“If she can cook, communicates well, has ambition and goals, is beautiful to you and has bomb p*ssy just stop there and give that woman a ring!”

I thought about this enthralling statement over a crisp vodka tonic on my balcony while overlooking the lush green forest behind my apartment. I glanced down at my dinner and thought well I know many women whose culinary skills are top notch, they communicate as good as the next, ALL women are beautiful! I am not touching the coochie factor Drake spoke about with a ten feet pole but you get my drift…hopefully. A handful of women have the basic wife requirements Mr. Aubrey Drake Graham so eloquently outlined.

A handful of women are also single *points to self while doing the two-step*. I am convinced that if my generation takes to Mr. Graham’s quote with the same conviction as they do bible scriptures, we’re in trouble.

I pay attention to the couples in my life who are doin’ the damn thing and I can tell you that the tangible aspects of your being are only one third of what a man would consider wife material.

The beauty of the unspoken and almost holy wife material requirement is that they are unique to each and every couple. However there are qualities of a wife that go beyond sex and cooking that most of us are never encouraged to develop. Here are a few to consider:

Compassion: Compassion will have you either mess up or take in all the neighborhood stray cats or this quality will have you always see the big picture in any circumstance. Compassion takes you through those times where on the surface and to others your lives together seems doomed but you see beyond that. You see the success; you can still exhibit loving behaviors in time of turbulence. Compassion consistently with all whom you may come in contact with is an important wife material quality often overlooked.

Integrity: This quality takes on different forms. Integrity is not necessarily arguing to the point of exhaustion because you are firm in your belief. A more docile wife may appear more laid back and submissive, and not someone who has any “strength” however the wife and her husband have an understanding of each other’s values and principles. They are aligned and contained within the household, their bond is secure.

Consistency: A wife doesn’t change her mind one day and decide that she wants to step away from her duties, unless she is getting a divorce. Consistency is key, human beings are creatures of habit and when we have consistency in our lives this creates security. If a man knows that his needs will be consistently met and of course vice versa than he feels more comfortable and willing to trust his life in the hands of this person.

Just a few thoughts, I understand that this list will vary depending on the needs of the individual man, but I think that instead of trying to perfect XYZ we need to reconnect with the heart and soul of our humanity to work on the qualities that make us love hard, strong, and wisely.

HB fam, what are your thoughts on Drake’s quote? Do you feel as if there is any truth to what he is saying?

If you are married, what advice would you give to those wanting to fit this “wife material” mold?

If you are single, what is the best advice you have been given so far about qualifying as ‘wife material”?

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About the author: Telisha Ng is a freelance writer and author of the Goddess Intellect blog from Toronto, Canada. Connect with her on twitter @goddess_I  or send her an email contact@goddessintellect.com.

A week after the Philadelphia 76ers’ Allen Iverson announced he was leaving basketball for the rest of the season to be with his sick 4-year-old daughter, the star’s wife filed for divorce in Fulton County Superior Court.

In the divorce petition filed on Tuesday, Tawanna Iverson said her 8 ½-year-long marriage to the guard was “irretrievably broken.” In the petition, Tawanna Iverson asked for temporary and permanent custody of their five children as well as child support and alimony.

She did not ask for a specific dollar amount. The children range in ages from 17 months to 15 years. –

Guess it’s safe to say Tawanna has had enough!!!

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We came across this article on egyptsaidso.com and just had to share. Author Steven James Dixon gives 10 Ways to go from Girlfriend to Wife:

Be a Woman All Day, Everywhere

Have respect, pride and dignity for yourself. If you let your friends take advantage of you, so will your man. If you come home crying about your job every day without being proactive about getting a new one, your man is not going to find that attractive. Be sexy, sweet, sassy, feminine and most of all, be womanly.

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Be Independent

Not just financially, but be an independent thinker overall. Take the time to learn you and what works best for you instead of taking someone else’s advice and forcing yourself into a box. Your core person should not change simply because you are in a relationship. Be independent of your man and have your own life.

Stay On Your Tippy Toes

Don’t get comfortable and lazy on your man. Don’t just think that he is going to marry you because you have been together for a few years. Get fine-ER, get smart-ER, be bett-ER. A man wants to see growth in you and wants to be excited about who you will be in the future.

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Tiger Woods will be cited for careless driving for his car accident early Friday morning, and even though we know what really went down, that pretty much wraps things up.

According to People:

“The investigation has concluded that Mr. Woods is at fault in the crash,” a Florida Highway Patrol spokeswoman said Tuesday afternoon at a press conference, saying that they found that Woods, 33, had not driven in a “careful and prudent manner” when he was hurt in a one-car crash outside his Orlando home.

Police said there were no claims of domestic violence in the case and “there was insufficient evidence available to issue a subpoena for additional medical information that may exist.”

Was Tiger high on prescription drugs?

Take a look at the couple below:

Why is Tiger Woods hiding from the cops?

Days after he was supposed to speak with Florida Highway Patrol troopers, Tiger Woods and wife Elin Nordegrens are scheduled to speak with authorities at their Orlando, Fla.-area about the minor car accident outside their Florida that left Woods with facial lacerations. The couple turned the troopers away both Friday and Saturday.

According to US magazine, although they are not required by law to discuss the incident, the couple’s reluctance to talk fuels ongoing speculation that a heated argument — regarding a National Enquirer story claiming Woods’ affair with Rachel Uchitel — played a role in Woods’ injuries.

While pulling his 2009 Cadillac SUV out of his driveway, Woods hit a fire hydrant and then slammed into a tree around 2:25 a.m.

Tigers Woods,retained the services of Orlando criminal attorney Mark NeJame to represent him in relation to Friday morning’s incident at the golfer’s Orlando home.

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The clean cut golfer issued the following statement today:

As you all know, I had a single-car accident earlier this week, and sustained some injuries. I have some cuts, bruising and right now I’m pretty sore. This situation is my fault, and it’s obviously embarrassing to my family and me. I’m human and I’m not perfect. I will certainly make sure this doesn’t happen again.

This is a private matter and I want to keep it that way. Although I understand there is curiosity, the many false, unfounded and malicious rumors that are currently circulating about my family and me are irresponsible.

The only person responsible for the accident is me. My wife, Elin, acted courageously when she saw I was hurt and in trouble. She was the first person to help me. Any other assertion is absolutely false.

This incident has been stressful and very difficult for Elin, our family and me. I appreciate all the concern and well wishes that we have received. But, I would also ask for some understanding that my family and I deserve some privacy no matter how intrusive some people can be.

Windermere Police Chief Daniel Saylor says that Nordegren used a golf club to smash the back window and free Woods from the vehicle. “According to officers, she was very upset and frantic,” Saylor tells WFTV. When troopers arrived on the scene, Woods was reportedly going in an out of consciousness but was quickly stabilized.

Something tells me there is more to this story.  I will definitely keep you updated as this story unfolds.

Take a look at Tiger and his wife below:

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Does Monica still have her little raggedy a** unpaid publicity stan running around on the alley trying to get us interested in the b**ch??? If so, this is for you b**ch. Watch your a** bitch. If you wasn’t so desperate for money and fame your as**would be satisfied with that little minor leagues hustler you call a effing man instead of giving your # to my man and then smiling right in my effing face. You B list b**ch!

On the set of Monica’s reality show

So. My man and I were shopping in Saks Fifth Avenue (the flagship) and needless to say, I wore his a** out so he took a seat in the women’s shoe dept to take a load off and hold the bags as I went and checked out “just one more thing honey” on the other side of the floor. Eventually I find another purchase so I call my honey’s cell phone from the register. He comes over and as we head to the elevator, Monica walks by. Now I’ve met this whore before so I smile politely and frankly couldn’t put my finger on who the eff it was cause she looked busted. He goes, “That’s Monica.” I’m like “Oh yea that’s right.” We hop on the elevator and as the door closes, this b**ch jumps on and says “I see you found your wife.” He says “yea” and we both make some small talk with this heiffer as we go back down to 1. (she was with some butch looking b**ch who never said a word). The whore was all smiles at me, very complimentary about my shoes, my ring etc. Hubby’s quiet. As soon as we get off the elevator and this b**ch is out of earshot honey tells me that the b**ch was so far up his a** in the shoe department before I called and that she kept telling him “Put my number in your phone, we should go out.” He told the whore he was with wifey and she never stopped trying to push up til his phone rang and it was me calling telling him to bring his a** on!

Now, this b**ch will know exactly who he was when she sees my post but Monica “THE BOY IS MINE”. You jersey chasing has been three hit whore!!!!!!!!

My man got cussed out too for not alerting me to this fu**ery until after the b**ch was gone, however, he knows me and I guess he was not in the mood to bail me out or for the two of us to be on Page Six over some hoodrat shit. But no worries, I will see this b**ch again. Unless she sees me first because I know the b**ch don’t want none.

Take a look at our Monica gallery:

Monica does the Mo’Nique show

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It’s not every day you hear about a woman being arrested for abusing a man, but we just found out that former child-star Gary Coleman’s wife was indeed arrested for domestic violence.

According to contactmusic.com, Gary Coleman’s wife, Shannon Price, has been charged with two misdemeanors including domestic violence and disorderly conduct in Santaquin, Utah, where the couple have a home.

According to authories, Price allegedly broke household items and Gary was not harmed.

Shannon was booked at 8:32 p.m. and released on $1,205 bond.

Check out the couple below:

Yes, I was that chick. *shudder*

But I’ve since grown past all that foolishness I used to engage in at 18. My husband knows his stuff is safe with me and I won’t go rifling through it the first chance I get.

But there’s one thing I don’t really budge on.

Female friends. I’m not talking about the ones that he grew up with, the ones that cemented their place before I even met him. I’m talking about running into some woman at a work function or someplace, getting her number, making calls and plans to meet and hanging out.

Uh-uh. No way…

To read the rest of this article, go to BlackAndMarriedWithKids.com. What do you think about your significant other having a platonic friend of the opposite sex?

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Example:

Last week, I finally decided to mention to my husband that the oil change light in my car was on. I told him it had been on for about a week and that he needed to take my car to get the oil changed after he got home from work. I’d watch the kids and make dinner and by the time he got back, dinner would be ready.

Now, I admit, when I got married I had some preconceived notions of how everything was supposed to go down. Who would cook dinner (me), who would wash the cars (him), who would do the kids’ hair (him…LOL). Getting the oil changed in the cars is CLEARLY one of those “man” things I expected him to do…

Are certain things a “man’s job”? Read the rest of the article at BlackandMarriedWithKids.com and let us know!

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