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VIDEO: What If You Suspect Your Man Is Gay?!
By Abiola Abrams August 20, 2009 10:43 am

Hey Goddesses,
What do you do if you suspect your man is gay??
Abiola of PlanetAbiola.com says…
Nando of Nandoism.com says…
Tina Tobin of LuvEmOrLeaveEm.com says…
What do you say?
Mwah! You’re still fabulous.
Friend me up @abiolatv on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube, Flickr, blackplanet, or PlanetAbiola.com. Buy my novel DARE by Abiola Abrams wherever you buy books.
Have a great day being you~ despite the haters!
Velvet cupcakes & tiara kisses,
Abiola
TAGS: Abiola Abrams, advice, cheating, gay
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ZMWright
9-18-2009 2:45 pm
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Brasia65
8-26-2009 8:37 pm
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GhettoIndia02
8-26-2009 6:11 pm
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exotic_star
8-25-2009 10:45 pm
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0VancouverHurts
8-25-2009 9:00 pm
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SexyCouture_21
8-25-2009 4:05 am
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dyidyi
8-25-2009 2:38 am
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dyidyi
8-25-2009 2:33 am
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XL_611
8-24-2009 8:47 pm
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envincible
8-24-2009 12:44 pm
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_Atiya_
8-24-2009 2:43 am
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Stan_Vinyl
8-23-2009 7:41 pm
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Stan_Vinyl
8-23-2009 7:31 pm
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Kountry_Mayne
8-23-2009 6:17 pm
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Sure_lovely25
8-23-2009 1:00 pm
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masculine31
8-23-2009 11:55 am
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redbone2377
8-22-2009 9:12 pm
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XL_611
8-22-2009 6:02 pm
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kennyd4
8-22-2009 5:55 pm
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0VancouverHurts
8-22-2009 10:01 am
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ladyjlovinlife
8-21-2009 4:48 pm
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1_woman
8-21-2009 4:42 pm
« Previous 1 2ZMWright
Don’t suspect! Here’s how you can tell http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OirNo_o4E2k
Brasia65
me 2 and if my man was gay was leave his azz 4 thats guy
GhettoIndia02
If I thought my man was gay i would simply…. LEAVE HIS ASS ALONE!!
exotic_star
DEAR GOD, AS TIME GOES ON THE NATURAL WAY OF LIFE IS BECOMING LESS AND LESS EVERY DAY PLEASE GIVE ME THE WISDOM TO RAISE MY CHILDREN WITH A CLEAR STATE OF MIND A TRUE HEART OF YOUR WORK AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW WHEN THE DEVIL IS TRYING TO TURN TRASH TO GOLD. IN YOUR SON JESUS NAME I DO PRAY AMEN.
0VancouverHurts
WHOEVER REPLIED TO MY COMMENT IS SHO NUFF A SUSPECT! MUHAHA MY GAME WORKED. Stan my man, I never said we are all female i said we are all born female. You had a coochie before u got ur dick on. Burned? stoned? drowned? hanged? = that sounds kinda homophobic to me! Real men wouldnt reply to my comment. NO hate just stating the real. OBviously my comment is based on all the men in the world coming out the closet thousands by day! lol What is a girl suppose to think? Are men for women any more? lmao
SexyCouture_21
First off, I have nothing against gays, but if a man tells me after years and years of marriage that he’s takin it up the poop chute, ima kill him, simple and plain!!!!! Aids is very high and if I gotta catch something…not saying i couldn’t get it from any other straight man, because u never know the line of the people they slept with or them before that, but I would kill him!!!!!!
dyidyi
To answer the question If my man was doing that? “O hell 2 the NO!” (Whitney H.) I got to go.
dyidyi
Ewwwwwwuuu! That is so wrong and nasty on so many levels. A lie kept secret is still a lie. If a man is having sexual relationship with another man while having a sexual relationship with a female and hiding (the down low) is like low posion. STDs, HIV, along with moral issues will arise as well. Married men or those who lead double lives and engage in this risky behavior need to remember this and think; the same lips you kiss him (where ever) with you are kissing your wife, children with also. Good looks, body, money aren’t really a dead give away, plz, lol If you think so then look at the trannys out there. Lots of hardcore men are going both ways and does it seem that blacks are more acceptable to this way of like? Now thats the real question you think?
XL_611
I’d just like the people to know at hello beautiful the more of my comments that get deleted, the less I’m going to listen to others with a different point of view……….Get it? I mean if you can’t handle criticism, then make sure only the believers can get in…….
LOL
envincible
Weird….we call that dog tagging. No matter how fine a chick is if shes dog tagged she’ll get no play except from someone desperate. To dog tag one must- urinate on, shoot a huge load on her face, (not just a couple drops but like the xxx movies, the big budget ones not the grainy shaky camera, ones with a set not just someones bedroom). Get dome on while taking a dump. Or tear her bootyhole up. Most women are commonly dog tagged after she has cheated or been caught cheating and are trying to get back. After the act the male tells all his boys what he has done, thus she has been dog tagged. Or if you like your chick and you dont want someone to try a swoop move dog tag her. Commit the act, tell a friend, so who touches her then.
_Atiya_
Wow some of you look into it too far.
Stan_Vinyl
Kountry_Mayne, I have 8 earrings (four each side) I have locs that are getting longer by the day, This so called “trend” has been an evolving look I started in 1989…
I am also a man after Gods heart, a 20+ year martial artist & devoted father of 5 biological children!
I’ma need some of you people who try to GENERALIZE EVERYONE to meet me somewhere ANYWHERE in public and call me gay for how I look… just because I can recognize & accent my personal beauty, doesnt make me gay or bi-sexual.
Dont judge me HOMIE, looks have been known to be HIGHLY decieving!
My point is that I look like someone people might question but far from what anyone thinks!
Stan_Vinyl
0VancouverHurts, thinking like that would have gotten you burned alive, drowned, stoned & hanged…
That is the most misplaced information on metaphysics I have ever seen!
The Universe has only TWO aspects ENERGY & MATTER!
ALL MATTER IS CONSIDERED THE FEMININE ASPECT OF THE UNIVERSE WERE AS ALL ENERGY IS CONSIDERED THE MASCULINE PORTION OF THE UNIVERSE…
SO if we are all female, then we are all male as well only differentiated by our physical sex organs… OH WAIT, THAT”S HOW WE TELL NOW! LOL!
Kountry_Mayne
Most women like guys with long hair , braids with two ear rings long nails and back in the day that would be considered as gay or bisexual. But now a days people are turning it into a trend…. but who is the trend really for? But of course there are a few that are gay without all of that stuff. But why make it harder for your self to date a guy with female tendencies. Ask your self one question. Why does your man spend so much time with his boy or boys when he could be layin up with you ? hmmmm might be suspect.. or might be cheating.
Sure_lovely25
I actually went to a gay club the other day, i have been there like 3 times in the last six months. I saw SO many men who didn’t look gay, but when you turned around they were following the known gay guys around like lost puppies. I instantly got sick to my stomache. I have a few gay friends but it’s never put in my face like that. This was the first time i saw so many gay men there, most times it’s just a whole lot of lesbians. But, i don’t think i will going back to that club, to each it’s own, but it’s not for me.
masculine31
@ 0VancouverHurts…I have a Dikk trix lol…no man is ever born female! Da thought of it, makes me me earl hahaha! GOD made Adam n Eve, not Jarule n Fool, iight! Dont get it twisted. Comments likes these make guys question females. Ladies u have one hole 4 da pole, why r u lettin dudes stick u in da butt? dats just over da top! Wowerz
redbone2377
it takes Fagg 2 say that…
XL_611
Excellent advice Tina. That’s the real answer…….LOL
kennyd4
there is a true sure fire way of finding out,stick ur finger in his ass while having sex and if he punches you in the face or cusses you out then hes a real man but on the other hand if he starts oooohhing and aaahhhing then hes getting more manhood than you.then just ask him he might tell the truth but make sure you have his nutts in ur hand while doing it.fags tend to be very good liers thats why they end up in politics(notice in the past few yrs how they’ve come out after getting caught).
0VancouverHurts
IF HES GAY, HES GAY! aint nuthin u can change bout that, well if u confront him he might (rarely) keep his true desires to himself or sneak out n do the deed. i said it before n ill say it again, all men r gay. we r all born female lol
ladyjlovinlife
lmao at neva1betta but seriously people i agree with a lot of what you all are saying. I just don’t understand why any man would want to live that double life other than the fact that he want his cake and icecream too. I don’t mind the fact that your a gay black man thats all to common these days,but don’t take my chioce to decide to be in your life away from me by lying and deceieving . That scares the s*@t out of my because I have a son. And if you form a relationship with me and I allow you to be around my child and come to find out that you living that double life we gonna have a problem POINT, BLANK, PERIOD no questions asked . Thats the main reason why I don’t allow my child to be around nobody that I’m dating or cutting with . I just wish more women would think about that. If he sick enough to lie to you about that aint no tellin what else he got on his mind.We all know we need to protect ourself because you don’t know who or what your man is laying with when he aint with you, but what about our hearts I been in a relationship where my man at the time cheated on me with another women and that hurts bad enough especially when you have feeling for that person,but i dealt with that the best way I could. But lets be real to find out your man cheating on you with another man , you can’t compete with that. I just pray to God when he finally sends me my husband that this is not what my fate and future holds. For the men thats on the D L please allow use women to make our own decision on whether we want that in our lives or not . NOT. I mean it aint like you not gonna get no a*@ from nobody its far to many gay men out there willing so don’t ruin my life in the process.
1_woman
just because a man has anal sex DONT make him gay. not to put my busy out here but hell we are adults (i hope) i ask my husband to have anal sex, and we did, its not something i’ll give his ass everyday or even once a month but when i ask for it he’ll give it me. none of us truly knows everything about somebody, i dont know how many women he’s been with hell i want to know the last person you were with and what happened. i just know that before he got in me we had an HIV 2gether. the guy lilchiko makes so much sense to me. you have to be real about this s**t. people do and will keep there dark secrets from you.
i respect everybody’s way of life, i may not like it but i’m trying my best to respect it and not judge it. he who has not sinned cast the first stone. and judge not lest ye be judged. like the other girl said a womans intution is strong about somethings. follow your own instints about whats going on in your own relationship or marriage,