Can Men Be Monogamous?

I think in order for a man to be monogamous, we would need a woman like Vanna White…pretty, has a job, knows how to spell, and doesn’t say sh*t! LOL

Dear _chiick I think you need to read a little more stats . knowing that they are not 100% perfect , but most will say that 55 to 60 % men and 45 to 50 % woman cheat but most women wont tell but men will at times

being manogamous is about what you truely in your heart want to do in a relationship. a grown person will do what the hell they want when they want and we as “humans” have the ability to think before we do unlike animals. the question of the matter should be can people be monogamous because women cheat just as much as men. youve seen maury povich. mama’s baby daddy’s maybe but yes i do believe that men can be with only one woman and be true it may take alot of hard work and effort for some but its possible he just has to be completely ready and not just thrown into a situation he know he cant handle

lmao……lol very funny pretty boy jerome…hahaaaaa…..ole Al B. Unsure lookin azz…HA

AL-HAQ, take yo’ ol grammar police Al B UnSure looking azz and click the “x” back into the 80’s when swollen lip light skin brothas was in. Thanks for sharing the knowledge Tank, that was well written brotha.

I’m responding to TankHammers. I agree with a lot of your observations, however, I think it’s unfair to assume that all women who have been cheated on is because of the choices in men that they have made. All cheaters are not the “player types”, I know from personal experience. I just broke up with my boyfriend because he cheated on me with his ex-wife one week ago. I am not a woman who is turned on by flamboyant type of man to begin with. I look for a man who has character, integrity, and strong sense of values. But, even still I have been cheated on despite my best efforts to choose someone who is worthy of my affections. I do believe that men can be monogamous. But I also believe that the trends of the day and the cultural norms of society have infiltrated into our relationships. It’s not “G-Style” to be faithful. That’s not “pimpin”. As a woman you almost have to hope for the best and plan for the worst in these types of situations. I was single for almost a year before I even thought about entering into a relationship because I hadn’t met anyone that I felt I could have a serious committed relationship with. Above and beyond, women must maintain and sense of dignity and grace regardless of the actions or indiscretions that men may participate in. Whether it be becoming over indulged in pornographic material, strip clubs, or entering into an extra curricular affair. We must maintain our standards, love ourselves, and TRUST that what God has for you is for you. Can’t nobody take that!!! I’m not holding on to the nothing that’s not holding on to me. I can do that because I know the quality of woman that I am and that God will bring the right man who will value and cherish me. Until then don’t allow bitterness and resentment to reside in your hearts. Let yourself heal so that when the time is right you can love again.

I believe that there are men out there that can be in a monogomous relationship. They have to make that choice though….you can’t force anyone into a comittment and i think that’s where most people go wrong. Many people push others to commit.
YOu cant point fingers at just men concering this matter, that wouldn’t be right. I have seen many females go after men that were in a relationship simply to prove to themselves that they were “better” than that particular mans woman.This is about the lowest level a woman can bring herself down to, it just shows the lack selfrespect and pride. I have seen men try to manipulate women that were in relationships as well. It’s a grimey game and people have to be very careful who they choose to be with.

To me cheating is a sign of weakness. To run around and mess with peoples feelings is demeaning and selfish. If you know you cant be faithful to one person don’t waste their time… as simple as that. If a man or a woman chooses to have multiple partners then go ahead knock yourself out, but don’t manipulate , use and betray someone just to fullfill your own urges. In my eyes that kind of decietfulness is morally wrong.
My verdict is YES men and women can be monogomous if they choose to be and keep an open line of communication.

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I’m a damn near 50 year old plus sized brotha and these women are still loving me. Us men place greater imphasis on our looks than women do. Nowadays it’s all about swagger. I see ugly niggas with pretty women all the time. Also money can mae a fat gut, a f**ked up grill, and other amenities that lead to a brotha looking extremely rough around the edges go by the way side. Lil Wayne is practically a sex symbol to women, and for what really? His looks? Women make up reasons to find a guy attractive. We’re more simplistic, if it’s ugly it’s just ugly.

I agree with courtneyR men and women both need to take this AIDS and other diseases to heart and playing with people feelings isn’t right so if both genders keep it real from the start OR if the fire is dimming then talk it out and maybe you can work on having an open relationship keeping your game tight and not bringing anything to the homefront. I recently went through this with my man and instead of letting my good man go who had a past track record, I let him know this can go either way seperate or have an open relationship. Fortunate, he got smart and decided to keep his game tight. Trust me and so am I until we say I DO then the morals will play a factor but until then if it’s meant to be it will and if not then always trust in GOD to guide you through.

The question should be can women be monogamous.Women are the ones having all these damn kids by different baby’s daddies. I don’t even holla at woman on here unless they get at me and I’m impressed by what I see or read. 9/10 women on here have the same tired cliche on their pages of “I’m just looking for friends”. To a promiscuous man that more than likely raises his antenna but to a monogamous man like myself or any other that’s a turnoff. Intent like that is so vague and obscure. It can mean anything and in most cases it means “friends with benefits”. Women think they’re slick. I’m not hating but just be real and upfront. I’ve chatted with these women who have gospel music or references on their page and have a sweet innocent smile but some of the first things they bring up is laced with sexual innuendo. We are in an age of sexual liberation for women, as they say “ladies are pimps too”. They’re not just sleeping around with men but with other women too! Some try to have their cake and eat it too because their sorry ass nigga allows that type of inexcusable behavior.

A man can be monogamous i fel they are rare jewels. I pray that i can meet some one like that. Getting tired of running into the men that have their tounges out like a dog. We need more men that are monogamous to me i think that is sexy to me.