Worrying About The Marriage Crisis Won’t Help Black Women

There are many black men who would like and prefer to marry a black woman .but find the lack of coarseness in themselves a barrier it is required that he be more hostile. Mostly blacks in the mid-west but through out the black community in my limited observations; the women remain locked into the community of origion and thus seem to gain an unusual attachment to the worst of the men who are familiar to them. So rather than take on a new person, approach or open opportunity with a guy outside of the old grouping; a person who is trying to step up her continuity is with a self fulfilling prophecy.All the new guys are not rich

Let’s look at him; he is usually recognized as a Vick, trick, soft, or queer because he may speak well, or read more or lack the desperations to; A.) Screw you (you know have sex right away) B. Get money by any means necessary (commit crime) C.) He has a Job* he had to have settled (does not make great money or have a great benefit package) D.) He is not frivolous (He enjoys staying home with you or won’t do the clothes or club thing).

Why would that man stay still to date the black women (collectively?), as she scurries past him through the door to run to the nefarious sagger who has the swagger yet it is in a criminal mindset and pays the way in but renege on all other obligations. Yes sister the man who pays his way into you, unless he thinks that he has full title (maybe but that is iffy), know this that he will replace you when you are bent damaged or unserviceable.

I never made enough money and neither did the late great MJ as shown by the hoarding of cash, we also all wish to have health care. The preference for gate money by sisters from brothers places them at a certain level with him and those who are willing to “out bid” him too; have a feeling about that woman. It is not about the price it is because there is one; what ever the price it looses any intrinsic emotional value. With a little life experience I could see that if you make or realize more cash than me and will not offer to do a nicety or especially a necessity then what kind of partner is she?

Bottom line, if it’s meant to be, you’ll get a man regardless of the male shortage, the number of black men dating white women, and despite how hard your biological clock is ticking. Want what you want. Believe in what you want. Have patience in the time it takes to get what you want. Put it in God’s hands and you will get what you want, without having to lower your standards at all.

Plain and simple ladies. Believe and it shall be. Screw reality’s law of statistics. Be about the business of your future!

I agree about the proganda, & women chase banks instead of men & dreams!

I know one thing..there ARE a lot of GREAT BLACK MEN out there but theres one major problem as far as I see…a lot of black women chose men who seems to have MONEY. Less relationships are based on love , admiration and respect. More so its about financial security than anything else. And if thats the basis of choosing your man, it will never work and the relationship will fail (and of course it will always be mens fault as if women dont do any wrong – Although MAURY shows different ..lol!) At the end of the day, its mostly about the $$$$ not the man or his caliber!!! for example, i have a friend who couldnt get a girl for the life of him, he was in medical school and broke from the expenses. But his brother who sold drugs and had all the flashy things always had more women than he could handle. Women preferred the flashy guy with the money over they guy they figured was broke and worthless , although hes getting a degree in medicine.

i say date outside…. and dont believe all the marriage hype…….. wasnt there a article stating that “marriage is for white people”……..????

all i can suggest is read steve harvey’s book.. finesse mitchell’s book and the book called “why black men love white women”… it will give u a better insight abt men and how we act.. all i can say is try and keep hope alive…..lol

also it alsi involves the media… look at who controls the media…. unfortunately men of all races dont want american women anymore black or white…

. because allegedly american women and especially black women are called “too materialistic” not loyal and not family oriented….

just look at the SC governor… he left his WHITE wife for an ARGENTINA woman……. white woman are in serious trouble and black women too in america.

why do u think alot of american men are dating and marrying foreign women???
becuase amercian women both black and white have no clue abt tending to a american man’s needs…..

thank you….lol

I feel this marriage crisis is propoganda to mess with Black people’s minds. Especially Black woman. Because the first thing is mention is the attractiveness pyramid. Black is beautiful and the media trys to devalue Black beauty every chance they can. Hollywood is the best example. These movies, commercials, and tv shows don’t show Black couples together at all. Because a Black couple together is a sign of unity and power. Like Chuck D of public enemy said, “They have a fear of a Black planet.” Instead, the media wanna keep on dividing Black people and shows that if you marry or date outside of your race then you arrived or be accepted. Actually that isn’t true at all. Men or women shouldn’t lower their standards to find their suitabale mate. There’s a difference between being picky and selective.