Comments on: Do Kids Need Their Daddy, No Matter What?

By: Floridanigg84

Floridanigg84 — Thu, 28 May 2009 13:14:27 +0000

I have no kids and im 25 years old and dont really want any but i have been a father to a child that isnt mines since he was born and the little boy is 4 years old now and he will probably neva know his real father and im all he knows as far as father goes and i will neva walk out this little boy life because im all he knows and real men know what i mean.

By: ThickScorpianMa

ThickScorpianMa — Fri, 22 May 2009 03:36:08 +0000

I aslo agree. My sone is 6 months hell be 7 on the 10th. The father of my child has only seen his son 1 time. I even went to va so he could see his son and still he didnt come see him because of his girlfriend. Who is having his thired child. Im only 4 hours from him. He has every other weekend off. So why not come see your son. Now he would be mad if i got into another relationship and we were serious and he wanted to take care of me and my children. How would he feel? Someone who is not the father will bend his neck to make sure they have what they need not what they want. I bet 10 to 1 he will try to be there then.

By: Thickums-2005

Thickums-2005 — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 21:16:00 +0000

Some people fail to realize the affects a bad father. Some men make a difference in their kids lives good and bad. Girls look towards their dads to see how a man is supposed to treat a woman, they look at their dads behavior towards them and they later think its ok for a man to treat their children like that because thats how they were raised. Boys grow up thinking its cool to have different kids all over the place and not participate in their lives and not take responsibility for their offspring. It just goes to show the outlook of our future. There are not enough men stepping to the plate to participate.

By: LENA86

LENA86 — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 17:47:58 +0000

I agree with yall on some my baby father has only seen his daughter 2 times and shes’s 6 months going on 7 on the 30th of march but I feel he makes no attempt to see her and im not breaking my neck for him to see her but I got him on child support he’s not working and when he was he still has not done anything for my baby so “F**K HIM” im glad he’s not in her life he’s a dead beat and a BIG ASS MOMMA’S BOY.

By: sweTpye1

sweTpye1 — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 06:43:06 +0000

I know a lot of ppl won’t agree with me on this but this is kind of a sensitive subject for me. My personal opinion: My child will be 1 on jan 31. she has a male parent who takes care of her but she has only seen her biological father 4 times in her life. he has only given her $95. Yes this is a problem with me when he is taking care of 3 other kids that arent his. i grew up with my father so i understand how important it is to have a father but at the same time, i will not beg him to take care of whats his. true enough he has bills at his home and im not knocking that. take care of home first then take care of her. but he’s not even following thru on that. i have given him time after time after time. just face it yall, some daddys just aint gone do right. i’ve taken care of her with no problem since day one. so when child services contacts him. all i will say is i tried. ive given him all the chances in the world to be a father, to come see her, to come get her, to spend time with her. i dont even have to be present. so since he works on his time and his time only. child support will show him some time restraints.

By: VaselGlass001

VaselGlass001 — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 20:12:13 +0000

Once again my humble opinion, you can not take way a mans right to be a father, if he is not the best man in the world. Let him be a good father, and maybe that will give him more motivation to be a better man. Once again I say I would rather havee children in marriage cause I believe that is the way GOD intended, however, I am not dumb and I know these things happen

SO I believe the best thing to do is if he wants to spend time with them, let him that takes some pressure off of you, it gives you time to take care of your business (even if you are without him there) two head are always better then one. You can not do it all by yourself, fathers are needed, and if you remember what it was like when you wished to see your father did it really matter if he had a job, or was the best man in the world? I doubt it, all that mattered to you, was that he was there and he showed you love. Because thats all that should matter.
In time that we live in right this second, there are a lot of men (women) without jobs, but they have kids, but if he wants to see his kids, and do something right, please mothers, put aside your hurt feelings, put aside your anger for him doing what he did, when he did, what he did. Put aside the lack of child support and look at the fact that he is putting forth an effort to be there.

Now if he is a guy who is not trying to be there, then you know what it is; but if he is trying, let the man be a father. Cause its hard to learn to be good men and women without a good father. God has given us both fathers and mothers. He said honor both not just mom.

By: zero_hero

zero_hero — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 18:27:43 +0000

Sorry, but sometimed the relationship with a dead beat dad scars the children, I AM A PRIME EXAMPLE! Children need a stable, positive male figure, but daddy ain’t always it. My mother felt we needed a relationship with our father, who was in and out of our lives and that very relationship is why I don’t have productive, intimate adult relationship and have trust issues. Luckily, I had a good mother and other positive males who helped me not become totally f-d up.

By: sexylilcaramel2

sexylilcaramel2 — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 17:44:25 +0000

My thoughts is that no dad is better than a bad dad. I would rather see a positive role model in their lives than someone to show my son how to increase his chances of ending up in the morgue. I don’t think they per say need their father but at least a positive male role models. I think little girls need to see how women are suppose to be treated by a gentlemen not the “thug mentality” of a so called man. I also think that little boys need to see how real men treat and talk to a woman with respect. I think that positive reinforcement can come from any positive male role model not just their father because in the end all a child is looking for is love. It would be “dads” loss because he was not around to step up to that plate. Moms responsibility to see that the kids get that loving nurishment.

By: blkqwn06

blkqwn06 — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 08:23:19 +0000

I agree all children should have a father in their lives. I have a 17 year old daughter who didn’t even meet her father until I sued him for child support when she was 8 years old. She has not seen him in over 6 years, but she has always had father figure in her life and she doesn’t feel like she has missed out on anything. Her so called dad won’t even pick up the phone to call her. Just because she shares his DNA does not mean he deserves to be her “father”.

By: blowyourmind32

blowyourmind32 — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 06:28:37 +0000

I think that black men have a responsiblity to be in their kids lives to help them develop as productive young males/females and pass it on for generations to come, their are also so many obstacles to overcome that only a few are able to adapt, we must continue to develope love, respect and maturity among ourselves and not allow money, greed, selfishness, poverty, age, color of skin(dark skin vs light skin, young vs old, college vs highschool, living in the projects vs buying a home deter us from being the loving and caring people for white america to see.