Do Kids Need Their Daddy, No Matter What?

I think all children need both their parents. They may not be able to live together but they should be able to raise the children together. I understand that not all men pay child support. Hell my childrens father didnt for years. But it didnt stop me from allowing him to see them. Of course, he played what I like to call Mary Poppin’s. Poppin in and out of their lives at HIS will. My door has always be open for him to come and see his kids. And the funny part is (not really funny) that he doesnt choose to do so. I would rather for this daughter to cry for this attention and his son to learn to hate him. This upsets me. Cause I have raised my children on my own and taught them to love everyone and thing. But that is not how they feel in this day for their father. It upsets me that there are many men out here wanting to be a father to their kids and the women are to mean and hateful to allow them to be. Women it is time for us to allow these men money or not to be a part of these childrens lives. You knew what they were about when we made them. So that is not an excuse.

I will admit that I don’t know what it’s like to be a single mother.. I don’t have any childern and alot of women may feel I don’t have a say-so in this particular discussion…

However, I’m a PRODUCT

i think the father should be able to see his kid(s) even if he doesn’t financially support them because the physical presence & the emotional support the father can give has no price limit. if you think otherwise then your putting a price limit on a father/son relationship n believe it or not a father/son relationship is priceless. take from a son who has no relationship with his father. i wish at times that my father was there when i was younger because there is alot of stuff i missed out on, but now that im older i realize that i got to fill in the gaps that are left from have an inadequate father. mothers shouldn’t put financial support in front of emotional support

One last thing, the father does not have to pay child support to have visitation rights. If you base your decision to raise your child as a bastard on whether or not the father pays child support…its actually against the law! Look it up!

I agree…. My sons father thinks that it is his right to see his son, based on the fact that he has his last name… I feel that being a father to a child is a privilige andshould be treated as so… You need to take this RESPONSIBILITY as such, not as just something you choose to do when you feel like it…

Yes kids need a positive father figure in there lives and if there father can be that then yes. Even if he doesn’t pay yes not just for the child but also for the mother so she can have some me time. I myself have struggled with taking care of my children for most of ther lives with out child support and it has been hard. But keeping my Children away from their fathers yeah 2…. can cause that child some issues growing up. Might even make then hate you for keeping them from their father.

I agree that a child needs a father, but the saying having a bad dad is better than nothing, is so wrong. If a man (or woman) shows no responsibility in other areas of their life, what makes you think that allowing them into a child’s life is going to do any good. If he’s unreliable, what about the times when he makes promises he doesn’t keep? What about when the novelty wears off and the child begins to ask questions? Then the father may feel that it’s too much for him to handle, and leave. I, personally chose not to allow my children’s father into their life until he showed responsibility, from personal experience. My mother allowed my father into my life (eventually) and it hurt me and my sister more when he left. I wished he had never come, because he left with no care to anyone else’s feelings but his own, when he realized he was not getting anything out of my family. It wasn’t about money for me, although I feel his holding a job shows he was responsible and ready to be there consistently. If a child needs a male role model, I’m sure most mothers can find someone in their personal life, a friend, family member, etc, who can be there for them, but to say that a bad father is better than nothing at all is settling. That’s nonsense, because a bad dad can leave a child with more problems than being fatherless.

anyone can father or mother a child but terms mommy and daddy are terms of enderment given by your children it is a blessing and at the end of the day..no matter what type of ex-jump off, ex- boyfriend,ex-husband that man may be ..if he’s BABY’S daddy then let him be just that DADDY…father pays bills, daddy plays ball, father makes rules, daddy gives guidance, mother needs him to be a father and the child needs a man to be daddy..real men are both

I have twin girls and an 11 yr old my children s father has never supported them financially ….I am and have been single mother for yrs .I have worked 3 jobs at a time, I only have 2 now .There father keeps them every afternoon til i get off work and he also has his every other weekend ..I don’t hound him about money never have and never will.I look at it like this if he wanted to he would why should i have to ask, he knows what their needs are.They love their father and will never know he didn’t monetarily provide for them.I think all children should know both parents ,I think it is a shame people don’t get up and do what they have to for the children to know there fathers or mothers but also work for the kids needs and stop complaining. Life isn’t fair and why should your kids even be subjected to adult problems.

I’m 21 with a 2 year old son. His father sees him sometimes but is basically is in a unstable situation since my son was one. My son kind of knows him, but still thinks he is a stranger, not his daddy. I believe that a woman can’t raise a man and he does need a good male role model just not his bio father.

I think that children do need their father, and if he’s not doing the right things in life, let him visit them in limited capacity. Of course he’s not gonna come around if you ride his back when he’s there the whole time, so ease up, and hopefully he will be man enough to do better for himself and his children. Invite him to family time at the park, or take the kids somewhere together so you can ensure their safety, but ease up on the nagging. 9 out of 10 times he was that way when you slept with him, so don’t expect a miracle now. Don’t let money be the factor that makes your children unhappy, and if they so choose to leave him alone down the line, thats their choice. And I have 3 children that I raise by myself, so I’m talking from experience.

Well as a father of two I will be highly upset that I cant see my kids if I wanted too, whether I was doing right or wrong. We as parents need to make sure our kids know who the mother and father are. As the child grows then they should be able to make the choice of who they see and don’t see