In a respectful, loving way ask for what you want.
Make a clear, specific request about exactly what you want or need. Avoid criticisms and judgments such as, “You never do any housework! You’re lazy!” They’ll cause a man to feel either ashamed or angered, and neither result will help your cause.

Present the issue as a problem for which you need help.
But, remember: he is not the problem–getting the housework done is the problem. Allow your man to come up with options and make suggestions.

Leave room for new ideas and a full, honest conversation about housework and related issues.
Stay calm, be open and make yourself listen to him, even if you don’t agree with what he says.

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Example:

Last week, I finally decided to mention to my husband that the oil change light in my car was on. I told him it had been on for about a week and that he needed to take my car to get the oil changed after he got home from work. I’d watch the kids and make dinner and by the time he got back, dinner would be ready.

Now, I admit, when I got married I had some preconceived notions of how everything was supposed to go down. Who would cook dinner (me), who would wash the cars (him), who would do the kids’ hair (him…LOL). Getting the oil changed in the cars is CLEARLY one of those “man” things I expected him to do…

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