. We do not have a 50/50 relationship. We have a 100/100 relationship. We give each other our all and have been doing so since the beginning.” She later clarified that this meant spiritually, emotionally, physically AND financially. They have been married since Oct. 3, 1976. She was not a gold digger, she dug for something much more valuable, and she found it.

hello steve i just want to say thank you from a whole lot of us lady’s i am a smart woman and i have always had my head right on my shoulders and still do but u r so very right because i had a younger guy that i knew wasnt my type of a man he was more like a boy and i thought i could help him so i did have my standards up high and my wall up but i fell 4 this younger boy not a man and tried to turn him into a real true man but it didnt happen cause why i lowered my standards and just kinda accepted some of the things he was doing that i didnt like but put up with him and i dont know why and no ladies or men it wasnt cause of the sex..but i thought i could help him be a man , so ladies dont let a man tear u dwn and tell u them made up words like steve said cause everything steve has said is so so true and thats why i kicked his ass to the curb where i picked his ass up from in the first place so ladies go get steve book and read cause i did….thanks steve and i love u and always have…..

Steve you have given good advice on relationship. I am going to put this on my priority list so that I get what I want and when I want it. Thank you for the advice.

Well you are only as good as your tools and if no one has taught you how to be a lady then how do you learn? There are no victims only volunteers. People will treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated. We as women, especially women of color need to stop limiting ourselves and putting material incentives ahead of what really matters. Maybe the brother drives a bus but maybe with an intelligent driven sista by his side he can accomplish more but we snub our noses at the fact that he’s a bus driver then sit around wondering where the hell the men are at?
Steve is telling it like it is.

And men….you all need to get it together as well. But I’m not a man so you are gonna have to figure that one out!(hehe)

Peace and Blessings to all my positive folks out there!

“On the real ladies, Steve hit it on the nose,…I truly feel him and where he’s coming from,…Now all we need to do is have Mr. Harvey write a book about the brother that has learned from past issues with women. So Mr.Harvey, when will a book come out that tells women to stop judging men so harsh, Such as seeing a young man in hiphop clothing and assuming he’s some form of thug, or he’s beneath her…

yo Steve hit it on the nose. he described two types of men and i was the dude that played games. i did all types of dirt but now the games stopped I’m married to a woman thats completely different from the women i was playing games on. so women if you want to get married or have a long lasting relationship establish what you want and stay by it. trust me you will weed out the men from the boys real quick.

hey sisters listen up all the brothers on her complaining about what Steve is saying are the ones thats playing. a real man doesn’t not have a problem with what he is saying. and for the sisters that are complaining you are the ones gettig played and don’t have any standards or requirements. And it is does not mater if you ae married or think that you are so in love. it is a lot of people in fake ass marriages and they have a hoe and pimp relationship.

In response to comments that state maybe books about relationships shouldn’t be aimed at women, but if you really want to fix relationship issues to instead aim them towards men. That wouldn’t fix anything. The point of the book is to assist women who do want a real man, and to help women weed out the ones who aren’t actually real men. Now don’t get me wrong, writing a book for men could be of assistance for men who are already Real but just want to become better so as to find that women that’s for them. However it wont fix the issue of fake men (if you will). As they wouldn’t read it because they are already getting what they want out of some women. That’s the point of this book, so women can help weed out those BS-ing guys. As well into comments that delve into a bunch of sexism, it should be known by now, yes there are gold-digging women AND men, we all know that. Anything you can call a women (even though you shouldn’t call her that), you can find a guy who deserves to be called it as well. But stop trying to fight that battle, the reason women get called b***hes and gold-diggers is because its to put them down. Stop fighting the battle that there are men out there like that too. Of course there are, women and men are as different as people tend to stereotype. But that battle doesn’t fix anything, instead let it be known, “I” am not a b***h and “I” am not a gold-digger, damn it go old school and say, “I am women hear me roar”. Just don’t fight for the pointless and already known perspectives, fight for showing who you know YOU are and for what you deserve and want in a relationship. Oh and by the way no there is NOT anything wrong with a woman paying for her own meal et cetera and doing things of that nature that is true (in regards to other comments made below). But that doesn’t disclude men from knowing they should be picking up that bill. Maybe not every time, because men and women are equal, however 50% to maybe even the majority of the time the man should. Why? Because its chivalry! And damn it its not dead! Women are suppose to be able to take care of themselves and stand on their own two feet, however men are suppose to take care of their women anyways, even when both of them know she can take care of herself, because he loves her and WANTS to be there for her and do everything for her and BE her everything. Doesn’t mean a man isn’t suppose to let a women be herself, but we all know the main ideal of this, its an equilibrium in a relationship of a women being a women and a man showing his deep affection for her in one of the many ways that he attempts to do so every day. (And in response to the comment about Steve; I don’t think Steve is an expert, but he is just trying to sell a book and give out some advice. You don’t have to buy the book. But there are a ton of other people putting out books that don’t know any more than he does either. Just because he is famous doesn’t mean he needs to be an expert to want to make a book, being famous just helps him market the book).
In the end there were a few too many bias, some sexist and some blinded comments for this in my opinion. So… I had to add a little something to try and set the record straight a little.

I like Steve Harvey and undoubtedly he drops knowledge and has an intelligent sensible out look on life. However, I don’t believe that the women of the world are the ones that need to be schooled on love. I understand that ladies buy more books then do men, so of course we are your target audience, but if you really want to make a difference,writie a book for the male population and advise them to stand up and be men. Say what they mean, do as they say, and be honest. Don’t have all these mumbo jumbo ways of saying and doing things and expect us women to decode them.

out of dallas, got this marrage guy, but i dont want to have sex with him because it not right, and he can”t do his thing because of his sugars, keep him from getting, (Hard) and keeping it, but i enjoy being with him, I try to make hime still field like an man, don’t have sex at home try to keep it real,i am 57 i look good for my age ,just need to hold on, because if he did move out,where he at now i will not shack,so i tell him to stay.home.and do his best,

Tell em Steve!