Do Kids Need Their Daddy, No Matter What?

As one who coaches and works with kids it is very easy to see the boys who don’t have fathers in their lives and most times you know before you even meet the family.

It’s sad but many of these boys have no idea of how to act around other boys let alone men which leads to a lot of visible anger.

Well me being a Single parent at 24 yrs old myself with 2 daughters(who have the same father) I can say this: My girls father isnt around and he doesnt do anything for them… I havent taken him to Court for Child Support or anything and I dont plan on taking him for it either… Some might say I am crazy and others just look at me like what is she thinking that man HAS to pay Child Support for those kids… I get into it with my Parents, Family and Friends about the situation but I look at it like this; Me as a Mother and a Woman I feel like I shouldnt have to FORCE a MAN to do what he is SUPPOST to be doing on his own… yea I can be that CRAZY Baby Momma and bring the DRAMA but that is not in me… All I ever asked of that man is to be around his Kids thats all I want I dont need his money and I dont wanna be with him I just want him to be their… Lets face it my girls are 5 and 4 and I have made it this far without a PENNY from him… so why even bother… I think that a child NEEDS their Father in their Life wether he is a good person or a LAZY one… its our obligation as a MOTHER to teach our kids whats right and whats wrong… eventually later on down the Line the kids will realize it on their own as well…

I work with kids and i see the difference in kids who don’t have a father figure around, I say if he wants the see the child let him because those memories are whats most important which was last him until he dies, unlike his financial responsiblity which stops when he is 18. Children who don’t have fathers will find one and it might not be from the best of places

I’m blessed to have a 3 year old little boy and a little girl that’s due any day now. My kids father I’ve known for 15 years and was dating him for 7 years off and on. At first he would do things for my son when asked. I moved to another state to get my son out of the ruff state I grew up in and a year later he came down to live. That didn’t work out because he wasn’t ready to be a man. Currently he don’t do anything for my children. I was told when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter that he would have nothing to do with her, to abort her cause we wasn’t ready for another child. God don’t put more on you than you can bear so I decided to keep my blessing. God continues to bless me so I can take care of my children alone. It’s not a easy road but God has given me so much strength. God is never going to leave me or forsake me so I’m good! Even though my kid’s father don’t do anything for them I still leave the door open for him to spend time with them regardless. I would never keep him away from them due to money. I just keep praying that one day he will grow up and be a father to his children!

Being a father of five children that I support phyiscally and financally. Its is always interesting how a woman thinks see can teach her son on how to be a man, better than the man she choose to be her childs father. A child needs the Father just as much as they need there mother.
We all know someone who would not let the father be a father with there child until he or she is a teenager that is totally out of control.
I coach my sons football and wrestling teams and I support my girls field hockey teams call my children several times a week.
This ex-Husband / Baby daddy just doesnt do drama and most of the time thats is what happens when the relationship ends. WHY IS THAT.

I agree that every child needs to know who there father is, but if the father does work and pay child support and the baby mother wont let him see his kid, then I just do not know what to say. The bottom line here to me is people need to quit having kids if they are not ready. I almost fell in that trap but I am glad that I do not have kids and I do not want any!!!!

PERSONALLY A BOY NEEDS HIS FATHER TO TEACH HIM HOW TO BE A MAN, BUT IF THE FATHER IS NOT A MAN HOW IN THE HELL CAN HE TEACH THE BOY. KEEPING A CHILD AWAY FROM THEIR FATHER SEEMS TO BE THE RIGHT THING TO DO AT THAT POINT IN TIME BUT AS THAT CHILD GROWS UP HE IS GOIN TO HAVE HATE FOR YOU FOR KEEPING HIM AWAY FROM HIS FATHER. AS HE GROW HE IS GOIN TO WANT TO BE WITH HIM SO YOU HAVE TO LET HIM SO HE CAN SEE FOR HIS SELF WHAT YOU BEEN TELLING HIM FOR YEARS. NINE TIMES OUT OF TEN THAT MAN DO NOT WANT TO BE BOTHER WITH HIS SON BECAUSE IF HE DID HE WOULD BE SETTING A BETTER EXAMPLE FOR THE SON. HELL NAW THEY DO NOT DESERVE TO BE AROUND THEIR SON IF THEY R NOT DOING ANYTHING. PUT UP AN AFFORD S**T SOME OF THEM DON’T DO THAT.IAM RAISING 6 KIDS BY MY DAMN SELF AND TWO ABOUT TO GRADUATE FROM HIGH SCHOOL AND THEIR DAMN FATHER DIDN’T HAVE A DAMN THING TO DO WITH THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!

one more thing there is such a thing as DEADBEAT MOTHERS AND I DONT HEAR TOO MUCH ABOUT THAT… FOR EXAMPLE DROWNING YOUR KIDS ETC… WHAT BOUT THAT

And all these damn women on here talking about god don’t like if you have a child out wedlock…My Question to you is HOW MANY ABORTIONS HAVE YOU HAVE…???? I think aborting a baby is worst, than keeping the blessing he gave you…Or until you get to that point please don’t make stupid comments like that. You can’t make a man do the right thing but if he is and making a little effort go ahead do that….maybe god will bless him with a change of heart. If he is not…then deuces…!!!

I have 1 girl 8 and 2 boys and a 2 and 6 months and there dad is a kick ass dad. im soo blessed to say i have a a man in there lives the would do any and everthing for them and yes they all have to same father..lol but its sad to see fathers that dont take the time out to get to know there kids o meam that half of them walking around with there smile or ears you know it breaks my heart to see MAN that dont LOVE there kids enough to just stop by and say hi.. but when the weekend comes those dads are all ways the 1st ones at the club looking for new booty..lol like i said IM TRULY BLEESED TO HAVE A GOOD DAD FOR MY 3 BABYS..
and that only god..lol

I have a 2 yr old son and his father comes and goes out of his life. Regardless of this when he does come around I let him see his because raising a child is not just financially but also emotionally as well. And he will never be able to tell my son that I didnt let him come around because of money. A child deserves to have relationship with both parents and know about both sides of their family. I for 1 believe that a child that does not know their father is lost! Meaning, their is always gonna be a void there that no one can fill but their father!! I personally feel that I can’t teach my son how to be a man only his father or father figure can do that. So when it all boils down to it, A child deserves to have a relationship with their father regardless of financial help.

IM ON THIS LEVEL:MY SON IS SIX YEARS OLD AND HIS FATHER HAS NEVER CAME AROUND. THE MAN DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT HIS OWN SON LOOKS LIKE.ITS CRAZY I KNOW,BUT GUESS WHAT I LIVE WITH IT EVERYDAY. SO ON A PERSONAL NOTE IF YO BABYDADDY OR WHO IS AROUND AND WANT TO BE AROUND LET THAT MAN BE A FATHER. ITS HARD TO RAISE KIDS ALONE WITH NO MAN. TRUST KNOW BECAUSE I HAVE A HARD TIME.(I CANT TEACH MY SON HOW TO PLAY SPORTS) SO IF YOU HAVE THE MAN AROUND DONT BE PUTTING NO PRICE ON YO KIDS HEADS BECUASE THAT’S NOT HEALTH.

I could careless if a man paid me child support for my babies. I have two and two different baby daddies. Neither one pays child support. My sons father takes care of his son and sees him on a regular basis. My daughters Dad only comes around when it is easy for him. She deserves better than that. I think the relationship between a father and his child is more important than any price tag you could put on it.