1. Your girls have your back every step of the way.
2. They’ll encourage you to do better when you need to.
3. Your friends make you laugh like no one else can.
4. Your friends are ready to council you out of your deepest despair.
5. They have a huge sense of possibility and remind you to try for the unimaginable.
6. You can always be yourself around your friends
7. They understand the different seasons of life, and how they necessitate different actions.
8. Your friends are the ultimate brain trust!
9. They’re some of the baddest women you know!
10. Simply put, they love you.

Aw, love you girls!

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How many times have you heard this from a female: “I don’t have many female friends.” I’ve heard this from so many women, said in so many different ways. But what do women really mean by this?

I will admit that that foolishness has left my lips before, but honestly, as I look back, it was a true moment of immaturity. Anyone that, including me, can make a statement like this had or has the intentions of portraying themselves a certain way around females to appeal to men. Let me break it down: all human beings have an aura about them. This aura either attracts or repels others. If you truly believe that females have a problem with you, for whatever reason, then more than likely they will. What I have found with women who readily say this foolishness is that they are:

1. Best friends with a guy, who is in a relationship, and calls you his “play sister.” The female friend a.k.a. “play sister” does not understand the boundaries of his girlfriend’s role and claims that the girlfriend is jealous of their friendly relationship. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want my man sharing any intimate conversations or activities with his so-called “play sister.” Because in reality, on average, brothers and sisters truly don’t hang tough like that. So why the hell would you and your “play sister” do the same thing?

I mean really… how many of you are calling up your biological brother to go to the club?Puh-lease! If you’re truly his “play sister,” call him up when you need some furniture moved or you need him to kick some dude’s ass for disrespecting you.

2. The insecure chick. They feel very threatened by confidant women and try to deflect their insecurities on other women by labeling them as ‘jealous’ or ‘catty.’ They have the tendency to not want attractive women around them because they fear that it will take the attention away from them. Again, they are the ones wanting to be the first and only desire of a man. So ladies, it really isn’t that you can’t get along with other women; it’s just that you want to hog all the attention.

Ladies, stop putting each other down for the sake of attracting men, in any type of way! It is a woman that will pick you up when a man drops you. It’s a woman that can relate to your feelings. Embrace one another! So the next time a female says this foolishness around you, run for dear life because you are bound to have some issues with this chick… oh – and don’t let her near your man!!

Mrs. Layla
Blackplanet.com/mrslayla

I can honestly say, hands down, I have the best group of friends. We have been through it all, from cheating on tests in school, sneaking out of the house in high school, and now raising our children together. But there is for some reason a new type of friend that has been plaguing me lately: the “girlfriend.”

I know what you are thinking: my friends are my “girlfriends.” Let me break it down for you. There are friends, and then there are friends who treat you like their boyfriends. You know exactly what I am talking about, ladies. The friend that genuinely gets angry when you don’t instantly return their phone calls, or acts as if you broke some type of law if you hang out without them. Their whole world surrounds you, and for the life of you, you can’t figure out how to shake this chick! I mean damn, do I have “help wanted” written across my chest?

Friends should not take all of your energy. You have to put some on reserve for your man when you deal with a “girlfriend” type of friend because you find yourself putting in the same amount of energy into your friendship as you would with your man. You make sure she doesn’t feel left out, so you are constantly calling to see if she wants to go with you. When she’s angry about something minor, you have to sit and listen to hear whine about why your neglect is affecting your friendship. Ugh… ew already.

I have experienced this so many times in my life that I have found the key to avoiding this whole unnecessary situation: keep the friends you have! No new friends. Put people in their categories. At the top are your hardcore “girls.” The friends who know you so well they can order food for you without even talking to you. Those friends you nurture and invest time and care into. Then there are your “friends” who you see on occasion. You don’t talk on a regular basis, but the love is there. If you had a party, they would get an invitation.

Finally, you have the associates you randomly see. They were invited to an affair that your “friend” invited them to. You interact with them only by random circumstances. Honestly, ladies, how many people do you need in your life? Don’t things get more complicated when you bring more people into your life? I don’t know about you, but I need people around me who can take some of the stress off my plate – not add to it.

Ladies, do you have some crazy “girlfriend” stories? Please share; we all need a good laugh. And, even better, we need to see the signs before they latch on!

Let’s talk!

Mrs. Layla
blackplanet.com/mrslayla