6 Types Of Cheaters To Avoid In 2010
Along with your New Years resolution to slim down or quit smoking, make sure you remember to drop that loser you’re dating (or to stop being that loser yourself), because did you know there are six different types of cheaters? Dr. Doug Weiss does. The president of the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy and founder of the counseling site SexAddict.com, explains that cheaters come in six varieties, so say “bye” to the Tiger Woods, Swizz Beatz, and Dwyane Wade’s of the world.
1. The Hero/Nice Guy Cheater
This is the person who “wants to help.” They want to rescue you, the damsel in distress, so to speak. This person wants to be a friend to you, talk about the your life, marriage, kids or job. The hero/nice guy’s adulterous heart is quick to praise you, quick to appreciate and quick to pick up on cues as to whether you are starting to trust them. They get excited when you trust them, because they are close to the kill. Even after sex, they want to be seen by the victim and themselves as a nice person.
“Heroes want a woman to tell them, ‘You’re wonderful,’” explains Dr. Weiss.
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2. The Hurt/Wounded Cheater
This man plays the victim role, i.e. their spouse doesn’t love them, appreciate them or have sex with them. This is the person who is looking for someone, anyone to help them in life. They are the person you feel sorry for. That is their way of reeling in their victims. They are constantly looking to be saved, helped or delivered from their circumstances or current bad marriage. They attack victims with their neediness.
“He manipulates women through pity,” says Dr. Weiss.
3. The Professional Cheater
This type of cheater is typically a man. He is not looking for love, nor does he care about the other person’s wants, needs or what they think of him. He wants to be serviced. He believes he is paying for the confidentiality of their sexual acts. This person tends to have stashes of cash that nobody is aware of. They want to look normal to themselves. They have the nice wife, kids and regular vacations, but they want to be bad when they want to be bad. They rationalize, “Nobody knows, nobody gets hurt.”
“They professional cheater is looking for anonymity above all,” Dr. Weiss says.
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MsIm2Good4U
Yeah I say how bout we all just openly cheat and use condoms.
DivineDiva23
I think the article just says “he” in a human sense, not specifically in a male/female sense. I know plenty of women who cheat and I have been one. I think sometimes our reasons and rationale can be different too. Women love with their heart/emotions first, men love with their brain and then the heart follows. If we feel emotionally disconnected or cut off sometimes we will go and seek out a guy who can give that. This would be comparable to the victim cheater from the article. I don’t think that its so specific on the gender; focusing on the characteristics makes it easier to understand. Just like they had that pic of shaq they could have used the pic of Arenas’ BM in his place-but who KNOWS her? Lol, I think they used men because we have men in the headlines from 09 that were goin’ INNNNN!
Jahz_Lynx1
Everything I need to know about male Cheaters I learned in kindergarten. “Cheater! Cheater! Pants on Fire! :} Everything I needed to know about female cheaters, I learned from James Brown. “Hot Pants!” gives fellas a fever, spastic fits, the feelin they get, never quits. In a nutshell, cheaters screw up their lives and the lives of others. To avoid this type of painful interaction, monogamy with oneself guarantees you know where that loved ones been all day.
And if you don’t like the lovin’ you only have yourself to blame.
babytonnie
Seeing as how there are those that have problems with remaining faithful and a very small percentage of those that remain faithful are actually happy about it (they see it as more of a task to be accomplished than a normal part of a committed relationship), I think we should all agree to not be monogamous anymore and move on….problem solved. Granted we just took a step back in the evolutionary process (primate here I come
…) but in the long run lack of “cheater” drama will make for much happier individuals.
RichardMann11
Hell yeah i want my “cake and eat it to”, it’s my cake what the f**k i’m suppose to do? the way these 3 points are presented are as if the man is running some sort of pre planned game on women. who says he is not legit in what he saying, what his reasons are for cheating. not saying he is right for cheating or that his reasons justify him cheating but why does it have to be some sort of’ pre-planned game’. both men and women cheat and for different reason, but it dont mean they reason are not legit
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tasty_luv80
No. Everyone does not cheat. I was married for 20 yrs and never cheated on my husband..he did enough for us both.
--KATIE--ANN
How about they all human beings no one is not perfect …..Ummm How about Majority of folks cheated men and women ….I dont condone it but does happens…We all was created out of sins… ..I dont care what these people do….I am just kinda of bothered by Tiger Woods…Not even one of the chicks are black …Unless they are not coming forwarded and they know how to keep it on low low ….ha ha … Lyrics …From Xscape …. Everybody cheats,
But you gotta know how, you gotta know when and got to know who to cheat with lol .. Hellobeautiful I cant stand your post…Im pretty sure you cheated!
CAROBINSONFIELDS
Swiss needs a profile augmentation!! WoW!
AbstractARTS
Agreed @ Sweet
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Sweet_SS
How about we say something POSITIVE about our people?????? People do still want to hear GOOD news
tom_collins09
how about speaking on the women cheaters…
CaliFemme23
How about we avoid ALL cheaters…