I Love My Black Woman’s Attitude!

A women with too much attitude of any ethnicity is a definite turnoff in my book.

-N.S. Ugezene, author of Shaun Pascal-

I first want to make clear, if you can’t tell by my picture, that I am not Black, or African American, I am Puerto Rican, so my roots do lie in Africa. However, I was raised among mainly latinos and black people in the projects of NYC and I’ve always had a love for my minorities. When I moved down to the DC metro area I noticed a lot of black men with white women and I too, heard many of them say it was because of the attitude. But growing up where I did and seeing, and appreciating the beauty in color I never could understand that reason. The majority of my friends are black and I wouldnt have it any other way. Black women are strong, independent, driven and last but not least Beautiful and only a STRONG black man can really appreciate what that type of woman has to offer.

omg. i really appreciate this and wish i seen things like this more often thankyou for making my day.

I just tell her. You run nothing around here but your mouth. I don’t let the lip service and attitude bother me .Because you can’t have a d!ck measuring contest with me and you don’t.
If you don’t like what I doing there is the door. I feel if a woman sees she can scare or control you with all the attitude , she will keep on doing it . If she see your not going for it ..The attitude comes out a lot less . And if it does continue with bothers locked up, married down low or out of the closet gay.
That about 20-25 sista to 1 brotha. No need to deal with the attitude .Find another one.
My mom had that hard core attitude . My dad just looked at her crazy and laugh . So I just let her talk your mouth is programed to say anything.

woooo go him! lmfao thats what im talkin bout

I don’t give a f**k how much my sista’s put me threw it! I love em to death! And I wouldn’t trade yall for the world!

to add, I have dated of many different races…ethnicities..etc. I have dated many black women. I have only had a couple bad experiences with black women…I didn’t generalize…but it didn’t help.

Lord, have mercy black people please get it together and take the time to learn about each other before making judgements. I’m sick and tired of black women being cast into this angry, b***hy role because first it so far from the truth, I know way too many passive black women and second even it were true we have reason to be. Too many black women are raising families alone, paying the bills alone, working two jobs alone, going to school functions alone, not to mention listening to and watching our men degrade us, cheat on us, lie to us, give us HIV, take us for granted, in and out of the prison system , killing each other over nonsense and not taking care of their responsibilities and thats on top of living in a country where the issues black women face daily are ignored. When black women go missing does anyone care, when black women are beaten and raped I rarely hear about it on the news. We struggle to hold it together daily for ourselves and our families all too often we do this on our own if you ask me thats reason enough to be angry. And as a mental health professional I know that anger is often a mask of depression and frequently its no more than a shield used to protect from being hurt any further so this wall is put up but underneath is someone who is very broken inside. So instead of judging lets take the time out to get to know each other and listen to what your sisters have gone through that makes them so angry and be the one who helps put them back togther.

I am tired of people acting like we are not suppose to have any attitude…Hell, we have been raped by the master, kept his house, kept his land, and breast fed his babies..wtf do you think we as African women should act like with this history.

Thank you Brother for saying out loud what most are afraid to even think.

Why is it that people think you are a racist for loving your own African men?

Since when does having a bad attitude and being “a strong woman” mean the same thing?
In fact would posit that a bad attitude means you are a WEAK woman!
I dont want to be involved with anyone with a bad attitude…. a girlfriend, a coworker, a family member….
I have dated many types of women in my life, but i have never seen the unabashed rancor toward black men as with black women…. I say black men because when you see black women with white men there is no anger… strange…

How can any man of color not have love for his sister/mother….a women with the same skin color dealing with the same issues as you are. I really thing some or most of us need to look within and start loving ourselves more. We as black ppl should see if we don’t love ourselves no one else will. There is no guarantees that any women of any color will love or understand you any better than your own kind.

It’s like this! Women, no matter the color, are empowered by that thing between their legs. Haven’t you heard the phrase: “they use what they got, to get what they want”. Many times we won’t stand up and be a man! Of course they will run over you if you let them! Anybody will! This ain’t got nothing to do with violence. Just about having a “backbone”! If one chick don’t treat you right, move on to another! Ain’t no guarantee the white, Latino, or other female is going to do any better. Black women may act up sometimes, but I personally think that they are the lesser of the evils!

Wow…great, thought provoking post. Thanks so much for your candor! There are loads of issues packed in here. For a Black man to say he won’t date within his race because black women have “attitude” is beyond disappointing…it’s cowardice. For a Black man to admit this is not so much a reflection of Black womanhood, because Black women are not a monolith. Rather, it’s a reflection of the individual who chooses to react in such a drastic, almost self-loathing, prejudicial way. Yes, certainly some Black women have attitudes, but then again who doesn’t? The real question Black men who refuse to date Black women should ask themselves is what am I really afraid of? The problem lies within, not without.