6 Things Your Husband Isn’t Telling You

The title of this article doesn’t mean your hubby’s keeping some wild secrets that you don’t really WANT to know about (well, maybe he is, but how would we know?). Instead, Parenting Magazine has compiled a list of 6 things your husband SHOULD be telling you, but doesn’t for whatever reason. Check it out below and see if you two have some communicating to do!

[From Parenting.com]

Men talk to me all the time about sex, which is only natural, since I’m a sex therapist and I make my living talking to people about their sex lives. But it’s funny how many guys like to talk to me when I’m not working, when I’m pushing my sons in their double stroller or watching them at the playground. Neighbors know what I do, and it seems to draw the men to me –and they open up about certain things that the guys who actually come to see me with their wives just don’t. Every time this happens, I end up saying the same thing: “Dude, don’t tell me, tell your wife.” Then comes the part where he shrugs and says, “Yeah, I guess you’re right, I’ll do that,” but you and I both know it won’t happen.

So I’m here, on dads’ behalf, to tell you the things they think, but won’t always say:

“I want to cuddle.”

Guys who were never big on cuddling (except, of course, in the early days when they were trying to get in your pants and convince you to stick around) are as surprised as anyone to discover that now that there’s someone else competing for your time and attention, they yearn for the physical and emotional connection that comes with a simple snuggle. Sure, all things considered, we’d prefer to have sex and then cuddle. And for some men, the cuddle is welcome because it gives us a tiny shred of hope that you want more (yes, even though we know we have to get up early tomorrow).

Too often, being a dad feels like one long, constant interruption, especially when it’s the end of the evening and we’ve finally made it to bed, only to have to deal with baby monitors beeping, desert-parched voices desperately calling out for water, and malicious talking Elmos digging their battery packs into our spines. It feels like there’s always something getting between us and you. That’s why cuddling is as much of a relief as finally getting off our feet for the day. It reminds us we still have you. Even if sex isn’t happening.

“Take charge in bed. Please?”

Okay, here’s the deal: As dads, we know that sex often feels like a chore on your to-do list. And because we also know that there are a lot of chores on that list (many of which we do our best to avoid), we end up lobbing a lot of sexual softballs in your direction knowing that most of them won’t be in your sexual strike zone. But after a while, all that pitching starts to wear us down. Sex may feel like a chore to you, but always having to be the one to initiate it starts to feel like a responsibility to us. And the last thing we need is more responsibility. Maybe it’s a function of how dads are genetically wired, but we can’t look into our children’s little eyes without seeing visions of college tuitions, spring breaks, trips abroad, and the little Picasso who’s going to grow up to be a starving artist. Even if these are years away, it feels like they’re right around the corner. The sense of long-term pressure and responsibility keeps us up at night, which gets us thinking about sex (since we happen to be up already).

So please, we’d love it if you’d surprise us by coming on to us. Get naughty with us, talk dirty, tell us a secret fantasy. Tell us you had a “sexy dream” last night. That’ll do the trick. You can act all bashful if you want, but when we ask you to tell us more (and we will), describe how you threw us down on the bed and made us your love slave.

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What’s something YOU shouldn’t tell your husband?