While surfing the web, I came across a chat board that posed the question whether women encourage men to be dogs? Blank stare. There were actually men who stood by this idea and argued it passionately.  He went on to say that when women dress seductively they are encouraging bad behavior from men. Of course I disagreed.  My first reaction was to wonder how in the hell can a woman encourage a man to be a dog? If it were that easy to encourage them to do something then more women would be encouraging men to be loyal to them. But then I thought about it more and realized that this situation is possible. However only in certain instances.

For instance, those women who know that the guy has a woman/wife and still gives him the time of the day when he approaches her. Sure, the majority of the blame falls on him for cheating on his girlfriend but at the same time the mistress must and I repeat must take some responsibility. Especially if she is fully aware of the fact that he has a woman and still decides to become involved with him.  Another situation would be where a woman is complacent about her man’s cheating rather than encouraging. She knows her man is cheating but stays with him

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Other than that, I cannot immediately think of a situation where a woman purposely encourages a man to be a dog. Sorry fellas. The bottom line is that we all have free will. We all were born with the little voice in our head that tells us the difference between right or wrong. Or at least we should. It is our decision whether we are going to listen to that voice. It would be no different from a woman who chooses to be a cheater or to use men for money. Even if she has had a negative past with men, the bottom line is that it ultimately is her decision how she is going to respond to those experiences. Is she going to allow those experiences to taint her?

So can a woman encourage a man to be a dog?  In certain circumstances, I would say yes. However overall I would answer hell no. No one can truly force anyone to behave in any way. Especially to sleep around. Remember fellas, we all have free will. There is no one to blame for whorish behavior besides you. The idea of someone “making” you be a whore is laughable.

What do you think? Can a woman encourage or provoke a man to be a dog?

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Keep your hands off my man! What woman has not either heard this from another woman or felt this way towards another woman? The alluring mistress has been a component of society since biblical days yet there never really has been a punishment geared towards the mistress. Sure, she might be judged harshly, or even have to face a fist fight with a crazy wife. However, there never has been a severe consequence that she would face. Unlike the husband who might face a divorce, loosing his wife and family and even half of his income. The mistress was usually free to slide into the distance, penalty free.  Well, homewreckers beware, because you might have to face legal repercussions for purposely spreading your legs to a married man.

In North Carolina, a woman has successfully sued her husband’s mistress for $9 million on ground  of  “severe emotional distress” triggered by their affair. Cynthia Shackelford, 60, used a law in her native state of North Carolina to bring a suit against Anne Lundquist, the lover whom she claims wrecked her 33-year marriage to husband Allan. Lundquist was charged with “allienation of affection” and ordered to pay by a court in Greensboro North Carolina.

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Alienation of affections was first codified as a tort by the New York state legislature in 1864, and similar legislation existed in many U.S. states in the late 19th and early 20th centuries. Since 1935, this tort has been abolished in 42 states. Alienation is, however, still recognized in Hawaii, Illinois, North Carolina, Mississippi, New Mexico, South Dakota, and Utah.

To succeed on an alienation claim, the plaintiff has to show that (1) the marriage entailed love between the spouses in some degree; (2) the spousal love was alienated and destroyed; and (3) defendant’s malicious conduct contributed to or caused the loss of affection. It is not necessary to show that the defendant set out to destroy the marital relationship, but only that he or she intentionally engaged in acts which would foreseeably impact on the marriage.

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I think this law should make a comeback. This might lead some women to take a second thought on dating a married man.   There are women who purposely seek out married man and ultimately break up a marriage. What would make this law even more justifiable is if the husband was also required to pay a fee as well on top of whatever he has to pay in spousal support etc.. To Read The Entire Article Go To YeahSheSaidIt

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Along with your New Years resolution to slim down or quit smoking, make sure you remember to drop that loser you’re dating (or to stop being that loser yourself), because did you know there are six different types of cheaters? Dr. Doug Weiss does. The president of the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy and founder of the counseling site SexAddict.com, explains that cheaters come in six varieties, so say “bye” to the Tiger Woods, Swizz Beatz, and Dwyane Wade’s of the world.

1. The Hero/Nice Guy Cheater
This is the person who “wants to help.” They want to rescue you, the damsel in distress, so to speak. This person wants to be a friend to you, talk about the your life, marriage, kids or job. The hero/nice guy’s adulterous heart is quick to praise you, quick to appreciate and quick to pick up on cues as to whether you are starting to trust them. They get excited when you trust them, because they are close to the kill. Even after sex, they want to be seen by the victim and themselves as a nice person.

“Heroes want a woman to tell them, ‘You’re wonderful,’” explains Dr. Weiss.

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2. The Hurt/Wounded Cheater
This man plays the victim role, i.e. their spouse doesn’t love them, appreciate them or have sex with them. This is the person who is looking for someone, anyone to help them in life. They are the person you feel sorry for. That is their way of reeling in their victims. They are constantly looking to be saved, helped or delivered from their circumstances or current bad marriage. They attack victims with their neediness.

“He manipulates women through pity,” says Dr. Weiss.

3. The Professional Cheater
This type of cheater is typically a man. He is not looking for love, nor does he care about the other person’s wants, needs or what they think of him. He wants to be serviced. He believes he is paying for the confidentiality of their sexual acts. This person tends to have stashes of cash that nobody is aware of. They want to look normal to themselves. They have the nice wife, kids and regular vacations, but they want to be bad when they want to be bad. They rationalize, “Nobody knows, nobody gets hurt.”

“They professional cheater is looking for anonymity above all,” Dr. Weiss says.

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