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While watching your buddy cry her eyes out over some unworthy jerk isn’t nearly as painful as getting the heave-ho yourself, it’s still difficult. Most of us want to help our BFFs through breakups, but what do you say? Or, more importantly, what shouldn’t you say?

1. Now is not the time to tell her how much you always hated him-but never bothered to tell her. Jennifer Kelton, CEO and founder of BadOnlineDates.com, had one pal who told her, “I have a friend who dated your ex years ago-and she had absolutely nothing nice to say about him.” When asked why she didn’t share this information earlier, her friend told her, “You seemed so happy.” Your job is to pass the Kleenex and buy the beer-not make her feel like an idiot for having dated him in the first place.

2. Even worse are the friends who remind you of every snippy thing you ever said about your ex. Carly S. went through this with one of her friends: “If you’re my friend, you’d better listen to me complain about boys and not throw it back in my face later!” Exactly. Sure, you may have complained about his snoring or eating beef jerky for breakfast, but there were plenty of other things you really liked about the big lug.

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I was just reading about a movie that came out last year called Breaking Upwards about a couple who decided to break up, BUT not really. The story is partly based on actual events between director/actor Daryl Wein and actress Zoe Lister-Jones, which definitely makes the storyline something to think about. The premise is that they decide that after four years of being together, it just wasn’t working as monogamous and they decide to slowly start to see other people while not actually “breaking up.” This intrigues me – even though my lack of relationship experience precedes me, the whole idea of being “in a relationship” means being loyal to each other, so I can’t imagine just going with the flow and having such an ambiguous relationship. Can “making the rules” to your own personal relationship actually work in real life?

Some things to consider about this type of relationship are:

1. Will you get jealous if your partner starts seeing someone else?

2. Does the “openness” or ambiguity make you uncomfortable?

3. Are you prepared to become monogamous or break-up if this situation goes in either direction?

While I don’t have the answers or examples to share of real-life application of this type of relationship, let’s consider the character Carrie Bradshaw in the movie that recently came out, Sex & The City 2. Carrie is a column writer for a living and actually writes about this exact topic in the movie, since her and her husband have decided to try something new in their relationship. At the beginning of this movie, her and her husband of two years, Big have been having some trouble accepting that it’s “just the two of us” with no baby in their future, although that’s by choice. While Carrie wants to go out and have fun, Big just wants to stay in and watch TV after coming home from work. With these conflicting lifestyles, Big suggests that they “make their own rules” in the relationship and have two nights a week where they stay in separate apartments and do what they want. While Carrie is hesitant at first, she decides that they should give it a try and at first it seems to work out. However, once they’ve done it once, Carrie starts to wonder if this is how their marriage will always be and panics. However, in the end, once they start to appreciate and miss each other, they decide to go back to living together and getting the “sparkle” back in their marriage.

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Despite “Breaking Upwards” being semi-fictional and Carrie Bradshaw’s situation being from a movie script, these same types of situations do happen in real life. I have a friend who was going out a guy for about two years before they decided to try “free love” and have an open relationship. Her boyfriend started seeing her friend on the side for a while, but in the end, they eventually became monogamous again. Since there was an understanding and limited jealousy, this situation worked for that moment in time (although they’ll no longer together today). What I’m trying to say is, it’s about the individual, the situation at hand, and the chemistry/trust in the relationship to begin with. It’s always possible for “making up the rules” to work, as long as both people are willing to try it and still put the same effort in the relationship to make it work. That’s what all relationships are about: always keep the communication open and anything is possible!

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Also, I hate the idea of showering, getting dressed, putting my lipstick on, and curling/flat ironing my hair to only have to reconstruct myself once again after a quick lay down. Now once in a while, I don’t mind but sex in the morning every day is a big fat no for me.

I would love your opinion on this ladies and fellas. Do you agree with me? How do you feel about sex in the morning? Do you feel “sexy” in the morning? Does the idea of sex at 6 or 7 am make you feel crunchy? I define “crunchy” as being “rough” or temporarily out of sorts.

So my 5 reasons for passing on the morning sex are….

1. I feel icky in the morning… Not sexy. I don’t mind kissing and hugging but full throttle poking is just not appealing when the crust is still clinging to my eyelids.

2. I’m still half sleep… It takes me a while to really wake up from a full night of sleep. My body feels numb and achy. I have no…To Read The Rest Visit YeahSheSaidIt

Are Single People Really Happier?

Summertime is when people begin to experience cabin fever and feel the need to feel free. It is also when a lot of couples experience the most stress in their relationship. One or both parties may feel cabin fever, as well as “relationship fever.” Suddenly, the idea of being cooped up with one person sounds exasperating and hot! Much less enticing as it did during the winter. Before you break up with your honey to either be single or have a summertime fling, check out a few reasons why being in a relationship during the summer is not as bad as you might think.

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1. No Need To Hunt In The Heat

You don’t have to worry about going out in a hot club or wherever you go looking for loving. You can have your honey just come on over for some hot fun in the summer time. Wink-Wink.

2. New Places To Explore

Summer is definitely the time to go out and explore new places. No one wants to do it alone! Activities like amusement Parks, water Parks and heading to the beach are much more fun when you have a honey by your side.

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3. Say Goodbye To Lonely Nights

If it is absolutely too hot to go out and you want to stay in and soak up the air conditioning, you can do so and not be lonely. Cuddle up with your honey and stay in. Avoid the heat and watch a movie.

4. Cheap Dates

Summer is also great because you do not have to spend as much money on entertainment during a date. You can easily go to the beach, have a picnic in the park, take a walk, or even hit up a cafe and sit on the patio. These are all affordable dates that would not be weather-friendly in the winter.

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Nowadays, lust has taken over for the creating of life because, usually, it’s not planned and/or expected between the individuals. The lack of protection and/or the lack of realizing the consequences have taken a giant step behind anything that would make sense. Oftentimes, this leads to a marriage of convenience (for the sake of the child and not because of love between the individuals involved) which, based on the reason for the union, ends up in divorce or extreme bitterness between the former ‘lovers’. So, the natural sequence has been broken up in the name of lust.

Some would say that some people just grow apart or just fall out of love. That may be the case in some situations, but when one is led down the path based on what is perceived as sexual gratification and not love for the other individual, the thought process becomes what it shouldn’t be, ESPECIALLY when the parties have no other chemistry between them. The drive between meeting lustful demands on both individuals, clouds the ‘feelings’ one has for the other and sometimes, vice versa.

Yes, being with a member of the opposite sex and enjoying the intimacy of that individual creates a feeling of togetherness not shared by others who are not. If we can get back to the intricacies of what love between 2 individuals is supposed to about, then maybe marriage will be a real institution instead of a convenience for the results of unbridled lust.

Stars not only broke up this year, they also hooked up! Take a look at some of the craziest, scandalous and sweetest celeb couples that hit it off this year!

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Check out these photos of TLC’s Chilli with boxing champ Floyd Mayweahter at a black-tie event at Charles Mathis’ Atlanta home last night. We hear that Chilli was prancing around with the athelete and even calling him “baby.” What ever happened to Larry Johnson???

The scoop is that the appearance was just for show and that the two are not really a couple. Remember, Chilli’s got a reality show she’s taping at the moment. Hmmm.

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We told you about the rumors that Jessica White tossed her T.O. obsession to the side for Sean Penn. We didn’t know if this swirl couple was legit but it seems like it might be! The two were spotted having a jolly ol’ time at Hotel Griffou. This is what people.com had to say about the sighting:

They were holding hands. They seemed really into each other,” a source says. “She was laying on him. She was laying on his shoulder. They were lounging around. He seemed really into her. They are together all the time. They are pretty serious together. She wants to get serious with him and it seems like he is really into her too.”

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Happily married Beyonce and Jay-Z were seen wandering around the streets of NYC late at night being all cuddly. It’s nice to see the couple show some affection since we never really see them act touchy-feely.

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Thanks to ybf.com for the photos!

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The folks over at ybf.com got the scoop on what really went down at Alonzo Mourning’s Summer Groove event. Apparently at the after party Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade didn’t want to be seen arriving together so took separate cars and made separate entrances,

Gabby didn’t want to show up with Dwyane, so before they entered the club, she decided to wait in the limo for 20 minutes.  D-Wade wanted to stroll in with Alonzo so that they wouldn’t be pictured together.

We’re wondering why Dwayne & Gabby won’t just come clean. Check out more photos from the party, including a drunken dancing Rocsi:

There’s been tons of speculation surrounding Gabrielle Union and the very much married Dwyane Wade. Is she pregnant? Does Dwyane’s wife want Gabby D-E-A-D? We’re not sure of all these rumors but we do know that the two were spotted together at Alonzo Mourning’s Summer Groove this weekend. Are they going public? Stay tuned to HB for more because we’re certain that something is going to go down soon…

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With all this divorce talk of late, we started thinking is marriage all its cracked up to be? Did you know that 50% of marriages in America end in divorce?

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Why do people rush into marriages?  If you’re considering getting married, you better be sure that your signficant other is really “the one.” Which poses the question, how long should you wait to get engaged?

Getting engaged is a big deal. It says you are ready to take the big plunge into life as a married couple. It doesn’t necessarily matter how long you have been together (though usually the longer the better), you will know when you are ready. This is one of the most important steps in your relationship and it should not be taken lightly.

With that in mind, here are two things you may want to consider before saying yes:

CONSIDER THE LENGTH OF TIME YOU HAVE BEEN WITH THE PERSON

People get married after knowing each other weeks and live happily ever after, but we all know that does not happen in our world. You should be with your significant other at least a year before getting engaged. At that point, the “infatuation stage” will wear off and his little annoyances will be on display. When this happens you will be able to see how you argue as a couple and how you resolve arguments.

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CONSIDER YOUR FINANCIAL SITUATION

Weddings are not cheap and money problems are one of the most common causes of arguments in a marriage. While finances should not be an excuse to not get married, you should never get into debt over a wedding. Once you know you’re getting engaged, you should start saving. Make sure you and your significant other are on the same page where you would like to be financially when married. If you are not yet there and are ok with waiting, it may not be the right time to get engaged.

So it looks like everyone was right about this rumor! People.com reports that Brad and Angie’s people are saying that the couple has not split up. Remember, they have been allegedly “fighting” a lot recently so maybe there might be more turmoil to come…

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RUMOR: Angelina Jolie & Brad Pitt Offically Split!

I thought this was highly unlikely when I found this story on the net but it looks like the couple actually may be headed for a permanent break up says showbizspy.com:

Brad has told pals that he “can’t take Angie’s volatile temper anymore” and recently met up with ex-wife Jennifer Aniston to seek advice.

Then get this, Angelina wants sole custody of the six (yes, six) kids and wants to pay Brad off with $90 million. If this is true then it looks like things are going to get really ugly…

Angelina thinks Brad is a brilliant father. But I think he is insulted and above all hurt that despite all he and Angelina have shared together and the children they’ve had, it’s coming down to money.

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For some reason Puff and Cassie need to still run around acting like they aren’t a couple even though we all know they are. Here they are seen going into and leaving Bar Deluxe last night!

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Sleep is the quintessential “me-time,” and most people know exactly what they need in order to get the best rest. Some people like nightlights, some people crank up the thermostat, and some people enjoy white noise. Personally, I need the room to be dark, quiet, and cool before I can fall asleep, with the bed linens carefully and neatly tucked around me. Therefore, it seems particularly cruel that fate has paired me with a bedmate that snores incessantly and tears off the covers.

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My partner and I have radically different sleep styles. I wake up every time he tosses and turns. We fight over space, usually shoving and elbowing each other all night. As much as I hate to admit it, I secretly look forward to the nights when he’s out of town, because only then can I get a peaceful night’s sleep. Sleep is far too precious and our nightly quarrels over who’s hogging the covers have become really stressful. It seems like some final, terrible relationship frontier, but I think we might be ready for separate bedrooms.

(From divinecaroline.com)

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Nick and Mariah celebrated their first year of marriage at Moon Nightclub in Las Vegas. People.com reports that Mariah apparently couldn’t hold it together when Nick presented a surprise video celebration of their marriage:

After the video was shown, Carey was seen crying.

“This is the most amazing person in the world,” Cannon said into the microphone about his wife. “I dedicate my life to her daily, and together this union is gonna last forever. She is my rock.”

Carey replied: “I have the best man in the whole wide world.”

Good for those two! Just don’t head down the rocky road that Kelis and Nas are heading down right now!

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Money is powerful, and it can become a real beast in a relationship! Money can cause severe marriage or relationship problems – especially if you don’t have enough.

According to Dr Judy Kuriansky, author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to a Healthy Relationship, money is one of the top three sources of tension between couples. Sex and raising kids are the other two. In her book, Dr Judy lists “12 routes to derailing on the money track.”

Read to tackle your money issues with your partner? Here we go…

1. Anniversaries, birthdays, and special occasions. If partners have different ideas on what a “reasonable” amount of money to spend on special occasions is, then this money issue could snowball into a marriage problem. Solving this money issue could involve finding ways to meet halfway. If you think $200 is reasonable for a birthday gift and he thinks $100 is, spend $150. Or, find non-monetary ways to celebrate special occasions – and learn how men and women view money differently.

2. Unemployment, layoffs, and pink slips. These financial issues that cause problems for couples because they also affect self-esteem, confidence levels, and emotional upsets (in addition to preventing you from achieving your financial goals). According to Dr Judy, solving this financial problem – and the resulting relationship difficulties – involves planning your expenses with regular discussions and adjusting your lifestyle.

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3. Promotions, financial windfalls, and salary increases. “Weathering windfalls can be just as much a source of stress as tumbling finances,” writes Dr Judy. “You’ll face practical discussions about what to do with the money.” Decide in advance how you’ll handle money matters and make financial decisions.

4. Children. Food, clothes, doctor’s bills, sports, entertainment, education, recreation - they’re all money issues that cause marriage problems and stop you from achieving your financial goals. Solving these money problems involves budgeting, teaching your kids how to earn they’re own money when they’re old enough, and having on-going discussions.

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Here in the states, couples rarely admit to sleeping in separate beds, but across the pond not only do one in five couples avoid sharing a bed, they claim it improves their sex lives, too. An article in the Daily Mail tells the story of engaged couple Laura Mason and Colin Byers, both of whom are 28 and have slept in separate beds four of the last five years they’ve lived together. Citing sleep incompatibility as the reason for their separate beds – his snoring and warm body temperature keep her awake at night – they say their relationship and sex life improved when they stopped sleeping together: “We are just as close as ever. In fact, as soon as we made the decision, our sex life improved. We’d had a great sex life in our first year together, but having no sleep was making us too tired and irritable to crave that intimacy.”

They realize their arrangement is unique and may cause others to raise their eyebrows. “It seems to be the antithesis of romance,” Laura admits, “and other people’s attitudes make us occasionally question our judgment-if we love each other, surely we should be able to sleep in each other’s arms.” But they insist that they’re every bit as romantic and affectionate as couples who share a bed. They hold hands, cuddle on the couch, and start the night in the same bed before they separate for a good night’s sleep. Before they made the decision to sleep separately, they say they were always tired, and snappy with each other as a result. “I am looking forward to a long, happy marriage to Laura,” Colin says. “We’ve just had to accept that we are not sleep compatible and make a rational decision about it. I really don’t care what other people think-this works for us.”

This seems fine and good for Laura and Colin, and they seem sincere in their need for adequate sleep, but when are separate beds the sign of a relationship that’s in trouble?

To find out, read the rest of this article at TheFrisky.com.

These two aren’t afraid of sleeping in the same bed!

Beyonce was spotted out and about this weekend, including going on a dinner date with Jay-Z! Check out the couple feeling lovey-dovey and actually acting like a real couple!

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Holy 1992! That’s Christina Milian and The Dream in 2009 with some afro-centric flashback threads. Is it too soon to be calling the late 80s/early 90s retro? Tell us what you think!

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Beyonce was spotted out with absolutely no make up on a lunch date with hubby Jay-Z. Take a look and tell us what you think!

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The very pregnant Kimora Lee Simmons has dropped a bomb on Djimon Hounsou. “You are not the father,” Kimora has revealed to her man. Djimon has not made a statement about Kimora’s secret but we’re sure he’s devestated after the couple’s commitment ceremony in Benin, Africa.

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A little too Maury Povich anyone? Will the couple make it? Tell us what you think!

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Nick Cannon whisked his wife off to Barbados for a surprise birthday getaway this weekend. Mariah Carey turned 39 and the couple will celebrate their one-year anniversary on April 8th.

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Maybe Diddy shouldn’t be tweeting invites to his after parties anymore. It’s been revealed that Diddy and Cassie were seen locking lips this weekend in Diddy’s Miami home. The party went on through the night and into the morning while DJ Felix played a special set for the Bad Boy.

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Despite controversy, ex-Spice Girl Melanie Brown is in full support of Disney’s new movie The Princess and the Frog. The star thinks the film should have been made ages ago and doesn’t mind that the Black princess is paired with a lighter skin-toned prince:

“We should be applauding interracial relationships and have more of an open mind. It’s brilliant. In this day and age, races are integrated – we have a Black president of America now – so it shouldn’t matter.”

Mel B is the first to speak on the interracial couple in the film but I’m sure many more African-American celebs will have a lot to say on this subject.

Read more of what Mel B has to say on digitalspy.com.

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