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How To Get Your Ex Out Of Your System

By Deborah Bennett, Senior Editor May 7, 2009 12:21 pm

The relationship is over, you’re trying to move on, but you just can’t get past the memories. You turn on the radio and hear your favorite songs, everything reminds you of what used to be…STOP!!!

There’s a reason he’s an EX.

The folks at shine.com has some tips on how to get over your ex:

1.) Make A Bad Quality List

It sounds corny but sit down and write out all the things you don’t like about said person. Be as shallow as you want. Nobody except you is going to read about your secret disdain for his/her fashion deficiencies, chicken legs and less than stellar vocabulary. Write the big stuff, too. The time he/she was rude to your cat, how he/she always seemed to stare off into the distance when you talked, how he/she (he, who are we kidding) sat in their underwear all day Saturday and played video games. Write it all. And then whenever you get weepy-eyed about that romantic walk in Central Park eight months ago, just revert to the list. You’ll be shocked how quickly you won’t reach for your cell phone.

Can you ever really forgive a cheater?

2.) Don’t Do A Cut And Paste

When you start to get all squishy and needy inside, it may be tempting to cut and paste. You know-go out and date the first breathing organism that sits next to you. Don’t do it. Nothing (and we mean nothing) is going to get you running to your ex quicker than a soured romance by someone you were just using to get over them. Spend some time alone and hang with your friends.

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How to get him to do what you want.

TAGS: ex, List, Memories, relationships
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  • virgin_ia1960
    virgin_ia1960
    5-7-2009 4:02 pm

    Oh, I know a sure fire way…which is the old me. “I was going to say” the quickest way to get your ex out of your system”. Would be to sleep with another man. Now that I am a much older woman.I can be in the company of a man & enjoy his company. Even if he was the typed of guy to say. I don’t know the man so let’s not talk about it today. I want you to get through the day & if you need me to be here tomorrow I am here for you. Even if he wanted me for himself & planned on ended up with me for himself.

    I will not have the desire to have sex with the man. I find that if the man is a good friend he would support my garbled conversation. As I try to speak & rabble on & on about what he did in the relationship. He would give me his honest opinion & advice from a man’s perspective.I would expect that much from a friend be it male or female.

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