Do Kids Need Their Daddy, No Matter What?

I aslo agree. My sone is 6 months hell be 7 on the 10th. The father of my child has only seen his son 1 time. I even went to va so he could see his son and still he didnt come see him because of his girlfriend. Who is having his thired child. Im only 4 hours from him. He has every other weekend off. So why not come see your son. Now he would be mad if i got into another relationship and we were serious and he wanted to take care of me and my children. How would he feel? Someone who is not the father will bend his neck to make sure they have what they need not what they want. I bet 10 to 1 he will try to be there then.

I agree with yall on some my baby father has only seen his daughter 2 times and shes’s 6 months going on 7 on the 30th of march but I feel he makes no attempt to see her and im not breaking my neck for him to see her but I got him on child support he’s not working and when he was he still has not done anything for my baby so “F**K HIM” im glad he’s not in her life he’s a dead beat and a BIG ASS MOMMA’S BOY.

Once again my humble opinion, you can not take way a mans right to be a father, if he is not the best man in the world. Let him be a good father, and maybe that will give him more motivation to be a better man. Once again I say I would rather havee children in marriage cause I believe that is the way GOD intended, however, I am not dumb and I know these things happen

SO I believe the best thing to do is if he wants to spend time with them, let him that takes some pressure off of you, it gives you time to take care of your business (even if you are without him there) two head are always better then one. You can not do it all by yourself, fathers are needed, and if you remember what it was like when you wished to see your father did it really matter if he had a job, or was the best man in the world? I doubt it, all that mattered to you, was that he was there and he showed you love. Because thats all that should matter.
In time that we live in right this second, there are a lot of men (women) without jobs, but they have kids, but if he wants to see his kids, and do something right, please mothers, put aside your hurt feelings, put aside your anger for him doing what he did, when he did, what he did. Put aside the lack of child support and look at the fact that he is putting forth an effort to be there.

Now if he is a guy who is not trying to be there, then you know what it is; but if he is trying, let the man be a father. Cause its hard to learn to be good men and women without a good father. God has given us both fathers and mothers. He said honor both not just mom.

My thoughts is that no dad is better than a bad dad. I would rather see a positive role model in their lives than someone to show my son how to increase his chances of ending up in the morgue. I don’t think they per say need their father but at least a positive male role models. I think little girls need to see how women are suppose to be treated by a gentlemen not the “thug mentality” of a so called man. I also think that little boys need to see how real men treat and talk to a woman with respect. I think that positive reinforcement can come from any positive male role model not just their father because in the end all a child is looking for is love. It would be “dads” loss because he was not around to step up to that plate. Moms responsibility to see that the kids get that loving nurishment.

I think that black men have a responsiblity to be in their kids lives to help them develop as productive young males/females and pass it on for generations to come, their are also so many obstacles to overcome that only a few are able to adapt, we must continue to develope love, respect and maturity among ourselves and not allow money, greed, selfishness, poverty, age, color of skin(dark skin vs light skin, young vs old, college vs highschool, living in the projects vs buying a home deter us from being the loving and caring people for white america to see.

I FEEL THAT ALL KIDS NEED THERE FATHER ESPECIALLY GIRLS BECAUSE SOME YOUNG GIRLS WILL SLEEP WITH YOUNG MEN OR BOYS JUS TO FILL THE MISSING VOID OF THERE FATHERS AND THE FATHERS THAT WILL LEAVE AND WONT DO NOTHING FOR THERE KIDS THEN I DONT CONSIDER U A MAN FOR THE SIMPLE FACT THAT U CANT EVEN PICK UP THE PHONE AND JUS CALL TO MAKE SURE UR KID IS ALIVE TO MANY BABY’S AND YOUNG TEENS ARE DYING

Child support doesn’t work for ANYONE. The whole system is designed to have people fail. For women it’s the pay back for years of abuse or things the dad did; for some men it’s away out from their responsibilities so who wins? No One 60% of men don’t take care of their kids and 60% of women Marry men that don’t like their kids, Go to your local DHR and ask about your state numbers of Step Parent Abuse.
2. People need to learn who and what to do Freud said ” People will be content with self gratification instead of doing whats right”.

Why women date men out of prison? and have these men teach good kids bad habits? I am in Georgia and all the kids I work with tell me horrible stories of rape, abuse and family business.

See people play stupid games accept your responsibilities I have 5 kids by 3 different women and love my kids, but I too know the heartaches a father faces.

I was in the navy and Child support killing me and someone getting half of your check and still call you for light bill money or kids need shoes,or my boyfriend stole my cards I have heard all the lies before.

But God taught me to be a man do whats right even when you know their lying see the only person that looses when you try to use people is you.

I progressed from a soldier to a Dr and a pretty good dad but all the pain and lies don’t hurt now that my kids are of age and see who did what and really loved them.

At 14 kids can decide who they want to stay with well my two older daughters I posted about having trouble took their mom to court and the Judge gave them to me and now she got to pay me child support!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

GOD IS GOOD

I have two boys, 13 & 5, and neither one asks about their dad. They have met them & rather not be around them. You cannot force a child to be around someone that they do not want to see because of their experience with them. yes, they do need positive male role models in their life, but that’s where other men in the family come in (i.e. grandfather, uncles, cousins, etc.)

YES THESE BABIES DO BECUZ I’M GO THROUGH DAT RITE NOW MY SON IS 3 1/2 MONTHS N HIS FATHER SAW HIM 4 TIMES SINSE HE BEEN BORN N DATS NOT RITE…DEY NEED THEY FATHERS LIKE THEY NEED THEIR MOTHERS…DADDYS START STEP’N UP

These dead beat dads are getting away without taking care of their responabilty is because women are not taking them to court and fighting for what’s right.

Many of these comments is on point. Children need their fathers. But men need to want to be there for their children. Some men are funny – they feel like I’m not messing with her and I’m not messing with them. And that is wrong, if you feel like your baby mother is a flight head or useless be it as it may – even more so you should want to be there for your kids to make sure they make it through all right.

I look at my son and I can see how different and more balanced he is for having has access to both his parents. No adult should want to deny a child the change to know where they come from.

I believe that a child can have a well rounded life without the child’s father bieng around.

If he/she has a positive male figure that is around, that is far better then having a deadbeat dad that doesnt do anything or contribute anything in the childs life.