The president of one of the world’s largest tech firms made his debut this week on a huge Times Square billboard – but it’s not for some new product.

YaVaughnie Wilkins who had an eight-and-a-half year affair with the married President of Oracle software purchased at least three Manhattan billboards in an attempt to shame the man. She put up the ads after he stopped seeing her and reconciled with his wife.

Ads showing Charles Phillips posing with his mistress, with the quote “‘You are my soulmate forever!’ – cep” have been posted at the corners of 45th Street and Third Avenue, 49th Street and 7th Avenue, 52nd Street and Broadway – as well as locations in Atlanta and San Francisco.

The billboards include the web domain charlesphillipsandyavaughniewilkins.com, which is now down, but was a photo site comprised of “snaps of the duo vacationing, dancing, drinking and singing karaoke” as well as scans of “dozens of florists cards signed ‘Charles’ bearing messages like ‘I’m sorry, please forgive me’ and ‘We’re going to have a great life, stick with me.” See the photos below!

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Yesterday, Phillips’ publicist issued this statement on behalf of the 50-year-old software executive: “I had an 8½-year serious relationship with YaVaughnie Wilkins. My divorce proceedings began in 2008. The relationship with Ms. Wilkins has since ended and we both wish each other well.”

ClearChannel has refused to say who purchased the ads, but the tabloid estimates that the “very public humiliation campaign may have cost Wilkins upwards of $250,000.” The web designer who created the photo site claims Wilkins paid him “about $1,400″ in August, and he thought the site was supposed to be a gift for Phillips.

Read more at NY Daily News & Gothamist

You know the saying: Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

Did he get what he deserved? Or did she overreact?

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When someone that you’re sleeping with is giving you money, a fine line between “well-kept” and “prostitute” is drawn. Hey, we didn’t make the rules – that’s just how it works. So what happens when you have a Sugardaddy? Well, you’re technically “dating” him, but if he’s married, you’re his mistress. So you sleep with him, and he buys you things, or gives you money to buy things yourself. But wait – doesn’t sex + money = prostitution???

Confused yet? The Frisky tries to clear things up. Read the article below.

[From TheFrisky.com]

This weekend’s New York Times Sunday Magazine had a lengthy feature on SeekingArrangements.com, an online dating site which matches affluent men (or at least men willing to shill out what money they have) with women who are willing to trade companionship and often sex in exchange for money, gifts, and other perks. Half of these sugar daddies are married, while the vast majority of the sugar babies are in their ‘20s. The best news of all for these guys? Sugar babies outnumber sugar daddies 10 to 1. Brandon Wade, Seeking Arrangement’s 38-year-old founder and chief executive, says, “We stress that these relationships are mutually beneficial. We ask people to really think about what they want in a relationship and what they have to offer. That kind of upfront honesty is a good basis for any relationship.”

Some of these men – especially those shopping for women half their age – are digging deep into their pockets to pay for an illusion: that despite their receding hairlines and wattled skin, they’re still enchanting enough to charm pretty young women…. Men may use money as a way to buy themselves out of the normal obligations of romance, like accommodating a woman’s emotional needs as much as their own. But despite the power and security that the money buys, it can also undercut the very ego it’s intended to boost.

In those cases where sex occurs between the daddy and baby, some of the women say that an attraction is necessary, while others are quick to ‘fess up that if not for the lavish gifts and money, the relationship wouldn’t exist. “It would be nice not to have the money involved,” says B.K., one of the sugar daddies interviewed for the story. “You always wonder: would she still want to be with me even without the money? Does the money make me more attractive than I really am?”

To read the rest of this article, click here.

10 Signs You’re Just A Jumpoff

“Manville” is the segment of the Planet Abiola where I hang with the boys and try to shut my big mouth long enough to hear what men really think – kinda like on my VH1 show “Tough Love,” right? I really wanted to share this conversation with you because I had never heard of a “slide ho.”

My first thoughts were, come on my brothers, why are you sitting here degrading us? But my second thought was that we women usually never get to hear the truth (or at least this version of it) because when we react negatively, men shut up!

Check out this flashback convo – what do you think?

PART 1

PART 2

Were you aware of these terms? Ever been a slide? Comment here and get in touch on www.planetabiola.com, on www.twitter.com/abiolatv or www.youtube.com/planetabiola.

xo,
Abiola

10 Signs You’re Just A Jump Off

Why won’t she spend the night after sex?

Hey Kareem,

My babydaddy is married, but me and him still mess around. He thinks I don’t know that he is married. He never wears his ring around me, and one day he slipped up and had it on when I came to his job. I looked at his hand a second time, and it was off. He always tells me he still has feelings for me, and even though I try to shake him, I can’t. What should I do?
Kareem Says,

Sweetie, I think you need to stop sleeping with a married man. He clearly chose to be with someone else besides you. He may still have feelings for you, or feelings for your vagina, but eventually this is going to blow up and end badly – with either you, his wife, or your child being hurt by his infidelity. I think you need to call him out on his marriage. You are playing the dummy role by not acknowledging what is clearly in your face. Which is: HE IS MARRIED AND STILL LIKES TO KEEP YOU AS THE SIDE PIECE. YOU ARE EASY AND CONVENIENT.

Got a question for Kareem? Email him at Kareem.JenkinsNYC@gmail.com

Being the other woman sucks. See how Kareem solves another mistress’ problem here.

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Dear Kareem,

My husband left me for another woman 14 years ago. After being single for a few years, I met a man who said he was married, but separated. I was into him, but kept my distance because I didn’t want to be like my ex-husband’s mistress. Eventually he and I slept together to “get it out of our system,” but this turned into a routine thing and now he’s back together with his wife. I don’t want to admit to him that i have strong feelings for him at this point, but I do. Now, after chasing me for so long, he’s gone from sprung to not even calling me for lengthy periods. Why pursue me just to get back with your wife, disappear, then come back to me when you feel like it? He’s even told me he loves me once, but I never returned the sentiment. What do i do?

Kareem Says:

Sweetie, you are officially a mistress/other woman/side piece/Jump Off. He has gone back to his wife. Which means he is not separated any longer. Apparently, they have worked out their issues. You may have developed feelings, but you are playing second fiddle. If you are hoping that he is going to leave her and get with you, you are wasting your time and energy. He has had ample time to make a play for you.

It’s as simple as that! Do YOU have any relationship questions? Kareem will tell it to you straight. Email him your woes at Kareem.JenkinsNYC@gmail.com.

She then goes on to say “If he ever decides to leave her, know there will be someone else in the same spot you were when you hooked him.” If you want to share your view on infidelity join the conversation here.