On the Michael Baisen show, they set aside part of the show to talk about why men look to their mistresses to fulfill certain sexual desires his wife won’t touch. “Half the time, men don’t even ask the wife to do that freaky stuff!” Michael said. “They don’t bother, because they know they will get shut down.”

A few days later, I was watching a sermon on TV, by the first lady of a local church. She was talking about how she fulfilled her husband’s every need, as a good Christian wife should. She said (and I quote!), “I keep my man satisfied. I ask him, ‘How you do want it? Where do you want it? What position? I lay it on him so good, he can’t do nothing else but preach! ‘Cause I know there’s another woman waiting in the wings, but he’s too tired to go after her! He has no need for her!” As I heard the women in the audience give out their “Amen, sister!” I thought about it. Should women (and men) be willing to do whatever it takes to keep their partner happy in the bedroom?

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