Vanessa opened up because she’s prepping for her memoir, You Have No Idea. Although most people who suffer through molestation deal with a lifetime of issues, Vanessa maintains that the molestation has not screwed her up mentally or emotionally. The Desperate Housewives actress tells PEOPLE, “It didn’t paralyze me, and I don’t dwell,”  She went on to say that it did cause her to act more rebellious and “pull away” from her parents as a youngster.

It’s great that she’s opening up about it. This type of disclosure takes a lot of courage.

Vanessa Williams: 47 & Nude On Cover Of Ebony

Lance Gross & Vanessa Williams Join Kim K. In New Tyler Perry Movie

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The film tells the story of Judith (played by Jurnee), an Ivy League-educated relationship expert who makes her living dispensing marital advice, but is so bored with her own marriage that she breaks her professional code and cheats with a smooth-talking client.

Lance Gross will play Brice, her husband, and Vanessa Williams will play her mother. Kardashian will play Ava, a co-worker who gives Judith a big city makeover and new confidence as she struggles with her personal issues.

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Vanessa Williams: 47 & Nude On Cover Of Ebony [PHOTO]

Vanessa Williams On “The Blind Side”: “White Family Saves The Day”

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Take a look at some of the best and worst red carpet fashion moments from past Golden Globes below:

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GALLERY: 2010 Golden Globes Red Carpet

The mother of four dons nothing but a white fur coat, shoes, and jewelry.

The make-up and hair is way over-the-top, but we still have to give her props.

Vanessa Williams On “The Blind Side”: “White Family Saves The Day”

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COUGAR BATTLE: Vanessa Williams & Vivica A. Fox

Vanessa Williams

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Check out the star-studded red carpet from the 2009 Emmy Awards! Tracy Morgan, LL Cool J, Vanessa Williams, Seal & Heidi Klum and Shar Jackson all attended!

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Celebs & Strippers…what’s the allure?

NeNe Leakes: “I’m not a b*tch!”

‘The Blind Side’ may have earned several Academy Award nominations and a Best Actress win for Sandra Bullock this past weekend, but Vanessa Williams is clearly no fan of the movie. Williams said on ‘The View’ that the film, which depicts a homeless African-American youngster who is adopted by an affluent white family, does little to improve race relations.

Williams argued that film only reinforces the notion that African-Americans need whites in order to succeed.

Do YOU agree?

COUGAR BATTLE: Vanessa Williams & Vivica A. Fox

GALLERY: Vanessa Williams & More Stars Shine At The 2009 Emmy Awards

GLAM OR GROSS? Vanessa Williams: Styled By A Drag Queen?

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I had to stare at this picture for a longgggggg time before I could figure out what to say about it. I was literally speechless. Vanessa Williams has apparently picked her album release party as the right time to hire a drag queen as her stylist. It’s like someone got her drunk, blindfolded her, and locked her in Patricia Field til she came out in whatever she could find. I’d say she’s too old to wear something like this, despite her hot cougar body, but I don’t think anyone, of any age, could wear all this crap put together and pull it off. Judging by the way she normally looks on the red carpet, I’m pretty sure someone told her she needed to “funk” it up a little bit for her album release, so she went along for the ride, but the whole time was secretly thinking, “I can’t believe I let you make me wear this s&*t.”

BRB, I gotta grab some tissues. My eyes are bleeding.

What do you think of this look?

Vanessa and Vivica were both out and about last night! Miss Fox attended the screening for her final episode of The Cougar and the Vanessa Williams was promoting her new CD. Check out the pics and tell us which one was more fab!

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Does Vivica have eyes for Flo-Rida?

Thembisa Mshaka, as a creative executive at Sony Music, helped launch the careers of Beyoncé and 50 Cent. Now an executive at BET, Mshaka has gathered her experience and those of almost 100 other women in the entertainment business in her new book, “Put Your Dreams First.” The book is an instant mentorship in all aspects of the business: Movies. Music. Radio & TV. New Media. Advertising & Publicity. Style & Design. Management & Representation.

We sat down with Mshaka recently to discuss how she turned the idea of this book into reality, and got some juicy details on how she got Vanessa Williams to write the foreword for “Put Your Dreams First.”

What was your inspiration for the book?

There was really no one incident, more like a recurring series of the same incident in different settings. At the magazine where I was an editor, I was the only Black female to ever hold the position, and was appointed to it at the age of 21. I would moderate panels and be the only female on the dais. I would participate in panels and be the only woman of color who worked in entertainment.

At the end of many panels and events, women of all ages and backgrounds would literally bum-rush the table and ask me to mentor them, or help them with a specific situation, or ask me how I got started. I kept in touch with some, but inevitably I could not give them the mentorship they deserved. Which got me to thinking: What if I created “mentorship in a bottle” for these women, and anyone else who wanted the real story on the business? The idea lit me up, and I started researching to create what would become “Put Your Dreams First.”

What’s the most important thing you want women to come away with from this book?

Can I be honest at the risk of being a bit crude? The one thing I want women to get from “Put Your Dreams First” is that you do not need to get ahead by giving head. Unless you’re a soccer player, put away your knee pads! There are many more successful women in the business than they realize who got there with their clothes on and their integrity intact. I say this not to judge those who may not have; I believe God is the only and final judge. I believe even these women may need that affirmation so they can work in the business with dignity. If this book can give them that, I’ve accomplished my goal.

I’ve been in this industry for 17 years, and am disheartened by the predominant representation of women in our business as eye candy, gold diggers, human accessories in videos. Sure these women exist. These archetypes predate the entertainment industry as we know it. And they aren’t going anywhere. But that said, it’s 2009, and the time for balanced representation has come. We are finally at a point where the prospect of equal pay for equal work can become a legislative reality.

What was the most interesting interview you conducted and why?

If I had to choose standouts, I would mention Tina Davis, who speaks in detail about becoming a heavyweight in the A&R field and developing stars, including her own client, Chris Brown;  Mo’Nique, who spoke about how to fire a manager; Lisa Cortes, who shared her triumphant story of rising from a painful lawsuit to become one of Hollywood’s most sought-after film producers; Cathy Hughes, who talked about why she refused to choose between her son and her education; and Tylibah, an emerging lyricist and self-published poet who refused to sleep with prominent men in the music world in exchange for opportunities. All of these women are courageous and inspiring.

What was the most surprising finding you encountered in your research and interviews?

That 80% of my respondents cited the absence of mentorship as the greatest barrier to their advancement in entertainment. As someone who had the benefit of multiple mentors, I realized how blessed I was to have those sounding boards and pillars of support.

How did you get Vanessa Williams to write the foreword?

This is a GREAT story. Vanessa and I are both clients of a wonderful salon called the J Sisters in New York City. Jane, one of the founders, was talking with me during a service. I lamented that I had a very strong short list of women for my foreword, but that I felt like it would be no easy task to secure one of them. I explained to her that this woman would have to have been successful across many areas of the business: music, film, television, stage, fashion, radio, or some combination of at least three. So you can imagine the list: Vanessa Williams, Whoopi Goldberg, Janet Jackson, Nona Hendryx, Barbra Streisand, Jennifer Lopez, Madonna.

Jane says, “Vanessa! She’s the one. She’s a client here too. I will call you the next time she’s here for her manicure, pedicure and hair appointment. You MUST rush over as soon as I call, okay?! I agreed, with my heart doing backflips inside. Vanessa was truly my first choice, especially because of what she endured to maintain her career post-Miss America. One day, Jane called. I rushed over. And sure enough, Vanessa was a captive audience of one soaking her feet and unable to move. So I spoke to her about the project (it helped that I had interviewed Lisa Cortes, whom she knew form her days as an artist with Wing/Mercury Records). She loved the idea and asked me to send her a few chapters to read while she was on the set of “Hannah Montana: The Movie.” She literally read them all from her Blackberry “from a cornfield in Tennessee” as she put it in an email. And within a couple weeks, I had an email containing her foreword, written 100% by her. Vanessa Williams is a woman’s woman; the real deal. Gorgeous inside and out. She didn’t have to even talk to me at the salon, let alone contribute the foreword. But she understood my mission. I am forever grateful to her for lending her name and part of her story to the book. I cannot wait to read to her memoir, which she’s working on now.

How do you balance your own career and personal life?

I don’t. I can no more balance the personal and career aspects of my life than I can divide them. They are inexplicably tied to one another, because I only have one life. So I choose to make my one life work. Teetering on the verge of falling between extremes is not living; that’s what I think of when I hear work-life balance. I strive for work-life function so I can be fully present in the moment as often as possible. I involve my very crucial village of family and friends when I need to, and take care of myself with solo vacations and spa days. Women should not be made to feel guilty for wanting careers, families, and relationships.

Have you ever had to deal with sexual harassment? Pay inequity? Bigotry?

Yes, yes, and yes. But you’ll have to read the book for the details.

What was the hardest lesson you ever learned in your career?

Actually, two tie for first place: That crying while on duty is a no-no, and that incompetent men fail up entirely too often to the detriment of very capable women.

This book in an amazing assembly of a virtual mentorship dream team. Who were your mentors?

It is important to have at least one for every major life transition you make. I am blessed to have had many. First and foremost, my mother, Fulani Mshaka, who I lost to cancer in October of 2007. The book is dedicated to her; she fed my love of words with books and movies. She was a social worker and therapist, my model for the importance of service to others in need. When I moved to Oakland, artist developer and beauty consultant Kelly Armstrong, who was a role model of success in the Bay Area entertainment scene took me under her wing.  I met author Terrie M. Williams, at a Learning Annex event in San Francisco. When I moved to New York, I contacted her and she always made time to set me straight or invite me to events where I could learn and network. Industry giants Sharon Heyward and Dyana Williams have been a great source of wisdom for me. SO much so, that I included them both in the book. Last but not least I have to acknowledge Johnnie Walker, whose leadership through NABFEME has been invaluable. Remember: you don’t have to talk to mentors every day for them to serve in that capacity; you can be mentored by their actions and their legacies as well.

For more about “Put Your Dreams First” and author Thembisa Mshaka, visit the following sites:

Thembisa Mshaka’s BlackPlanet page

“Put Your Dreams First” Amazon.com page

Fact: I have the biggest friend crush EVER on Vanessa Williams. I rocked out hard to her first album when I was a kid, and have pretty much followed her all the way up to her role as the awesomely bitchy Wilhemina Slater.

So I’m really glad her pretty yellow dress gets a big thumbs-up “GLAM” rating from me, because I’d hate hate hate to put her down. She’s on the red carpet at the Hannah Montana: The Movie premiere looking like she’s totally into the idea of spring, just like another favorite lady of mine. The clutch and chunky turquoise necklace are great add-ons, too!

What do you think of Vanessa’s look?

From More.com

Vanessa Williams, 45, has gone from beauty queen to Ugly Betty’s queen of mean. Along the way, she has rewritten the rule book for women who know exactly what they want!Vanessa Williams isn’t the kind of woman who would risk breaking her ankle rather than ask for a better-fitting pair of shoes. As the crew of Ugly Betty sets up a shot on a street corner in downtown L.A., which is doubling for New York, she sends a wardrobe person scurrying in search of something more comfortable than her black stilettos. In less than a minute, she is presented with open-toe, patent leather pumps that won’t slip off her feet.

Williams is now fabulous from head to toe, as befits her character, scheming fashion editor Wilhelmina Slater — decked out in a high-collared silver jacket; a gray, knee-length pencil skirt; a sleek, streaked wig (similar to her own hair, but styled for Wilhelmina’s larger-than-life persona), and an hour’s worth of makeup. At 45, Williams is still the radiant beauty who, in 1983, became the first black Miss America. But television doesn’t do justice to the mischief in her striking blue-green eyes.

“She always says that she gets her ‘mean eyes’ from her mom, because her mom would shoot her kids a look that would just make their hair stand on end,” says Michael Urie, who plays Wilhelmina’s flamboyant assistant, Marc St. James.

And then there is her voice: low-timbred, resonant, silky yet insistent.

“Midtown Nobu, please,” she says, strong-arming past Betty White’s stunt double into the backseat of a taxi. “You’re very rude!” says the double, dressed in an elaborate rain hat and poncho.

“And you’re wearing plastic,” Williams replies acidly.

“I’m going to be late!”

“And I’m going to get wet. I’m Wilhelmina Slater. I don’t get wet,” Williams says. She slams the specially rigged door on the woman’s hand and throws a ball of wadded bills at her, adding, “This should take care of it.”

Williams’s flair for putting the mean in Wilhelmina earned her an Emmy nomination last fall and added another line on a resume that already included R&B and pop artist, film star, and Broadway showstopper. In Ugly Betty, she brings intelligence, poise, and unapologetic assertiveness to the maddest of Wilhelmina’s machinations. It’s a rare combination that makes what could have been simply a cartoon villainess surprisingly human and, yes, even likable.

“It’s so much fun to play a strong, capable woman who isn’t an attorney in a suit or a doctor spouting medical jargon,” Williams says, restuffing her purse with fake dollar bills for the next take. “It’s great to be so broad. Usually you only get that in theater. When a director on Ugly Betty says, ‘Go bigger,’ it’s like, ‘Yeah, we’ll give you bigger!’”

At this stage of her two-decade career, bigger is definitely better. “I’m enjoying every moment,” she says. “In your 20s, you think, I’ve got to prove something. In your 40s, you don’t. You realize you don’t have control over everything. Many times I’ve said, ‘What is the lesson I’m learning?’ It always reveals itself.”

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Check out the red carpet photos from last night’s NAACP Awards and tell US who YOU think was the best and worst dressed!!

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