Why Can’t You Wife a Lady with a Baby?
Talk about double standards.
There are folks who are single, yearning to be coupled up yet scoff at the idea of dating a perfect candidate just because he or she has kids. When compared to women, men (well the ones who care) are adamantly opposed to women with kids. The baby mama can be beautiful, smart, accomplished, body banging like a benzy but once he finds out she’s given the gift of life all their hopes gets flushed down the drain.
I love my boys, gods know I do but I wanna kill ‘em dead when they get to talking -ish about how regardless of how good the woman is, if she has a child he’s gone.
One friend in particular takes the cake.
He is handsome, smart, talented and single. He wants to be in a relationship but can’t seem to stop meeting great prospects…with kids.
“Manny, how do you know God isn’t sending you a woman who has a child on purpose?”
“I know God very well, he knows what I want. SG, do you know what happens when men date a woman with kids. Six months into she’s thinking of ways to get us to marry her so her bastard child can have a daddy. She tells you to meet her somewhere to hang out. You get there and this trick is standing in front of her kids school with the spawn.”
“You really think women are that desperate?”…
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Goddesslover777-2-2009 11:31 pm
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f150man17-1-2009 1:54 am
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Duel_Heart6-12-2009 10:08 am
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MzBoutDat16-11-2009 11:50 pm
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qeutiepei6-11-2009 8:51 pm
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I wouldn’t mind having a relationship with a single mother. But I would prefer a woman with no kids because I have no kids.
f150man1
Most men don’t want women with kids for a number of reasons. If the father is still in their lives their will definetly be drama and no one wants to deal with that. Not all women with kids are looking for a new baby daddy but most of them are more serious about settling down and getting married. Children have a way of making some people grow up. Women with children will have less time to spend with her man and less money as well.
I’m married but if I wasn’t I wouldn’t have a problem dating a woman with a child. I look at a woman’s character and if she doesn’t take care of her child she won’t take care of a household. Two and Three children may be a problem because that’s a ready made family and I would probably pass on that. I would probably pass on the relationship if they are pass a toddlers age especially teenagers.
Yes there is a double standard but the world isn’t fair.
Duel_Heart
I’m going to be veryyyyyyyyyyyyy honest on this issue since I have dealt with it before a number of time. I’m speaking from the point of a successful black man with everything going for himself, and I do mean everything. But some women are bitter, sour, too much baggage. Women with children all seem to do this thing where when a black man does not want to marry you because you have a few kids with other man they say your not worthy are not good enough, are always something negative. When truth be told. A women with kids normally will not let you discipline the kids properly, will not really let you be the father 100 percent of the time. Always a type of unneeded connection with the father of the child and I don’t mean sexually its just something that I don’t’ prefer to deal with. IT’s very funny how a women wants you to come and be her man, but you can’t speak on your thoughts on how the children should be raised. And the attitude of the is so far out there from all the drama she normally has to go through it’s a total pain trying to explain to her that you don’t want to hurt her, steal from her, are anything negative, you just want to be a father to the kids.
MzBoutDat1
I THINK IT IS NOTHING WRONG WITH A MAN OR FEMALE GETTING MARRIED BEACAUSE THEY HAVE KIDS. BEFORE YOU GOT IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU KNEW HE/SHE HAD KIDS SO THAT SHOULDN’T CHANGE ANYTHING. BESIDES IF YOU REALLY LOVED THAT PERSON IT SHOULD MATTER YOU SHOULD GO AHEAD IN WIFE THEM. IN ME PERSONALLY ITS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT AS LONG AS YOU TREAT THE KIDS HOW YOU TREAT YOURS.
qeutiepei
I would love a guy to be able to deal with me and my children and grandchildren. But so far, none have been worthy. I dont want a man just 4 sex. I can get that at any spot. its not necessary. And I won’t date just to get comfy enough to get sex. Too many Adult Toy stores to fix that problem. Fake Men are easily replaced. I am looking for a real man. I don’t like the idea of a man trying to tell me how to raise my kids. I have done that. I have had some guys try to tell me how to raise my kids but they r Teens. I am basically done. My kids are respectful and do most of the work. My grand kids are really the ones i need help with but there again my children take all that responsibility except potty training. So I guess i would need someone to keep me happy. I got the kids done. I don’t havebaby daddy drama never have. He pays and thats his responsibility. Nothing more. I got the kids n he got the bills. His choice. But I now understand a lot of guys thoughts. My male friends helped and have been happier for it.